Tuesday, November 30, 2021

Queenscliff Day 4

Time to go home, but we need food first so the Bellarine Family gathered at precisely 10.45 at The Dunes in Ocean Grove before we hit the freeway home, after the oh so slow drive through Geelong. 

Myself and R, Ex Sis in Law and her husband (Mornington Peninsula), Sister and her daughter Jo and Fire Fighting Nephew and his daughter Little Ju were all there and it was quite nice, with nice views over the sea and great surrounds. FFN's wife was unwell and stayed home.

Three weeks earlier they had announced she was pregnant. He made a grandiose announcement at brunch that they were having twins. We were so excited for them but the wife cried all the way home from where the scan was taken. She is an event organiser and had also organised their lives for the next ten years. Twins weren't in the equation. She stayed home this day as she is suffering a lot of pain in her early pregnancy.

FFN's sister, Hippie Niece has the cafe latte coloured twins. Twins do run in the family. FFN told me twins come from the mother's side,  not his. It was not his doing and he should not accept blame. I said to him, surely you had something to do with it. He laughed. 

That's a short post. I'll go on and of course River trumped me with the announcement that her son is having twins.

The still crawling Little Ju came across Jo who was seated at the table. Little Ju stopped on the floor at the feet of Jo and stared up at Jo for at least two minutes. It was like she was trying to absorb something from Jo. I took photos. It was weird. Little Ju is the most wonderfully happy baby. 

It is some time since I have said much about Jo, my sister and her wife's daughter. She is fourteen and remains perfectly polite and friendly. She has no great desire to visit our place, the Tall House as she used to call it. Why would should she? Two old men out of touch with the culture of the young. But she doesn't mind our fast wifi connection and watching internet on the large screen or computer screen rather than her phone. Note: Jo did have  a brief uncommunicative period, but she seems to have passed that. Also she has expressed a desire for us to take her to see the Myer Christmas windows. 

She is interesting to observe. Her dress sense is unconventional. At times I think, that doesn't work but other times I think, that is not conventional but it works. I've recently noticed that while she doesn't wear conventional makeup, her lower eyelids are lined with a black subtle upward curve, or is her upper eyelids.

The first 6 or so years of her education were at government primary school, admittedly a very good one. She now travels in a bus for an hour each way to an excellent non religious Japanese owned private school. Within just two years she has developed a posh Australian private school girl accent. Along with being academically excellent, she is also very interested in performing arts and can sing and dance, play a little guitar and flute and will soon attend a huge scout jamboree, as she has before. She can write and has been minor published. Just today as I write, Sister posted a photo of her playing cricket at some club. I am surprised. Much to Sister's disappointment, Jo doesn't really like sports.

All that by the age of fourteen. She is also passionate about the environment and animal welfare. 

She still loves her Uncle R, and I suppose has some respect for Aunty Andrew.

She is way smarter than any of her family, including her own mother, but what she is yet to learn is how to speak to people on their level. FFN asked her about school and she talked about it in such a detailed manner and I as listener and  FFN both had very glazed eyes. We ill educated had no idea about what she was talking about.

The last time she was here, Sister said something about something that happened two weeks ago. Jo argued it was one week ago. Sister argued back. Eventually I said to Jo, does it matter? There are times to be accurate and pedantic when people  say something wrong. There are times when a minor point is not important. She replied, but I am right. She is perhaps with an unfortunate gene in common with Aunty Andrew. 

Sister's social skills are excellent. Sister was recently on a tv quiz show and performed well. A couple of days ago she was on ABC radio talking about public swimming pools and her desire to swim in every one of them in our state. Sister is friendly and outgoing and can talk to anyone in any situation quite naturally. 

It is a skill Jo has yet to learn but I am sure she will. I think of myself at fourteen and I was so way behind. 

16 comments:

  1. I suspect I am still a long way behind 14 year old Jo.
    I do hope that FFN's wife pain (physical and emotional) can be left behind.

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    1. EC, her pain is apparently very debilitating. She hated pregnancy the first time.

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  2. It can be tough to communicate with the young and that is if they're even interested. Good that she plans an event with you and R :)
    I have a great niece of 17 and she speaks in a very low voice and runs her words together and I have to pick out words that are intelligible o I can (sorta) converse with her.
    I thought it was Old Auntie and her hearing but Niece demanded last night that GN speak slowly, clearly and more loudly, please. I was so relieved as I am quite fond of her and didn't want to add hearing deficiency to my list of health woes.

    XO
    WWW

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    1. WWW, another great niece does that. She gabbles in a nonsense manner. As you describe was rather what Jo was doing. But you still love them the same.

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  3. You were travelling around the very prettiest parts of our lovely state - Geelong, the Bellarine Peninsula and along the Great Ocean Road. Even better, you have family beautifully located down there.

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    1. Hels, different to the Mornington Peninsula and I rather prefer The Bellarine as it is not so busy. I can't bring back the Mornington Peninsula of my youth.

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  4. Jo is doing well then, glad she does talk and her speaking skills will come eventually, some people have it and some don't.
    Twins again in the family, how lovely and life doesn't always go according to a plan.

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    1. Margaret, life not going to plan has hit FFN's wife hard. But she is a good mother and will deal with it.

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  5. I had a friend who attended some huge International Scout Jamboree (in Germany, I think). His name was Rupert Prince, but it was written as Prince Rupert; he had a wonderful time and was treated as a Guest of Honour. He said nothing!

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    1. Now you tell me Cro. I have set up my blog as Prince, Andrew. Oh, I see that being a problem now.

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  6. At fourteen I was still very much a child and not much has changed since then. Still, there's a place for all kinds and I'm okay with my place.
    Hopefully Jo will learn more social skills with time and gentle nudging from family. Unless she turns out like Sheldon Cooper from "The Big Bang Theory", watch a couple of episodes of Young Sheldon and see what I mean, he is another that talks above levels and always has to be right.

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    1. River, at times we do feel like children, but we aren't. I admire you for making your own decisions and not being dependant on anyone. I am sure R knows about Sheldon. I will ask him. Jo's social skills will improve by parental and school efforts.

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  7. She is the future of the world.

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  8. Your description of now ex little Jo, made me think of my own youth when I was forteen (100 yrs ago) It was an age where I tried my first high heels in 1957? and looked much older than I was. I as already tall 1.70 nearly my size of today (2cm more) the neighbor's boy teached me how to put up make up around my eyes, I loved to read and write a lot, but I still was on roller skates too ! We learned the first steps of Rock n Roll ! Sometimes I think the girls of today are more serious than I was !

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    1. Gattina, that is funny about your neighbour's boy teaching you eye makeup. Kids have to grow up quickly now in many ways although not as independents.

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