Monday, November 18, 2019

Not Monday Mural

It isn't like I don't have any mural photos. I do. But I want to ask a question of you, dear readers.

I have always thought if someone comments on a blog post of mine, it is only polite to reply to their comment. It is quite time consuming though. Cathy has asked the same question, but I don't remember if there was a clear answer. Some people reply, some people don't. Grace in Perth explained with great sense in person as to why she doesn't at all as there is nothing say about what she posts. I disagree, but I appreciated her reasoning. Other people send personal emails.

There has been a few posts of mine of late where I not replied to anyone. There was really nothing to say and I guess I was time poor, but generally I do at least to the first comment someone makes. I like doing it but at times I would like to just reply to one or two comments and not all. Would that be terribly rude? Of course if you ask a question, I will answer, but if we are in simple agreement, do I need to reply? If you tell me you just really like something, do I need to reply? Will one reader feel slighted because I replied to someone else's comment but not hers?

When I comment on someone else's blog post, I don't always check back for a reply. Sometimes I remember much later, sometimes not at all.

I really don't know and your thoughts will be appreciated. I really don't know if I could not reply to all anyway.


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  1. I like to reply to each comment made on my blog posts. Not only because I believe it is good manners to do so...if someone has taken the time to read what I've written, and to comment thereon...I believe their response is worthy of one from me in return...as is a thank you from me for them doing so.

    I guess, like with everything...it's a personal choice. The choice is yours, Andrew. :)

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    1. An addendum...

      I usually only write one post a week...rarely more than one a week. My life is very quiet...by choice...and, even that being so, to write and post a blog every day would be too much for me...but that's just slack old me! :)

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    2. Lee agreed.

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    3. Lee and Hels, yes it is a bit more when you post daily, and of course I agree with you Lee. I see it as basic politeness.

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  2. If it's less than 10 comments (and so far it's ALWAYS been less than 10 comments) I answer back, even if it's only to say, thanks for commenting. Now, if I had 100 comments, as is usually the case with John Gray of Going Gently, then, no, I would answer only those that kind of stood out from the pack, and even then I might be choosy. Does that help?

    I should also note that I only post two or three times a week. If I posted every day, as you and John do, I'd have to maybe scale back on the answers.

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    1. I don't know how John manages to write and reply as much as he does. I don't think he reads my blog daily. I suppose his blog is where you or I came across each other.

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  3. I agree with Kirks comment today, as it would become a marathon task having to write a reply every day or to a great number of commenters. Do what makes you happy Andrew.

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  4. Andrew, I guess it's only right and polite to respond to comments if a blogger is lucky enough to get them. Although I know you are tempted to follow Grace from Perth who received 19 comments for her 'Horsing Around' post (3 images of a Store Front) but chose not to respond to any of those 19 comments. But that's just me, who's on yet another blog rest due to a lack of comments.

    I think that a Blog that doesn't interact with it's readers and commenters can become like a Forum, and it lacks that personal touch that High Riser has always had. So I would hope that you wont go that way.

    You mention that you often get 'Time Poor.' Well I don't think this will occur so much if you were to stop posting daily. I'm always curious why so many bloggers feel guilty when they miss a day and post nothing. I just don't get that. I would actually prefer you not to post every day then your life could maybe slow down a bit now that you're retired.
    To increase blogging when one is retired might not be so good.
    Believe me, I experienced 'Blog Burnout' in 2008 so I know how much bloggers are online if they're posting each day.
    Today I just opened my laptop after a week of it gathering dust. Lovely!
    It can take me 3 maybe 4 days to post up some of my London Museums and Art Gallery posts, only because I'm so fastidious. I suppose it's only a matter of time before I retire to my main blog Chrysalism, which would then free up more of my time.
    But if I decide on yet another blockbuster of a Christmas post on Chrysalism, then that will take me about 6 weeks, what with me running around London every few days.

    But regarding comments, I don't know what's more irritating, 2 and 3 word comments (because some simply don't have the time ) or the regular negative moaning minnie comments which I wont respond to... those annoying people who are always looking for the negative in a post, never the good.

    So yes, maybe the answer is less blogging as hard as you may find that, giving yourself more time to yourself as well as more time for us.

