As I mentioned in a christmas post I think, Chainsaw Niece and her Maori partner turned up very early for christmas dinner. They had taken his sister to the airport and had to be up at 4am to do so. They were supposed to be here at noon for christmas dinner, but were here by 10.00. What to do? R had a lot of work to do in the kitchen. I took them out in my modest motor to Station Pier to see a cruise liner in dock and have a walk and a chat. Chainsaw Niece has been putting on weight and so decided to start jogging. She hurt her leg and two weeks later, it is not better. I did ask if she was ok to walk and she assured me she was, but I think R and I convinced her that two weeks was a long time for that sort of pain and she needed to see a doctor. I also told her to ask Bone Doctor at dinner later. It is BD's area of expertise. Not sure if she did.
It was a nice walk and chat. Sister getting married to her female partner was discussed among us, fishing too with significant input from her partner. They talked about a ship cruise next year. I will call her partner M, as he is Maori and it is the initial of his biblical name.
M was really nice on christmas day. He paid due respect to Mother. He was friendly to our christmas orphan Fijian Indian friend. Yes, all went very well. M and Chainsaw Niece were to visit Geelong the next day for M's family christmas celebration. Sister picked up on this and said what about us, Sister, Bone Doctor and Little Jo, meeting you at the water fun park where your family celebration is being held. Tickets were printed out on our printer and all was arranged.
It went ok for a while, until Chainsaw Niece left M for a bit to have some rides. She returned and M launched into a five minute swearing tirade about being left alone. Apparently he had some mates there who called him to join in with them. It was the worst possible language in front of children and was relentless. Sister guided all the children away while Bone Doctor observed. M eventually grabbed Chainsaw Niece's arm harshly and swung her around.
Umm, that does not sound like the perfectly nice and respectable bloke who was at our place the day before.
Sister was here today to see cricket and R looked after Little Jo. When I came home from work, R gave me a brief version out of ear shot of Little Jo, and later over a barbeque, Sister gave me the full version.
Chainsaw Niece has indicated before that M has anger management issues. She said no more than that. She is on a bad track with M. It will only get worse. I doubt she really loves him. She needs to get rid of him, but they live together in Tradie Brother's house. He is going to see family in New Zealand on New Year's Day.
Sister was going to call Tradie Brother for him to have a word and lock him out, to not return after his NZ sojourn. I advised Sister otherwise. Tradie Brother, as wonderful as he at times, drinks to much and might do something extreme. I suggested Sister call ex Sis in Law. Isn't advice better coming from your mum?
Chainsaw Niece sent a couple texts to Sister. One saying she was ok and not to worry, the second that she did not want to be with M but could not work out how to get out of it.
My niece deserves better. I so want to get busy sending texts and emails and making calls, and sorting it all out but I shall not. My wisdom about everything is in my head, and is not necessarily how things work I have learnt over many years that there may a point to intervene, but generally things sort themselves out. Chainsaw Niece needs to have a good talk to her mother, ex Sis in Law.
I, or we are right aren't we? Chainsaw Niece is on a road to nowhere with this bloke. I can't even imagine her pleading, but I love him.
Later edit: Sister has spoken to Chainsaw Niece's mum, Ex Sis in Law and ESiL said she would speak to Tradie Brother, her ex husband who is Chainsaw Niece's father about the matter. ESiL was already aware of issues and did not like the bloke.