Monday, December 31, 2018

The year in review

It hasn't been all bad, but this year has pretty bad for us. I have some new blogmates. We had good brief visits to Sydney and Launceston, and a great holiday in South Africa, along with my Sister's wedding.

And look what came in our Christmas card handed out by Oldest Niece on Christmas Day, due July, her third and a sibling to Little M and Little Em.


But!

Mother decided she could no longer manage at home and without by your leave, moved in with ABI Brother. She has been slowly transferring many of her possessions to his house. What a shock she will get when he tells her he is selling the house to move into a retirement village.

Hippie Niece and her twin daughters are an ongoing issue.

Our long time friend died, who was a perfectly functioning 70 year old. He went into Cabrini Hospital with a diabetes related ulcer on his leg, and left dead, with total organ failure. Hels will not speak well of Cabrini and that was where my grandmother died, suffering because of nasty nuns until my mother spoke up for her.

Then there was my workmate's wife who we used to socialise with who died from MND at the age of 60. Her widower came across R at a tramstop recently, and R said his greeting hug was really needy. R was a bit emo about it. I have shed a tear with him at work, but then we man up.

Then one of our Brother Friends died after a long treatment for cancer. He was a quiet and unassuming person and it is hard to believe he has gone after knowing him for nearly forty years.

Our Dyke Friend's ex partner's father died, and then her own sister in Hobart died from an aggressive cancer just before Christmas.

Late Step Father's niece died from cancer in her early forties. She was the primary carer for her 80 plus year old mother. Step Father never liked this sister but loved his niece.

And then to top it all off just a week before Christmas, Copper Witch's mother dies. No, she did not pass over or pass on, she just died, because she was old.

As the saying goes, shite happens.

I have had a tear or two in my eyes when I have read some of your blog posts over the last year, but no one made me cry like this post by John Gray of Wales, who has had his own issues aplenty in the year past. While there are many who can rise above their backgrounds and the disadvantages they are born with, not all can. I hope the lad is still doing well some 22 years later.

https://disasterfilm.blogspot.com/2018/12/christmas-96.html

26 comments:

  1. Big Hugs Brother - Thank For The Perspectives - Wishing You All The Best In 2019 - Looking Forward To Many More Worldly Photos From Ya

    Cheers

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    1. Big hugs back to you Padre. I really enjoy reading about what you up to. You're a good guy.

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  2. I have wept some bitter tears this year. For and with people as well as for myself.
    And loved John Gray's post, both when I read it, and with this reminder.
    Here's to a year when the inevitable losses are balanced with rather a lot of joy.

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    1. EC, I am saddened to think you have had bad times yourself this year.

      John really wears his heart on his sleeve, and I like him for that.

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  3. A dreadful year for you both. 2019 has to be an improvement especially with the birth of a new baby in the family.

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    1. Marie, after two girls, fingers crossed for a boy, but the family does seem to produce girls, with nephew being an aberration.

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  4. 2017 was my bad year recently, so, 2018 was a lot better.
    As you say, there is good, there is bad and there is sad for the year 2018. I have hope that 2019 will be a kind year. One never knows.
    Happy New Year, Andrew, to you and R. I am so glad to have found you on the Web. You have brightened my world just by being in it!

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    1. Maribeth, I am always so happy to find American bloggers who break down our stereotypical views. I feel the same sentiments as you.

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  5. Not a happy year this year maybe next year will be better, I hope so for the both of us.

    Merle........

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    1. Merle, it must be hard to have your grands so far away, but at least you did get to see them this year. I am pleased to know you.

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  6. I realise that everyone who is born.. has to die. But why so young? Some of the beloved people you mentioned barely got to 60!!! Life is so unfair.

    Hoping 2019 is healthy and peaceful for you and yours.

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    1. Thanks Hels. Such good wishes are returned to you and Joe. You have continued to educate me and slap me down at times. I appreciate it.

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  7. This year has been full of highs and lows, I too really am glad to read your blog, sometimes comment and appreciate the time you take to respond. Hope 2019 is great for you and your family.

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    1. Thanks Cheryl for your comments and I appreciate them. I really hope you hang around. I know I have quite a lot of readers who don't comment, but it is good that you do.

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  8. Goodness; sounds like a year of disasters. Luckily I've only known one person who died this year, and he wasn't really a friend. I hope 2019 will be better for you; it could hardly get much worse! Best wishes.

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    1. To you and Lady Magnon too, Cro.

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  9. Congratulations on the news of future great-niece/nephew.
    A lot of tragic deaths in 2018 in your circle Andrew, hope 2019 is a lot better for you and R.

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    1. Sami, thanks, and thank you for our connection. 2019 will be an interesting year for us, but hopefully not interesting like the old Chinese curse.

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  10. A newcomer ! Congratulations ! You have a big family compared to us 5, lol ! The rest of our families live over 1000 km away and the others are all dead !

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    1. Gatinna, a big family must be good. Someone to push me around in a wheelchair when I am old.

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    2. Oh dear, what a year for deaths. Really enjoy reading your blog. Happy New Year.

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    3. Thanks James. I enjoy yours too of course

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  11. We were spared in 2018 from too many heartaches unlike some other years. Makes me worry about the upcoming year.
    Not sure who will push me around in a wheelchair!

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    1. Fortunately electric wheelchairs are pretty good now and even better by the time you need one.

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  12. 2018 was one of the biggest tests of my life. Glad to see the back of it

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    1. Marriage, or was that the year before, holiday, new car but otherwise a rough year for you.

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