    They keep saying that before the internet that life was slower and more laid back. Well it can be if we don't commit ourselves daily to the addiction of the internet.

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    1. Dee, yes you are correct about posting daily, but I enjoy doing it. It's usually only a problem when we have a couple of social things to do with little time in between and I get behind. I then feel stressed.

      After blogging for 15 years, I don't think I will burn out. At times I do take a day off just to slow things down for myself.

      Your posts are works of art and I appreciate the effort that goes into them, but that is not my style.

      Sometimes I think people make a brief comment just to let you know they have read and appreciated what you have written, but can't find a lot to say.

      Me addicted to the internet? Oh yes, very much addicted.

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  5. Good point! Perhaps write 3 times a week and not daily.

    Personally speaking, I need a response. I don't mind if you say nothing more than "agreed" and I don't mind if you put all the agreeds together eg "Fred, Mate, Hels and Thingyme, I agree with you all". But people will often stop commenting if there isn't even the smallest acknowledgement.

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    1. Which could work in your favour for those who only comment negatively. Ignore them and don't reply until they just go away. Then you get to keep the goodies who make you smile.

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    2. Hels, I consider my blog is relatively successful for one without a theme and the way I churn out posts and I think personally replying is part of the reason.

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    3. River, I can't remember the last negative comment I received, although someone known well enough in blog circles tried to yesterday but it was on an old post, so up to me to approve it.

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  6. Go with what you are comfortable with gets my vote. Most of the time I don't check to see the reply and certainly won't be offended if I notice a no reply.
    I try to answer all the comments at my blog, but you are right, sometimes there's nothing to say and I really am stumped for a response.

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    1. Sandra, I can usually find a reply to comments easily enough. Btw, since you don't revisit, you won't read that I am halfway through your book and enjoying it.

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  7. I never comment on your trams. I have been waiting for a new computer chair so I can blog in comfort and answer comments but everyone knows that posts are infrequent according to the pain level. But if it's a comment from a first time visitor I do welcome them.

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    1. Jah Teh, why hasn't your nephew assembled it yet for you? You always seem to reply to a comment of mine on your blog with something cruel and cutting, and I go away and cry. :-P

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  8. One day "on", and one day "off" might be a good solution, Andrew. That frequency will give you more time and less stress :-)!

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    1. Jan, I was just thinking of you yesterday and I was going to email you about something but then I realised it wouldn't be that interesting, that is the office building between us and Oracle building where D sometimes worked is coming down. You see, not so interesting.

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  9. I have womder what is correct manners when come to blogging. I have wonder if I visit someone blog a few times, and they never come over to yours. I wonder if I offend them or there something wrong with me.
    And there only so much time in day...Coffee is on

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    1. Dora, that has happened to me, but I don't really visit new blogs now. It is hard enough keeping up with the blogs I do read.

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  10. I try to reply to every comment. My theory is that they've made the effort read my tripe, so at least I can acknowledge their thoughts!

    As for Dora's comment above. Many bloggers make their 'profile' unavailable, so trying to find their page is impossible.

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    1. Cro, you are a daily poster and manage very well. I suppose your posts are a bit shorter than many of mine.

      I wonder what the point of blogging is if your profile is unavailable?

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  11. I've been really good recently and acknowledged comments - yes it was a 'problem' for me at one time. I could see people weren't returning so it seemed like a wasted effort. Except (and don't laugh) if I comment on someone's blog I often pop back to see what 'they' said to me.
    So I decided it was fair to give as much as I take and do likewise.
    Plus I cut down my jabbering to 3 times a week which has been better than every other day.

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    1. Thanks Cathy. I did wonder. Note to self, must check for comment replies.

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  12. No problem either way. It's your blog.

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    1. Quite so Walt, but you do reply and I like that.

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  13. If you feel you don't need to reply to my comments that's fine with me. I'll just toss my head and mutter something about not being worthy, then I'll move on, because I don't really mean it and you might be too terribly busy or uninterested, which is all fine with me.

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    1. River, won't happen. I've known you way too long.

