I had thought of putting photos of our new kitchen on my Face Book page for family to see, but I am not going to. It is not that I don't want to share the new kitchen or brag, but with Tradie Brother unemployed and after working so hard for so long and now seemingly not wanting to work, he doesn't have an excess of money. Later edit: He is now working again but as a contractor.
Ex Sis in Law and her husband, Tradie's Brother's ex wife, is now living in her son in law's father's garage (slightly better than a garage) after walking away from their business. I work hard enough, putting in long hours at work, but they have too. What is the difference? Later edit: They moved back into their home that they had rented out and have now sold it to cover debts.
R has always encouraged me to do something different, a different job. Experience new things. Meet new people, rather like he has done over the years. I haven't. I have stuck to the same job for 37 years and I plan to be there for another three to reach the symbolic 40, plus a few more months to take me into the next financial year that will help with the tax I will have to pay after I leave work. R wants me to stop work now, so that we can 'do things'. R is very set on spending his money and leaving nothing for anyone. I am very set on making sure I have enough money for my old age so that I can maintain my lifestyle once I am not working. While I don't really have savings, my superannuation is very good, thanks to the Victorian Cain Labor government in the early 1980s. No thanks to the evil Dictator Premier Kennett who offered me thirty pieces of silver to quit my super and go into a performance based fund. Many did and now regret doing so.
R tells me I can live on $30,000 a year. Umm, so if I can live in $30,000 a year, where does the rest of my wages go? To a smaller or greater degree over the last few years I have paid for many things for R and my goodness, haven't we spent money in the last few years with holidays, appliances, technology and household stuff.
If I retire as planned, I will be 61. I won't be able to receive the old age pension until I am 67. I have only seen a general preliminary advisor at my superannuation company and when I asked if I will have enough money to retire at the age of 61, she smiled and said in a knowing way, yes.
Worst case, we could sell the very valuable highrise and move to something more modest, but I feel like where I live now is the reward for my lifetime of work.
If you are in Ethiopia and starving but still have a mobile phone and can read this, yes, I don't expect you to waste too much time troubling over my issues.