Last week, and similar happens often enough, I sat at an outdoor coffee table where there is table service and I was ignored by staff for about five minutes. The lad who eventually served me was perfunctory.
An attractive young blond long haired man with his attractive young female companion sat down and received immediate and very friendly waiter service. To ameliorate a little, my waiter was very nice when I went inside to pay.
I remember once reading, men don't really see woman as sexual beings once they are over 40. I see women above that age but perhaps not for the reason mentioned. Women are so interesting to watch in a non sexual manner. For me it is all about them and not what one part of me wonders about when I see men.
Maybe it happens a few years later, but a fifty year old gay men also become invisible to younger gay men.
I am not talking about a possible really personal connection but just a mental connection of some kind of respect or something like that.
But gay, straight, male or female, we all become invisible to younger people as we reach our older years. We have to be served but we are not young and attractive.
I am normally so organised with ensuring I have an adequate supply of wine, but I ran out tonight and crossed the road to buy a bottle. After I paid, for some reason I gave the attractive young man a wide and sincere smile as I said thank you, and lordy, I fell in love with him as he returned the same smile. It was such a nice moment.
Speaking to people with a smile on your face goes a long way.