Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Blame the other woman

I cannot believe what I am reading. Has the clock been turned back 40 years, when my own mother verbally laid into the woman in a public place on the street, the woman who went on to become my step mother? With both in their eighties now, they are pleasant to each other when they are at family get togethers.

This won't be meaningful to overseas people but Australians can't help but know about former Federal Government Minister Barnaby Joyce, his former staffer who became his lover and their child. He has left his wife Natalie.

Natalie has gone down the age old road of blaming 'the other woman', and not her husband. There was a danger I would show you minimal media snips and getting it out of context. I am putting larger snips. You be the judge.

Dearest woman. Your husband is never seduced by an evil, sex hungry power seeking woman. It is your husband's choice and his decision. Having said that, my god the male urges can be strong, but the sign of a good man is that he is able to control these lustful urges. (I am the last person to lecture anyone about that), but the point here is about blame. I've never blamed anyone else but myself for my indiscretions and nor has R for his.

From The Age.

After months of silence, Natalie Joyce, the estranged wife of the former deputy prime minister, has decided it's time to speak up about her "two-year" ordeal after her husband's affair and the birth of Sebastian.

In an interview appearing in July's Australian Women's Weekly – which Mrs Joyce and the publication are at pains to point out was unpaid – she's admitted to watching the infamous interview Barnaby Joyce and Vikki Campion gave to Channel Seven's Sunday Night program earlier this month in exchange for $150,000.
"It was all we could do to watch it without throwing a brick at the TV," Mrs Joyce said, calling the interview "an absolute disgrace".
And she places the blame squarely at the feet of Ms Campion.
"I wasn't surprised she sold their 'exclusive' story, and certainly not surprised the $150,000 went to her child, but it begs the question, if Barney agreed to be a part of it, how could he allow his four girls to be overlooked?

Tea with the Dames

While they weren't huge belly laughs, myself and R and the audience constantly giggled and laughed through most of the movie Tea with the Dames. It was very enjoyable and I've never known time when watching a movie to fly past so fast. Ok, it was a short movie.

It is not a movie as such, but more of a documentary about four English actors who have been granted Damehoods for their services to their crafts. They meet for a catch up every so often and this time it was filmed.

Everybody probably knows Dame Judi Dench. I adore her and I have seen her many tv shows and films over many years. Her late husband, Michael Williams, was also an actor. She is on the far right in the video still below.

Far left is Dame Maggie Smith, best known in recent years for Downton Manor and I believe Harry Potter.

Standing on the left we have not only a Dame but a Lady as well, Dame Joan Plowright, once Lady Olivier, wife of Sir Laurence Olivier. I remember her best in a movie from years ago called Drowning by Numbers, where three generations of women killed off their husbands. Somewhere Baroness comes into her titles too.

The last, standing on the right was not know to me at all by name. However, as soon as I saw Dame Eileen Atkins, I recognised her as the actor who plays Doc Martin's aunt in Doc Martin. She has been in many other shows too.

If you have the chance to see it, do so and I doubt you will regret it. Unlike many trailers, this one does not give much away.

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Marriage Poll

It is not something I thought about until recently, but what an odd thing it is for women to change their surnames when they get married. It just seems so possessive. I own you, you take my name. That's my opinion anyway.

While Oldest Niece is engaged to her partner of ten years, I doubt she will change her name when and if they marry. Their children have his surname.  Nephew's wife didn't change hers when they married. Ex Sis in Law did when she remarried, perhaps because she wanted to be rid of her former married name, my surname. Little Jo got both surnames of her mothers as a surname. It was supposed to be hyphen free, but I see a hyphen has been appearing of late.

Speaking of surnames, Hels' post on surnames was quite interesting. Extra interesting to see my surname in the post.

But here you go. You female readers, older or younger, would you now change your name and of course you are of the age when you first married? That's confusing. In 2018 society you are the age when you married.

The poll is anonymous but you can confess and rant in comments. Perhaps you still have the name of your former husband who you are not great friends with or even detest?

