Tuesday, August 04, 2020

Mother!

It's been a while since I have recounted a Mother story. She insisted on a 120 day settlement period for her house, which probably will suit the property developer buyers anyway. She is so determined to have this last garage sale. We will know on the 14th of this month whether their financing of the purchase is ok and the conditional sale will go ahead. The buyers must then pay the balance of the non refundable 5% deposit.

I called Mother a couple of days ago and she couldn't hear me on the phone. She said I will call you back when ABI Brother is home and he can turn on the speaker on the phone. I can't believe he hasn't shown her the speaker button already.

Several months ago after numerous attempts by her doctor and his nursing staff to clear her right ear of wax, she went to a specialist woman who really knew what she was doing and although the cost was $80, her ear was cleared.

The wax has built up again but because of COVID she is reluctant to return to the specialist and again her doctor and his nurses can't clear her ear. She is effectively deaf in one ear and so can no longer hear on the telephone.

But wait. I know what you are thinking. Doesn't she have two ears? Yes and her other ear is fine, but that is not her telephone ear. Only her right (blocked) ear works for the telephone. For some reason it is impossible for her to hold the telephone to her left ear.


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  1. Oh gawd, I think I might be getting as ornery as her.
    In the car today, me driving:
    "Why aren't you taking the short cut to the cafe Mum?"
    "Because I'm used to the long way."

    XO
    WWW

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  2. I can understand that. I just practised holding the phone to my left ear and it felt so wrong.

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    1. EC, yeah, but you can manage.

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  3. Property developers with uncertain finances - that's a bit unusual. Fingers crossed all goes well. With this week's developments especially!

    Having spent my working life with phone to left ear and pen/pencil in right (couldn't use headphones contraption) I do it automatically. These days I'll pick up with my right but it gets transferred to left.....pen or no pen.

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    1. Cathy, they are being ultra cautious because of COVID. Ingrained habit by you, but the sound of it.

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  4. I think if she's right handed the right ear would be most comfortable for her when she holds the phone. Six weeks is usually the time from deposit to settlement here.

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    1. Cheryl, comfortable yes, but not impossible to use your other ear.

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  5. It really isn't much fun growing older. And, each one of us get used to doing things one way...a way that is comfortable to the individual. Change becomes more difficult as one grows older.

    Your mum's reluctance to visit a doctor is understandable during these uncertain,troubling times. I hope she remains well.

    Take care. :)

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    1. Lee, it isn't and I am only on the cusp of it. My mother is not very flexible in her actions.

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  6. It's called 'selective hearing' Andrew, my late Mother in Law perfected the condition.

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    1. Cro, you had a stereotypical mother in law?

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  7. Thanx For The Update - The Process Of Aging, Damn It - Stay Happy And Healthy Brother Man

    Cheers

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  8. Last Saturday night we had the usual zoom session with all our friends, couples we have known since high school. I knew all their mums and dads, still vigorous young families at the time. Of the 8 couples in the social discussions, 15 parents had passed away and one mother was in lockdown in a care home. It was inevitable, I suppose, but so sad.

    Love your mum up, while you can.

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    1. Hels, I truly don't know what to say, but thanks.

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  9. Bless your mum, can't use the other ear at all! Not normal I expect for your mum. Change is certainly not available. Ear wax does get stubborn at times, and so easily fixed by the Specialist when so stubborn.
    Hope all goes well with the house.
    Take care.

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    1. Margaret, I guess she will have the wax removed by the specialist at some point.

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  10. There are drops you can get from chemist shops to help clear the ear wax.
    I always hold my phone to my left ear, not because the hearing is better, but because it feel awkward on my right ear in my right hand.

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    1. River, she has done all that and it hasn't worked. I am a right ear phone holder but I can use my left ear.

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  11. Bit of déjà vu here. My daughter had the same conversation with me yesterday. I'm reluctant to go to the doctor's for something as trivial as having my ears syringed.

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    1. Marie, perhaps not hearing can be good at times?

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  12. Lifelong habits are hard to change, not her phone ear, makes sense to me.

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    1. Travel, she is just being difficult. Habits yes, I get that, but there is no reason why she can't use her other ear for a phone call.

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  13. Oh that made me smile Andrew, not the wax in the ear that's not fun, but the telephone ear. I remember my mum had a telephone voice and I bet she wasn't/isn't the only one. We daughters would have such a chuckle listening to her on the phone 😁 Hope the last garage sale goes well.

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    1. Grace, my stepmother had a telephone voice. Very proper she was.

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  14. Aging is no fun, but having an aging and stubborn parent is no lark either :) (my mom is 90 and stubborn)

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    1. Yeah Jenny, I know. Worse for you, I also know.

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  15. LOL, that is quite funny that she won't change the phone to the other ear. Oldies...
    Good luck with the garage sale.

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    1. Sami, while I have a favourite ear, I can use my other one.

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  16. I don't hold the cell to my ear. Know several folks who haven't gotten ear into brain tumors that way--the radiation, including the neighbor ex, who died of it, and my one brother's mother in law, tumors in both ears. Doctor told her no more cell phone to ear.

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    1. Strayer, while I am usually a little cynical about such things, I feel there may well be something in this.

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