Tuesday, April 20, 2021

They are four years old

The café latte coloured twins, our great nieces turned four years old and we had a family celebration. Mother can't be anywhere before noon, so she was not there at 10.30 and turned up at 1.00 after everyone had left. She went on to the after party at Ex Sis in Law's. We were home by then, tired after social interaction. 

We were so well sheltered from a shower of rain that never happened. Hippie Niece's partner's family did the food catering and it was fantastic. There was much left over and R helped an unknown person carry it back her car while he was asked twenty questions. I've told him how to answer and cut short questions. "My (male) partner is E's brother, and we are the great uncles of the twins". No further curiosity needed. It can be so tiresome to explain this year in, year out, decade after decade. Or it could be phrased as, 'We are fucking gay, poofter, faggots. I've tried for fifty year to get pregnant from men but I've failed. I am sterile." What you do say and at times what you feel like saying. I wonder what it is like for childless straight couples? 

The gathering was held in a a not long finished and terrific park in a development so new, our sat nav just showed a blank grey screen. I would hope that as the developer did not place a train station there, at least the company had to pay for the park. 

While I was always the driver, my arthritis has stopped that and R who was so critical of my driving skills has discovered day to day driving is not so easy when you do it all the time. Should I return to driving, I have so much ammunition up my sleeve about his driving. Point scoring? Yes, because he is very unreasonable about my driving. Forty two years together and we still go on with such petty stuff.....well he does. I am pretty close to perfect, as you know well.

There was so much to amuse children in the park, including a water system whereby you wound a handle to pump water that fell onto to rocks and then a rough channel and then joined by another water flow device operated by just pushing an electric button. Between the the water sources there was a damming gate, and then another after the second water source and this one dammed more water. Then you could open the second sluice gate and let go the dammed water down to flood a rock bed and eventually run into channels in the sand and soak into sand. Adults kept kicking kiddies away as the water feature seemed to be for adults. 

The reed filled lake was a delight. I eventually saw the ducks I heard quacking away in a clear area of water.

Here are a few photos. I will delete personal photos in one day's time. 

Great Niece Little Em posing.



One Café Latte Twin undergoing torture by a face painter.



Looking out over the lake.


Looking back to the play area, with the big slide tower feature. The party was under the blue tents to your left.



This was brilliant and adults found it so interesting. So far as my musically uneducated ear could tell, it was in progressive tune.


Cakes, with savoury out of shot to the left. What a feast.


Ex Sis in Law's husband with his future son in law. R made the lad put on the flower head dress.



Little M pops out of the tower slide tube.



Little L has a spider face painting. 



Corellas annoyingly swooped and squawked around for a while before settling down to graze, or eat roots or whatever they do.
 

22 comments:

  1. Four years old??? How did that happen.
    And yes, the questions to straight and childless couples ARE intrusive. And persistent.
    It looks like a delightful day out - though I would have been v tired too.

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    1. EC, indeed how did that happen. Luckily in that time neither you nor I have aged one bit.

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  2. Our eldest daughter and SIL are childless by choice and loving it. They are on a years holiday around Australia. When they see the stress and money it costs her sister to run a family with kids not to mention only being able to go away in school holidays with everyone else with families.
    I'm not sure if they are questioned about it. I have trouble keeping up with your complicated family but I enjoy reading about them with your humour.

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    1. Thank you Diane. While I think it is wonderful thing to successfully raise children, there is no reason why a couple have to have their own children and ought not to be cross questioned about or slurred as former female 'barren' Prime Minister was.

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  3. Great shots Andrew and the water park amazing. I would be hooked.

    And oh yes, I always use the same stock answer when I am asked intrusive and personal questions:

    "Now why on earth would you need to know that?" with a puzzled smile.

    XO
    WWW

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    1. Thanks WWW. If it was an absolute stranger who you may not encounter again I might answer as you do, but when they friends of friends or families, you don't want to be seen as being rude.

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  4. Four years old already! I remember when they were born, wasn't that just last month? Ha Ha. They are adorable, every one of them. The cake display makes me wish I could reach in through my screen...
    The park looks like great place to play and I want one of those giant Xylophones in my garden.

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    1. River, it all kind of went very wrong after they were born and the first two to three years were pretty awful. The cakes were amazing. We could get together and alternate each note on the xylophone of Mary had a Little Lamb.

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  5. Sort of sound like my family gathering. But general we try not to discuss politics, religion, and sex. But it makes me uncomfortable when discuss money. They like keep all the little secret sweep under the rug. your little grand niece has an awsome smile.
    Coffee is on and stay safe

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    1. Dora, I suppose my family are generally on the same wavelength about politics, none are religious and sex not really relevant. That is private business. We don't really discuss money in front of each other, just gossip later. How did they afford that?

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  6. You Aussies do children's play areas so much better than we do in Europe. I particularly like the Xylophone.

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    1. Cro, perhaps we do. This was really one out of the box. The best I have seen.

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  7. You have the most amazing family get togethers. Can't believe the twins are 4 years old and they look gorgeous.

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    1. Marie, four years old indeed, but remember back to when Little M was born, and your Little Em.

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  8. I had never heard that for a child's in this case two children the whole family is invited except in Holland where we were invited to Toby's first birthdays. Now he prefers to invite his friends. I had always my friends for my birthday, maybe when I was a baby I celebrated with my parents, but no uncles, grandmas etc. Family gatherings are done when it suits to everybody or maybe when it is a special birthday like 50, 60 etc. and on funerals of course !

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    1. Gattina, it is just a reason for family to gather together. Our niece Jo is now 13 and there are no longer family celebrations for her birthday. We just go with the flow.

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  9. Neonates just lie there and pee, while 10 year olds are smart arses who need to be watched.

    Four year olds, on the other hand, are usually cute, interested in their adult family members, and want to learn about their world.

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    1. Hels, the good is that two great nieces and probably great nephew at interested in us. The twins, not the least bit. Sadly we barely exist for them.

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  10. Oh I'm glad I got to see the twins before you make them disappear Andrew, I can't believe they are four already, it doesn't seem that long ago you were telling us about their birth, rather adorable aren't they. Personally I would never even mention the question of children to either a straight or gay couple, it being absolutely none of my business, people can be so rude in their curiosity 😉

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    1. Grace, the arrival and subsequent growing of children really marks the years. It was an annoying question I was so often asked at work.

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  11. Looks like everyone had so much fun. The twins are adorable. And of course you are purrfect:)

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    1. Thank you Sandra. Just don't ask R about my perfection.

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