Monday, September 07, 2020

Maudlin Monday

Friday night Ex Sis in Law's husband called R. They had a congenial chat and he wants our old sound bar that I was very doubtful about buying and I was proved right. It has a remote control and the bar sits under the tv with a large boom box speaker to sit behind us. The sound did not seem better than the tv and the sound from the boom box was deep and.........booming. We hated it. It is not often that I allow R to go off on such whims, but this was one time, $450 later. More money than sense comes to mind.

Anyway it is going to a good home, and when he finds out how useless it is, he will sell it on Ebay or Gumtree.

R then spoke to Ex Sis in Law and suddenly lock down stress got to him and he cracked up, but not for too long. I was worried about cracking up when I spoke to my doctor with my Telehealth phone call, but I kept it brief and business like. Poor R felt such shame as I tried to reassure him that it was ok to be emotional when your normal life has been stolen from you.

I doubt it is a coincidence that fifteen minutes after the phone call, Ex Sis in Law's son Fire Fighting Nephew sent us a message to ask if we would like to have a video chat with him, his wife and the their three week old Poppet the next day. 

We did on Saturday and it was nice. Poppet is one of those dream babies who feeds well, sleeps well and is calm, relaxed and rarely cries. 

Then Sunday night Hippie Niece video called with her twins. R was chuffed to receive the call. The twins have suddenly gained the ability to speak properly so no therapy needed. 

Meanwhile with a week to go to the end of lockdown, our Premier told us today that we will be locked down for two more weeks making it three more weeks. It is for the greater good and if it means we won't ever be locked down again, it is worth the price.

42 comments:

  1. Not maudlin at all. A sad reflection of reality for too many people. Hooray for video calling. I do hope that this long lockdown achieves its purpose. So much. I have been watching the numbers in your state anxiously, and am glad to see that they are going in the right direction.

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    1. EC, I also had a nice video call with the remaining Brother Friend in Thailand before sleeping. No one is watching the numbers more than us, and they while in the right direction, seem stubbornly high.

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  2. Tell R I cry a lot too, it's so very hard especially on us oldies who are not sure of the time remaining. I saw my beloved grandgirl at a distance today, she's just arrived and I cried in my car.

    did I say a lot? Yeah a lot.

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    1. Real men don't cry WWW, and for those of us of a certain age it is the case, except it is not.

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    2. Of course real men cry, real men who aren't afraid to show their emotional side.

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  3. I think I am holding up pretty well, in spite of all that I am going through. We have slightly more autonomy than you, but suddenly we are on the rise again and this is troubling.
    Most day I just feel tired. Today was one. Just so much to do.

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    1. Maribeth, things are so hard for you at the moment. Take care and just go through the process.

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  4. Bless Poppet's heart! Most parents would be delighted to simply have an easy, healthy and peaceful baby.

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    1. Hels, behind her back we call Poppet's mother The General. She is always so organised and good at organising other people. Hippie Niece said, wait until Poppet is born. But no problem.

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  5. Those flat tv don't have much sound with them, and less 24 hours after we got t.V we went and got a sound bar.

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    1. Dora, the early ones weren't good at all with sound. We had our first plugged into our sound system. But our current one is fine.

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  6. This bloody virus really is a pain. Thank goodness that people invented Skype and Zoom just when they were needed. The sound on our TV is dreadful, but we can't face changing it as the picture is so good.

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    1. Cro, the picture will be even better on a new one, along with the sound. As R says, shrouds don't have pockets.

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  7. "Anyway it is going to a good home, and when he finds out how useless it is, he will sell it on Ebay or Gumtree."

    Nice turn of phrase.

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    1. Kirk, look, they may well like it but for us, it just didn't work well. We don't watch films that require a deep bass as people are bombed or shot.

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  8. I agree the lockdowns are worth it, a necessary evil, but I know they are hard on people as social as you two are. I'm glad you got to video chat with family, I'm sure that helped a lot. My great nephew still needs speech therapy but I don't think he is getting it.

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    1. Thanks River. Perhaps Great Aunt should press the point about speech therapy.

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    2. His mother won't be told, big arguments if anyone says she isn't doing right.

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  9. Not a fan of sound bars myself, we don't have any we kept our sound system :).
    Ok to cry when you can't do what you normally do, would do R good in the long run.
    Wonderful you had video chats with family, always good to see someone else even though it be on webcam..