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  14. Unless I've asked a specific question I don't usually return to read the replies to my comments on other blogs.
    But I like to reply to all who comment on my blog and I always try to comment on their blog too because I find it polite to return the favour. If I comment on someone's blog 3, 4 or 5 times and they never comment on my blog I just give up as my time is also precious, I don't even blog daily as I just don't have the time. I certainly wouldn't worry if I don't get a reply Andrew as I know you also visit me :)

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    1. Sami, there are some blogs that I find so interesting that I read but rarely if ever comment and they never comment or even read mine if I do. That I don't mind. You are a VIP blogger in my mind.

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  15. You do what you have time to do.
    Personally if people visit my blog and leave a comment, I know they visited otherwise how would I know.
    Always like to reply if I can, once in awhile I have just put one comment to all but it's rare.
    Always come back to read reply from the blogs I leave a comment on as I do with my own.
    Sometimes I feel that there is nothing to reply but I still do, that's my choice.

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    1. You are a good blogger Margaret. I often forget to check back on your replies to my comments. It is thus when people post daily. I am better when people post less often.

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  16. It may take me a week, or a month, but I always respond. I wish I could do it more promptly, but sometimes the time isn't there. I love the interaction, so that's why I respond. There are plenty of bloggers who don't respond, and there's one I know that is so popular, she'd need a team to be able to answer all those people. Sometimes her responses are 200-300 a day! Most of us who visit you have been around for a while, so we're okay if you don't have time to respond. We know you love us.(lol) Hugs, RO

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    1. RO, that is extraordinary about the blogger you know. That's sweet.

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  17. I don't have a way to comment directly on my blog. That feature would be nice. I do try to comment via email to the person directly though.
    I enjoy reading your replies!

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    1. Ah Maribeth, I see. At least your blog works really well now for me.

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  18. One of my readers commented that if I replied more often, I might get more comments, so I started trying to reply to the majority of comments. Probably only 10% of the time, do I check back after I comment to see if there is a reply. I read who I read, not because of the replies to comments, but based on the content, and how often they post (the more often the better.) .

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    1. Travel, so I am well and truly in second league compared to John Gray. 😉

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  19. I have (mostly)very intelligent blog commenters and I always respond, good manners 'n all that. The odd time I will do a blanket response to all thanking everyone, but that is rare and when I'm pushed for time.

    I value each comment and the time it takes. If people are really rude (and some are, I can name at least 2) I don't respond but leave it standing to show others how abusive and argumentative these trollers can be.

    I follow more blogs if they interact with their readers. But there are a few that don't and that's OK.

    All in the eye of, etc.

    XO
    WWW

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    1. WWW, I consider I have similar commenters to yourself. I too have at odd times made a blanket response. I used to be of the mind to leave rude comments up, but I haven't received any for a while and now I would just delete them, rather that have your fave commenters try to defend you or whatever.

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  20. It takes me a long time to write my posts and although I don't reply to comments on them, I try to answer queries by email or more frequently when I write a comment on their blog. It makes me feel guilty not replying to every comment but I can only do what I can.

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    1. Marie, and as far as I can recall, and it has been a long time, that is what you have always done, and that is the standard you have set. Of course I know you will respond to any question via email as you are a polite person.

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  21. Do what feels right to you. I usually reply if the person asks a question. I never worry if someone replies to my comments as I don't ever check back!

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    1. Jackie, so you are not reading this then 😜

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  22. I ALWAYS check back for replies to my comments; I guess that makes me an interaction junkie :) I try to write interesting comments and appreciate a blogger who replies. I have found that there are very few bloggers who post every day (or even more) whose posts can sustain my interest. For those I comment on what moves me, because being superficial or rote in my comments is not my way.

    In the end, though, it's your blog and your decision, and you will attract the commenters who agree with the method you choose. Perhaps some of the rest will fall by the wayside, but the important thing is how you feel about it and how both posting and replying to comments fit into your life. This is not a job, certainly not a paying job, and it should bring joy and/or satisfaction to your days, not misery!

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    1. Jenny, me me me. I post every day, almost, and I think you at least look at each post. Yours is so easy. You post on Monday my time, next Monday I check for the comment from the week before. Never misery but it is when get overwhelmed by matters of internet.

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  23. I am definitely of the opinion that if someone takes the time to comment on my blog post it's only good manners to reply, and you know I have excellent manners Andrew 😉

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