I was amused to watch a young man running for a tram, well more jogging. What really amused me is the young man jog to catch a tram is no faster than walking, but it looks like he is making an effort. Having noticed this once, I kept up my observations. It is quite true. Young men make an effort to speed up by jogging, but go no faster than walking.
A quite handsome lad left the tram. His mate stepped forward from near where I was sitting at the tram stop to greet him. They did this hand slap thing that I don't have a clue about and then did a man hug, which from what I observed is like an air kiss. They did not really touch each other when they hugged. They were trendy young straight men, and after observing them, I feel terribly terribly old and out of touch.
Somewhat reminds me of when we last saw Oldest Niece at my birthday lunch. She neither greeted me nor wished me happy birthday, but I was very pleased she, her partner and Little M came.
We saw them off at Tradie Brother's place. I am inclined to do the dutiful kiss of the cheek, that I had to do with great aunts and grandparents when I was a kid and now at times do with Mother. Oldest Niece seemed to reject the dutiful kiss and go for a quite strong and embracing hug goodbye.
My first straight man hug was from R's brother in law's sister's husband. I got it so wrong and felt embarrassed afterwards. There was no need to press cheek on cheek. I didn't really know what was happening.
Kiss on the lips or on the cheek? Hug or not and how tightly? High five or hand slap?
Right, here is what I feel comfortable doing. Men don't hug. They shake hands. If you make an effort to dominate with a hand shake, I won't like you but your grip should be firm. I simply do not like limp wristed, weak handshakes.
Women, a soft handshake on meeting, which is like fingers touching and not a firm man handshake. On departure, maybe a cheek kiss. If I kind of know you already, we go straight for the cheek kiss on meeting.
It is all so complex now. It used to be so simple. I feel so old. I would love to know how you similarly aged people deal with all this. River, do you kiss your children when you see them? Victor, how do you greet your friends? I could ask more of you by name, but the list would be long. Feel free to speak up regardless.
Alas, I am just too old to be a modern young hipster and know about all these things. Here is a gratuitous photo of hipster and Melbourne comedian and actor Ash Williams.