Mother likes R's oldest sister. Mother once told R if his sister lived here in Australia, I think we would be friends. R's sister is very experienced in the care of old people. She knows all the right things to say and in a very natural manner. Mother wrote a lengthy letter to R's sister and included it with a Christmas card and R's sister wrote back to Mother. Goodness knows what was in the letter, but as Mother said, she lost it.
Mother often 'loses' things that may be inconvenient to her purposes.
Remember the week before Christmas when we wasted a whole day taking Mother to the local hospital for unnecessary tests, and the diagnosis was essentially, stress and anxiety? Not that these are minor matters, but in her case, they are.
R was and is mega annoyed with Mother and is on a path to treat her as we her children do, that is not putting up with her silliness and limiting her manipulation. With much glee this evening after R had taken Mother out today, Thursday, including a doctor's appointment, he told me that Mother told her doctor she had lost the letter from the hospital that she was supposed to give to him. Mother is clever in some ways. She has been known to steam open a doctor's letter and to study a specialist's file about herself when they was out of the room.
But the system beat her this time. Her doctor said, no problem Mrs C, they emailed the letter to me anyway. Yes!!! (I do now get how people punch the air) How we laughed.
After I had written the above, Mother convinced at least two of her gullible children to stump up for a visit to a gereantologist (that is the the best I can do to spell the word). Mother did not like the letter her doctor gave to her to give the aforementioned 'g' person and asked him to change it. He said, too late Mrs C, I have emailed it to her already.
Technology is beating Mother's life long manipulation of matters.