Thursday, August 15, 2013

Spontaneity

The trouble with spontaneity is that while I have posts scheduled to publish to Sunday, I can't write about now. Of course I can. It is my blog and I can do what I like.

R works three days a week in a caring profession and gets paid a measly amount for it. But every so often he does volunteer caring profession work, that is take Mother out. We children don't allow her to do this to us, but she gets under R's skin. He alternates from feeling sorry for her and being very annoyed with her manipulative behaviour. Today it was lunch, bank, two supermarkets, newsagent and three chemists. Mother's shoes are seriously broken and R told the chemist lass to not let Mother leave without buying shoes. Ultimately it worked, with 100 odd shoes spread around, she did decide on pair. Oh, I can't afford them. Can I put them on laybuy? R paid, meaning I will pay. Half way along the way, she needed  the chemist lass to check her blood pressure. Your heart rate is a little low. Better see your Doctor. Mother is at the doctor's about twice a week.

Mother's doorbell seems to go off in the middle of the night when it is raining or damp. Bone Doctor reckons she imagines it. Tradie Brother installed a new doorbell and she hates it. It is too loud, she complains. I could put cotten wool in my ears and not hear the old one. R unsuccessfully tried logic and how good it was that Tradie Brother put in a new door bell for her, but she would not have a bar of it.

ABI Brother is now permanently staying at Mother's place overnight after the local murder. That cannot go on. He struggles enough with day to day, let alone having to do that.

What really has Mother freaked at the moment is her best friend and her experience. She lives a bit out of Dandenong and she went outside to have a cigarette and feed the possums at her outdoor heater. She was grabbed around the neck by a bloke who appeared from nowhere and told her his car had broken down. Fast of mind, she said, let us sit down and sort this out. He did sit down and kept muttering about his broken down car. He then picked up the poker that was at the side of the outdoor heater. She managed to back inside, slammed the door shut and locked it and ran down to her son at the back of the house. I know the layout of the house. Her son's back of the house reeks of dope but he chased the bloke off.

Mother's friend did not report it to the police, as she feared repercussion as the violator knows where she lives.

So the next time you read about about the reduction of crime in Victoria, do take a cynical view.


16 comments:

  1. bloody hell. Lately a lot of my girlfriends and I have been discussing how many murders, assaults, rape cases etc where women are being targeted. Not sure if it's just the media that has hyped things up but it seems that wherever you turn there's a dead lady in her home at the hands of some intruder/horrid person. Scary.

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    1. M, often think of such things when I am in our lift at home with a sole woman. Lift advice to women is to allow the man to enter first and let him push his floor button first. But are rapists polite and insist ladies first?

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  2. Nothing personal Andrew, but your mother needs a good swift kick up the bum. R is too nice to her. I'm sure there are reasons he is so nice to her, apart from the fact that he seems to be a nice person by nature.
    ABI brother must feel dreadfully trapped.

    On the other hand, it's dreadful that people of any age can no longer feel safe. It's not just media hype, or the increase in population - we lived in inner melbourne suburbs in the 60s and on hot nights never had any hesitation about leaving the front door open. Maybe there was still a sense of community in those days, whereas people [including your mum] are socially isolated now.

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    1. She does FC, but it is far too late. Tradie Brother said she needs to harden up. He has had success with that, not.

      She is quite irrational about the matter, but also not sensible in that she does open her front door readily during the day to whoever calls. R gave her a lecture about that.

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  3. Your mum sounds like a handful. It's interesting that R has so much patience with her. Her friend was very foolish to not report the assault.

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    1. Craig, R has needed patience for most of his working life in his job. His patience is exhausted when he gets home. I try to tell him, you giving Mother five hours of your time. What she does in that time is up to her, so don't worry about it.

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  4. Fast of mind indeed, to think that quickly after being grabbed.
    I'm glad your mum ended up with new shoes, one way or another. she's a bit of a trial but between you and R you're managing well. Hope ABI gets out a bit and isn't stuck there all day long.

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    1. River, I was very impressed with her. The guy was clearly drug affected, which could have gone either way.

      ABI Brother arrives at 9.30pm and then goes straight to work in the morning and then after work, back to his own home until 9.30. He really is only sleeping there.

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  5. Have just got up and checked my front door. Yes, it's locked.

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    1. River, with Adelaide's reputation, well you should.

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  6. God, that would be frightening, she really should have reported it :(
    Witnessed (from other side of 4 lane road)a bloke shove an older guy onto the footpath yesterday; was about to shout at him but then I heard the younger yell to the older, "You tried to grab my son, you f'kn dog, don't you come near my son again or I'll get you" and the other guy quickly scampered out of sight into the rail car park.
    Another child grabbing not reported :(

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    1. Maybe Jayne re the child grab, but it may not have been as it seemed. I have seen wild accusations thrown around before.

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  7. The crime rate is growing here also Andrew, I guess the bigger the city gets the more undesirables there are. Hope Mum actually wears her new shoes :))

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    1. Grace, R is convinced Mother will be on the phone to her friend to complain about her new shoes.

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  8. Someone tried to break into one of my client's houses whilst she was home, she didn't want to report it to police as they were busy! Gah. So yes, I'm very cynical about the crime rates.

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  9. Yes Fen, there is no doubt the stats are dodgy. It is sad that the person thought the police were too busy. Theft and house breaking is a serious crime.

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