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    1. Margaret, it did seem to be a good thing for R to cry.
      It was nice that we had these chats. Oh dear. I better call Mother tomorrow.

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  10. I agree the lockdowns are worth it, a necessary evil, but I know they are hard on people as social as you two are. I'm glad you got to video chat with family, I'm sure that helped a lot. My great nephew still needs speech therapy but I don't think he is getting it.
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    1. Thank you FWC. While there are commercial links, your comment is genuine.

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    2. HEY! That's MY comment! Make your own you lazy bugger.

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  11. Oh yes that was a bit of ......did he just say that??
    We’ll get there in the end - hopefully. Today’s figures were good but less tests means less results so we’ll never really get to know.
    Give R an extra cuddle and let him rant and rave or curl up and sob. We all need a shoulder to cry on or throw things at:)
    I had someone ranting and raving at me this morning....I’ll tell you about it tomorrow

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    1. Cathy, of course we are in a good position. Like you should be somewhere way up north, we should be reminiscing about our winter holiday. It is selfish of us when some are suffering so badly, but we are fallible humans.

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  12. I could really flatten some of these whinging teens. It would do them good if the ABC could make a programme about Polio. To see kids in calipers, on crutches or in iron lungs and no vaccine. Then when two vaccines came out, they picked the wrong one because the good old USA had put so much money into it. Because the Polio virus shed from the bowel, needle in the arm didn't do much good but taken by mouth it did. Salk or Sabine, can't remember which we have now and too lazy to look it up.

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    1. Jah Teh, I agree with you about a tv piece on what polio was like, and about iron lungs but if it is on the ABC it will be be preaching to the converted. Young people will miss it entirely. I wasn't aware of the two different vaccines. I am sure we had the Salk vaccine orally. What was the one on the upper arm that left a scar?

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    2. That would be smallpox, I have the scar as do my three oldest children. The youngest doesn't because the doctor insisted there was no need as smallpox has been eradicated. I argued, but he wouldn't vaccinate. I'm currently reading a fiction novel where thieves have stolen a sealed vial of smallpox from a medical science facility and are threatening to use it to spread the disease. If that happens in real life, imagine the disaster!

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  13. Feel what we feel, find new ways to connect, it takes time, bloom where we are planted.

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    1. Wise words travel, but at times emotion overcomes wisdom.

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  14. Ugh. It's got to be hard living under lockdown for so long, and then to have it extended. I admire your ability to think in terms of the greater good!

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    1. Fairly simple Steve. We have to be locked down longer so that we are not locked down again.

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  15. I've been in lockdown only because of my knee, which seems better, but following doctors orders to do nothing til the MRI which is tomorrow morning. I'm hoping for fast healing. I can't beleive more people haven't gone nuts locked down. I'm glad you haven't, that's a good thing. Good riddance to the bad sound bar which likely will passed around once he rids himself of it until someone with sense tosses it.

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    1. Strayer, good that your knee seems to be better. Interestingly the suicide rate for this year remains the same as for the same period last year.

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  16. Andrew I could have cried when I saw the idiots in Melbourne who had a protest rally. How selfish they are. Honestly they should think of the families that have lost loved ones over this period! I love that your family rallied round when they suspected you guys might be struggling, family are the best! It's a shame R doesn't have a blog, he could vent his feelings on a sympathetic audience 😉 Anyway, thinking about and sending virtual hugs 💜

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    1. Grace, it is such selfish behaviour. Thank you.

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  17. You have an interesting family. Glad there was conversation among you. The hard part of a lockdown is not being to socialize.

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    1. Gigi, too interesting at times.

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  18. Now you go through what we have done for 3 months ! R. has a completely normal reaction ! For some people it is very hard to stay locked in. We have now the aftermath of the lockdown ! Lots of people need psychological help, feel not well, are very tired and emotional ! We all feel not really normal, because we still have to wear masks and so many things to get a little fun are cancelled !

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    1. Gattina, even when restrictions are lifted, it will take a long time before anything feels normal.

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  19. I have been really great with not getting out and about like we normally would. But last week I had a moment of $hit this is crazy I WANT to go out.
    Better to stay safe!!!
    My last uncle-in-law died last week and I would like to go to the funeral in Montreal for my cousin's sake. But with the cases rising in Quebec, old people at a funeral, having to drive 5 hours and staying in a hotel it doesn't feel right. She understands or so she says.

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    1. Jackie, even if there weren't restrictions, I would be reluctant to travel to an area with rising cases. I'm sure she does really understand.

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