I have a Filipino workmate. I've known him a long time but we aren't friends. We just have a chat at times.
Once back in the days when I would participate in gay chat lines, yes Hels, IRC, I came across someone who was friendly and we chatted for a while and he then asked me where I worked. I normally don't say, but for some forgotten reason I did. He asked me if I knew A, a Filipino. Of course I did. The chat went back and forth and eventually I asked if A was properly gay. I am sure it wasn't phrased like that though. Oh yes, was the reply, he certainly is. Some time later, A's photo appeared in the gay press with a rather nice looking white guy while they were out at a venue.
A is tall, nice looking and seems to have a lot of Spanish blood, as some Filipinos do. He always had terrific thick black hair and the most modern styling of his hair, with a style and or colour change almost fortnightly. But something happened and suddenly the hair went flat and boring.
What happened, may you wonder. He married, a woman, and had children. He no longer pops a Christmas card in my work letter box, just as well because they always concluded with God Bless. Even in his old gay days, he was quite religious, a Catholic of course.
Recently I asked him his age. Straight guys are usually honest about their age. He told me an age which my mind quickly calculated to him starting at our workplace at about the age of ten. There is still a little bit of the gay about him. Does he have a bit of gay action on the side of his marriage? I don't know but so many I know do so, yet have a seemingly good marriage.
Being gay and being married and with children is a very Asian/Indian thing. It is not exclusively so though. Note the number of men at gay pick up parks etc with a child seat in the back of their car. We happened across such a place by chance in our western suburbs, and the number of cars there with child seats in the back was extraordinary. On recent holidays we came across another similar place at Batemens Bay, that is guys absent from their cars, somewhere in the bush and child seats in the back of their cars.