Monday, April 08, 2019

Mother Brother Visit

Once again Mother walked all over us. To recap, ABI had to go to a near to us private hospital for a stage 1 skin melanoma removed. Mother told us she would like to stay a couple of nights here while he recovered. No Ma, we are going to Sydney but you can stay one night, so that is what happened.

By 10am ABI Brother's surgery had been done he was ready to pick up. I drove his car and picked him up at the hospital, with a stop off at a chemist and a bakery on the way. His car is a manual gear change. What a pain in the arse. After getting caught in bus for train substitution at Caulfield Station, we eventually reached the freeway. I had put my glasses on and checked his gear stick. Yes, there is a fifth gear. On the freeway at 100 km/h, ABI Brother said you have one more gear to go. Ah, sixth. That is nicer to drive.

Of course Mother always thinks these things through and catches us on our back feet. What we should have done is told ABI Brother to drive to the hospital from his place in the early morning. I would come and find his car and would would pick him up after his surgery, drive him home and then catch the train home.

There was absolutely no need for Mother to be here and stay, and she was a total pain in the arse, endlessly moaning, whinging and whining.

Take two. I would just take him home in our car and drive home myself. My mother has done our heads in.




30 comments:

  1. I go in a few weeks to my Dermatologist. Always a stressful thing, as I have had skin cancer before.
    Now, It looks like mother is a bit of an ace manipulator. So was mine. And she used that poor me thing to walk all over us.
    My sister, poor thing, lived less than a mile from her. I was 4 and a half hours. Less stress.
    Funny, she has been gone 6 years now and the bad stuff has sort of fallen away. I seem to recall some of the good things about her and times we spent.
    The mind is a glorious thing!

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    1. Maribeth, I hope when the time comes, she will be well remember and not like she is now.

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  2. Yikes, The Dynamics Of Family

    Be Well,
    Cheers

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  3. It seems it was a stressful day for all. Luckily it was just one day.

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    1. Sami, yes, all over by 2pm. Home and relaxed in blissful peace.

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  4. I don't know what to say. She's gone now, right? Open a bottle of wine and celebrate!

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  5. LOL! oh no! Parents can be the best or the worst...ugh! I hope you are recovering - and your brother! Annster's Domain

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    1. Annsterw, all is ok. Will call Brother later to check on him.

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  6. It seems lots of us have/had parents who were skilled manipulators.
    I hope Sydney was lovely and that your brother is recovering well.

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  7. Life just doesn't get any easier! Enjoy your trip to Sydney.

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    1. Marie, always enjoy a visit to Sydney.

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  8. You'll be prepared next time! My mother in law was very difficult and manipulative.

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    1. Cheryl, I think we thought that last time, but she beat us again.

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  9. Ah, that's a shame that things were so stressful. My mother is rather the same. I hope I'm not like that when I get to be that age. If. IF I get to be that age!

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    1. Yeah Jenny, if we live that long.

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  10. I'm determined to not be like that with my kids, so far so good and I hope I can keep it up.

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    1. River with a b, you seem pretty self sufficient and not needy.

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  11. I only drive manual...have always have done...when living in the city and in regional areas...and I've driven throughout Qld many times through the years and always manual...never automatic. Individual preference...as with most things. :)

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    1. Keeps the arthritis at bay in your left leg and arm perhaps Lee. Driving is hard enough without worrying about gears.

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    2. I doubt that very much, Andrew...I have arthritis in my hips.

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    3. Sorry Lee. I should be more caring and remember.

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  12. Oh my, sounds a bummer of a day for you..

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    1. Margaret, stressful and we both ended up ignoring Mother. She was at her worst.

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  13. Gosh I haven't driven a manual for ages, still could though, you never forget. Oh dear, sounds like mum drove you a wee bit nuts, imagine how ABI feels 😉

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    1. Grace, he just tunes out mostly. He has to concentrate hard on his own things to get by.

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  14. You always make me laugh when you write about your mother and I thank my lucky stars I don't have to deal with any of that crap anymore. Call me selfish...

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    1. Jackie, I suppose we are mindful that she won't be around for long, though R thinks she is good for ten years yet.

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