Monday, August 10, 2020

Musical Monday

Here is a link to the lyrics of this very moving clip, moving if you were a young gay man in 60s, 70s, 80s and even the 90s. But the music clip tells the story. While it is not my direct experience, I get the fear, the self loathing, the lust in the wrong direction and the attraction and freedom to be yourself in a big city. As a nice enough neighbour said to us when we lived in the sticks in a unit and we were moving to Balaclava, you want to be among your own kind.

Bronski Beat with Small Town Boy. Haunting.

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  1. Definitely haunting. And sadly probably still true for many. Steps have been made, strides are needed.

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    1. EC, for Anglo Saxon young people, it is probably much better, but oh, those from immigrant communities. They are in an impossible situation at times.

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    1. Yes Gosia. It is a good song.

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  3. How lonely it can be. The stories I've heard. Many times the father supporting a gay child, the mother not accepting. I was one of those parents marching for rights in the 80s.

    XO
    WWW

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    1. WWW, I think fathers supporting and mothers not would be less common. Thank you for marching in the 80s. Every bit helped.

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  4. When The Cap Fits, Its Manpower - WoW - What A Banner - I So Remember This Tune But Never Saw The Video - Be Well Brother Man

    Big Hugs

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    1. Padre, I hadn't seen the video until recently either. Thanks.

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  5. A long time since I've heard that. Good song.

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    1. Cro, good song and technical production was good too.

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  6. Sure is haunting and rather touching too.

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  7. Yesterday I was listening to the young Lebanese lads beaten up by locals thugs on Sydney beaches many years ago. They used the same language of self doubt, fear and exclusion you used above. We humans can be very nasty :(

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    1. Hels, I'd like to hear that. Was it a download? I am not sure how we are at times good and at other times nasty.

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  8. Watched the clip and found it sad the father couldn't hug his son goodbye.

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    1. River, he paid him off with some guilt money.

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  9. I wouldn't want to live in a small town again, I wouldn't want to be single again.

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    1. Travel, same for me on both counts but especially living in a small town.

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  10. It was so for my step-son. Lived in the country, back in the day, not understood at all. College was a god-send as he was finally accepted for who he is!
    His Mum finally came around before her death, but his father never will. Says his son his dead to him.
    It's one of the things I hate about him.
    I am so glad that I connected with Jon and his partner. I am happy for them both.
    Getting to where they are now, was not easy for either of them.
    I cried during the song. Had never heard it.

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    1. Nice work Maribeth. Thank you. I held back my tears as I watched the song for the umpteenth time before knowing it will make a good post.

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  11. I know it's supposed to be sad, but I now wish that was my direct experience. Instead I stayed put and repressed my own desires for a very long time, and THAT'S sad.

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    1. Kirk. I think many did that and probably missed out on a lot. But then you also may have dodged a bullet and you are still here.

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  12. Oh, that's a fantastic song. I remember it well! I grew up in a rural area that was very gay-phobic, but fortunately my family was pretty open-minded and when I came out they all adapted fairly readily. This was in the mid-'80s, around the time of this song, and I was fortunate.

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    1. Steve, some of us had it better than so many.

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  13. The song and the album were very much my "late teens" soundtrack. It's been a few years since I listened to it, so thanks for the inspiration.

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    1. James, while it is a great song, it was the video that go to me.

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    2. Yeah the bad boy swimmer! To this day I've always had a thing for the bad boys!!!

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    3. Not that the swimmer was so attractive, but yes, I am the same. Bad boy rough trade works for me, and still does in my head at least.

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  14. Ignorance, and lack of empathy, cause so much unnecessary pain and suffering.

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    1. Lee, empathy is a big one for me. We need to strive for it.

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