I am not sure if this poll will work, so if the post disappears, don't worry. I will try again.

Monday, June 18, 2018

What it is like to live with me

Look, this tv show has that woman on it, said I. R was perplexed.

There are many women in the world.

The boss one in the old people care facility place. She played a similar role in a comedy.

Err, yes, you are right.


R then replied, Moving On, that was the name.

I googled. No not Moving On, although I am reminded what a great tv series that was. R, that British comedian woman was in it. The one who was on what's his name's show. (I meant Stephen Fry but I could not think of his or her name or even the name of the show, QI).

A minute passed.

Jo Brand.

You've got it now. You were close dearest. It was Getting On, not Moving On. Did you know before Jo Brand entered the entertainment business, she was actually a psych nurse.


Doesn't that bloke in the show look like the Australian actor Lucky Grills?

Maybe not really.

There was no reply. I left him in peace with the Shakespeare and Hathaway, which I am half watching.

OMG, Doc Martin's wife in the show too. Later I worked out Louisa's real name is Caroline Catz.

And she who began it all, a very fine and restrained actor, Vicki Pepperdine.

Sunday, June 17, 2018

Revisiting Docklands

Melbourne's Docklands redevelopment has generally been seen as a failure. Even the optimistic proponents suggest it will take a decade or more to come together. I first heard that about a decade ago, and it hasn't happened yet. You can make cities and towns and do them well, rather than allowing them to naturally grow, but neither has happened here.

The main problem was the almost carte blanche given to property developers. I suppose there was an overall plan, but you wouldn't know it. It is transforming over the years though, from an open windswept place to to a series of wind tunnels around buildings. There are so many new towers since I was last there and took any notice.

It is sometimes referred to as Divorcelands, where men who broken up with their partner go to live the high life. At other times it is referred to by another name, .....lands, that rhymes with dock.

Of the few apartments we have looked at there, they seem to be very small and the buildings like rabbit warrens.

No, not good value at all. The developers are holding the prices high for new apartments and sales off the plan*, but as soon as the new owner settles the money for property, they find it is not at all worth what they paid for it.

I think people have moved into this one, but there are still some finishing touches happening.

Diagonally opposite the shopping precinct known as Waterfront City that doesn't have a waterfront, a new park has been built. Not a bad effort.

The observation wheel behind Waterfront City.

Ah, but whoever is not as generous as it or they may seem. The new park is actually the roof of an underground car park.

Did you hear about our earthquake, disastrous for this building.

The developer must have liked the idea of a variation on London's Walkie Talkie building. I hope care was taken to not let the building (good read) fry things at ground level

There is quite a bit of public art, but I think it is a little like putting lipstick on a pig.

I am not convinced we are in the bush.

I can't remember why we went to Waterfront City but we found a very good deal on a small suitcase to use for one or two nights away. It has already been to Sydney. These animals are, I forget the word, but they move, not animated, is it animatronics?

Three times tram tracks have been moved at Docklands, no doubt to suit developers. I kind of like the old disconnected tracks remaining.

As a tram approaches these lamps in the bollards light red to warn pedestrians to look out.

The studios of television Channel 7, Melbourne.

I have no patience with commercial names for sporting venues. It is Docklands Stadium to me. It's been Telstra Dome, something else and is now Etihad (Airlines) Stadium. It rather divides the city proper from Docklands.

These have been here for a long time.

Is that colour menopausal mauve? The tent like sculptures are new to me.

One of Melbourne's ultra sleek and modern trams.

Here comes my tram. The free City Circle route provided by these around 70 year old W trams, is like a Q instead of a circle, with the tail of the Q being Docklands. God, I'd forgotten how noisy they are inside, and out.

* Off the plan means buying before the building is built and saving money in theory as you only pay State Government stamp duty, that is a tax applied to the purchase of a home, on the land, not what will be built there later. There are exemptions for old people downsizing, help for some if it is their first home and I think now overseas buyers pay higher stamp duty.