Thursday, December 26, 2019

Assumptions

We all make them about people and we shouldn't. For your information if you don't already know my sister is married to a woman, Bone Doctor and Sister have a daughter Little Jo, who is biologically from my sister. How many over the years assumed Bone Doctor was a man? While she is now a general practitioner, specialising in sports medicine, she trained and practised as a....... I can't remember the word. She is is the go to person if you want your leg chopped off with a buzz saw, your ribs broken for a heart transplant or a chisel taken to your knee. She knows her stuff.

Within an internet group I am involved in one older chap referred to our State Minister for Public Transport as a he. I think Bone Doctor being assumed as a he is far more forgivable than assuming the sex of a Minister of Government.

Our current Minister for Public Transport in Victoria is Melissa Horne, a woman. Remembering back to the 1980s, we had a female public transport minister, the late Pauline Toner and many female public transport ministers since then. I met Ms Toner once and as government ministers are when you meet them, she was perfectly charming and nice.

2020 will be a year for me not making assumptions. Question yourself every time.

I'll just sneak in a photo of the twins on Christmas Day. One melted down as they were leaving but otherwise they behaved really well.



Happy Boxing Day, although I think if you are of Irish heritage, it is St Stephen's Day.

16 comments:

  1. Here, a general practitioner is simply a doctor who has had NO specialized training, and I don't think there are any of those left. Doctors who tend to see a wide variety of patients DO have advanced training, some as internists, and others as "family practice" doctors.

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    1. Snowy, it is much the same here. Bone Doctor decided for lifestyle reasons not proceed as what Cro correctly names below. But they often have areas they are interested in and Bone Doctor is interested sports and sports medicine. Not my GP, but another I see has as strong interest and knowledge of skin cancers, so that is who I go to for an annual skin check.

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  2. We do indeed all make assumptions. I try not to, and sometimes fail.
    The twins are cute - and if they only had one melt down were doing well. Rather better than some adults of my acquaintance.
    I am really glad your Christmas Day celebrations were good, and hope the continuing festivities today continue the trend.

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    1. EC, I think most of us try, and at times fail. For the first time I heard one of them speak, using the others name after Hey, and offering her a chocolate. I told R chocolates were not a good idea at 28 degrees and I was proved right. Yes, another good day today.

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  3. We all do make assumptions; it is simple to do; an unconscious thing to do. There are some who assume more often than they should; more often than others do.

    I'm not guiltless, of course. I am human (that may surpise some to learn that!)

    I do try my utmost not to assume...primarily, because that trait in others annoys the hell out of me...particularly when they incorrectly assume things about me!

    Littlies are allowed to have a melt-down. Heavens! Many adults do! :)

    Enjoy your Boxing Day, Andrew. :)

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    1. Lee, at times I have learnt the lesson not to make assumptions. Even today, a family dog's pup turned up at the family event brought by her owner. I assumed the dog was female. Not sure why, and I was wrong.

      No one melts down in my perfectly imagined world.

      I did enjoy the day.

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  4. Assumptions are quick and easy; thinking through a situation takes much more effort. eg I will happily give money and food to homeless people on the street, but if they have dirty hair, dirty fingernails and grubby tatts, I avoid eye contact and walk on.

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    1. Hels, snap, but we are being unfair in deciding the deserving poor and the undeserving poor. Once I gave a beggar $1 and he said, my hands are so dirty, just drop the coin please. They were.

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  5. Orthopedics? I like he and she; I really don't like some of the alternatives that are being suggested by silly students. And, yes, it's always best to try to attribute the right sex.

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    1. That's the word Cro. It just wouldn't come to me. Men are men and women are women and mostly there are reasons to distinguish between them, but nor should we make assumptions.

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  6. Aww, look at those two little ones, they're gorgeous. I seem to remember you saying once before Bone Doctor is surgically trained. Also you have referenced Little Jo's two mothers often enough for people to know what's what.

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    1. River, there was a time in my very early blogging days when someone, long stopped blogging or reading, said, I've been reading the name Bone Doctor for so long and I assumed it was a man who was your sister's partner. As you know people come and go in blogging life, so it is not a bad thing for them to learn quickly who is who, but it has been a while since I mentioned it outright. I do write of Little Jo's mothers.

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  7. One of the dictionaries has named "They" as a gender neutral pronoun as word of the year. As in, "they is a bone doctor." It sounds strange but avoids gender assumptions.

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    1. Travel, I just couldn't say that, nor write it.

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  8. You know what happens when one assumes - you make an ass of you and me!!!
    I do try not to make assumptions!
    Hopefully this link works!
    https://twitter.com/stormrosewriter/status/1209063771882360832/photo/1

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    1. Yes, the lack of commas can lead to an impression of incest.

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