Monday, January 15, 2018

New Chappies at work Pt 1

About five years ago, three new gay guys started at my work. One was a petite little cutie but also a stuck up pretentious twat. He has gone on to other areas. Another was extremely nice looking, and set up another gay workmate to fail and received a nice bit of compensation from the company. The third is still at my workplace and has become a friend, with whom we have socialised a couple of times and I am in regular contact with.

Over the past six months, four new gay guys have come to my work. Their age range is 30 to 50. The last of them is a tall, slim, dark and a little effem, perhaps a little ethereal. One transferred from another area in my employment and he has all the straight women hanging off his every word. I can see why. He pays them a lot of attention. Three of the four carry facial hair, one black, one red, one blondish red. One with Italian heritage is quite hot looking but oh, his voice is so loud and sounds like a cross cut saw in action.

They are all so different but they one thing in common aside from being gay and seemingly all nice people, they can talk, that is talk the leg off an iron pot. And they ask me about myself. The cynical me thinks they are just being nice. But I dunno, they seem so sincere, like they are genuinely interested.

Self protective old gay men like me are history. I concede, give it over to the younger out there gay men and women, and care for those who are maybe gay, but not so out there, and especially older gay men who are a little bewildered by modern gay life.

This is a little unfinished but a child has control of my desktop.

30 comments:

  1. I suspect they are interested. And why would they not be? Even in cyber space you come across as a very interesting person.

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    1. Thanks EC. They is a heavy cross to bear.

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  2. Sometimes I think younger gays see we older gays as historic curiosities.

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    1. Victor, there is quite a disconnect really. I feel nothing in common with most young gay men, and probably they with me.

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  3. Yes , I am afraid you are right , you are history....
    as I will be one day

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    1. I am being realistic, John. You are not.

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  4. I cannot tolerate stuck up pretentious twats of any gender or nationality.

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    1. Hels, a motherhood statement for most of us, and quite sound.

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  5. Pretentious twats may go heave themselves over yonder barbed wire fence.
    Tell em nothing, it'll only come back to bite you.

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  6. Isn't that so lovely, you said they all could talk! Don't often here people say that these days, so good on them.
    Don't like stuck up people at all regardless of who they are, to me it's unnecessary and usually comes with a chip on the persons shoulder.

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    1. Margaret, I am probably just envious that I don't have the ability to just gabble away about anything. You are right about the chip on the shoulder.

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  7. I can't stand stuck-up people, either. They never make it to my "social calendar". They interest me not.

    Pretty much, I keep my own counsel...telling people I don't class as friends; those I don't know well enough, and who don't know me well enough, little other than what I believe they should know about me. I don't quiz them unnecessarily, so I expect similar in return.

    I see nothing wrong with being protective of one's own self. Too often, if not, one can be betrayed by the thoughtlessness of others...and by their false belief in their own worth...if you know what I mean.

    This could turn into a rather lengthy response, if I don't stop now! lol

    PS....As for voices....Boy, oh, boy! Some voices (a lot) really get on my nerves! I know what you mean by "cross-cut saws"!! :)

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    1. Lee, I suppose a true and close friend is a confident, one with who you really share and is supportive. I've never had one.

      I think I can be too self protective for my own good at times. Perhaps it is a fear of rejection, although I care much less about that these days. We only have so much emotional energy to invest in people and it disappears quickly when you are disappointed by people.

      I'll be kind and say, I suppose people can't help their voices too much.

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  8. Perhaps they are really interested in 'old' gay times but it's hard to trust when you're from that age. Young gays don't realize how terrifying it was before it was decrimalized that talking to the wrong person could find you in Pentridge or beaten to a pulp by a couple of coppers in a dark alley. There is a lot of history my cousin could tell me but unless he started the conversation,I wouldn't ask, too many bad memories.
    I can understand you protecting yourself but I wish you could feel you could post those lovely photos of yourself in tutu, glitter and toe shoes. We'd all love to see you as your true self.

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    1. Jah Teh, rumours of me doing drag often are greatly exaggerated. I wasn't very good at it. I just chucked out a beautiful sarong last week. It would have fitted you ok.

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  9. I'm wondering how you knew they were gay. I lived next door to two ex-Parisian women (they're now both deceased) and for years it didn't click that they were lesbians. I must have lived a sheltered life.

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    1. Cro. I would have picked them easily enough, but I was told first. There are plenty of gays who you would never pick, like me!

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  10. I'm with Cro, unless women are a bit butch, or men are effeminate I wouldn't be able to know if someone was gay. Not that it matters, I would treat them all as "people".
    I do hate people who talk loud, specially on public transport...

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    1. Sami, there are so many different ways. Grooming just a bit too right. Nails perfect. Eyebrows perfectly shaped. But there are many who I and you will never pick. Well I might. Perhaps their eyes will linger half a second too long. Ok, that is a bit of past tense.

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  11. Seems to be a lot of gay guys all in one workplace. Are there any straight guys? What a shame about the cross-cut saw voice

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    1. River, there about 150 people. Straight guys aren't the minority yet, but we're working on it.

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  12. I had the same thought as River as I read your post Andrew. Are they all 'out' or are you making assumptions?
    The older I get the less I'm likely to 'provide information' about myself - I wouldn't call myself a private person but can't be bothered with all the questions about previous lives.
    Take care
    Cathy

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    1. Cathy, they are out there,no mistaking that. I know what you mean. It's just easier to say little.

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  13. I think they are being nice Andrew, because why wouldn't they be, you have the best sense of humour, which is an extremely attractive quality 😊

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    1. Thank you Grace. At times I surprise myself.

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  14. I am not even gay and in total shambles over modern life. I try to keep up a pretense of keeping up but then, in my own home, I can revert to bohemian old age shit. Do what I like, be me, listen to my oldster rocknroll!!! Loud as I want. Dance naked. Watch analog TV! Not answer dinging texts. The whole aging who the hell cares anymore jig. I love it!

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    1. Strayer, and then I guess we will get to the point where we no longer bother with the pretence. You love it, until your knee or other pain kicks in.

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  15. Andrew, a Sarong and you thought of me, how sweet. I'll re-wrap your Christmas present.

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    1. I feel a little apprehensive at the moment.

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