Saturday, October 05, 2013

Family do's. Hard work.

Chainsaw/hippy Niece has turned 21. She and her dad, Tradie Brother hosted a party today. It was a wonderful daytime party that is no doubt continuing on into the night as I type. What I thought was a dress up box for kids turned out to be a dress up box for adults and there was much amusement as someone with a serious camera took photos of people holding up a picture frame in front of their faces.

Step Mother came down by train from the north of Victoria for the event. Unbeknownst to us, when we were in Canberra, she was nearby in Goulburn after visiting Sydney for her partner's grandson's wedding. A reception in Rose Bay and then a cruise around Sydney Harbour no less. Not bad for a lass who grew up in a humpy on the banks of the Darling River and only! had aboriginal children to play with. She also slipped in that she had been to Cairns.

What a contrast Step Mother is to Mother. I can't catch trains. I am too scared. Mother was always a train/tram/bus user when she was younger. Step Mother in her seventies still drives but chooses to use the train.

But Mother is in big trouble because the whole point of the party being mostly in the afternoon was to suit Mother who is not keen on being out at night. ABI Brother had to cricket umpire today and normally he would go to the party this evening and have a bit of fun and a drink and stay the night at Tradie Brother's.

But no, Mother manipulated everything to suit her. Tradie Brother who lives near Mother sleeps over at her place on Friday and Saturday nights. Mother feels scared and alone and very fearful of noises that young people make on weekends. She is not unjustified. She has suffered vandalism of her front fence, garden and mail box in the past at weekends.

Sister Bone Doctor and Little Jo attended the party and the plan was for us to pick up or drop off Mother and Sister would do the opposite. But then Mother realised ABI Brother would not stay with her on this Saturday night but stay at Tradie Brother's, and so she declined the party, the timing of which had been arranged to suit her and visit Hippy Niece the next day.

Hippy niece is rather annoyed at her sole surviving grandparent, and that is not a good thing. But in a way it is a bit unfair. Mother did not ask for an afternoon party. She would have attended an evening party, but then ABI Brother could not have a drink and would have to take home. That Mother would stay over is unthinkable. She won't even stay here.

Anyway, it was a great party and would have been even better if I wasn't the nominated driver.


Ness in middle niece and pregnant. I am reminded of Norman Lindsay's book The Cousin from Fiji where the withered and demented grandmother stood up at the dinner table and paraphrasing said about her granddaughter , 'Look at that girl. She is three months if she is a day'. No one else had noticed and Florence was mortified.

Should I wake R from his slumber as a result of excessive consumption of slushies? I want some dinner! Later, dinner was banana, crushed nuts and honey on toast. Perfect.

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  1. Hahaha!! LOVING the idea of adult slushies ... but the problem with alcohol that tastes like cordial is that it's WAAAAAY too easy to overindulge ... hope everyone's recovered by now!!!

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    1. I wouldn't know Red. I was the driver for the day .I must sort things better in the future.

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  2. So Mother missed the party and still had to spend the night alone because ABI brother stayed at Tradie brother's? So why not go to the party? silly mother to miss out just because it is inconvenient for her. Adult slushies, what a great idea, I may tell my T about them. They have quite a few barbies in the summer, I'm sure she'd do strawberry/champagne slushies.

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    1. River, that is the real point. ABI Bromissed the party because he slept as Mother's on Saturday night as she gets scared at weekends.

      Family supplied the slurpee machine. Otherwise they are about $350 to hire for a day. Outrageous. And then plus what you put into them.

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  3. Your family 'do's' sound a bit like mine Andrew, we have a few very awkward family members :) I can understand Mother being a wee bit nervous at night especially if she's had some funny business going on. Your dinnner that night sounds delish, have never tried that combination but so will now.. in my new kitchen :)))

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    1. Grace, I don't know when I first had that combo on toast, but it is nice.

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