There was a story on last night's commercial tv news about 'spending the kids inheritance'. It hasn't gone to air as I type. It was a promotion.
I remarked to R what a trite saying it had become and it isn't the kids inheritance until they receive it. It is their parents money. The inheritance is what is left over.
R mentioned that he jokingly said the phrase to Sister, who sour faced turned around and said no, that's not what you do. After R told me about this, I stepped out onto the balcony and had a fit of the giggles.
I came back in and said to R, remember the old American tv shows where the family would sit around a large table in the solicitor's (lawyer) office and the will would be read. It is a bit topical as Ex Sis in Law sent a message asking if we, the apparently rich ex gay brothers' in law, could lend her $200. We did, as Hippie Niece spent money for shopping on rubbish and perhaps going out. Ex Sis in Law and her husband had been away for the weekend in their newly bought second hand caravan. Hippie Niece has now been admitted to a private psychiatric hospital for 'adjustment to her medications'. Do you see a systemic problem? Ex Sis in Law with no money. Her daughter Hippie Niece with no money, yet they live better than we do.
Anyway whoever dies first, thinking about this made me laugh and R did too when I reminded him about the old tv shows where the will was read out.
The solicitor speaks: 'While Andrew and R lived a good life and they weren't spendthrifts they did however travel a lot in their later years and at the points of their deaths, they were almost entirely reliant on the government pension. As you would imagine, their home is worth quite a lot of money and while I said they were mostly reliant on the government pension, I have discovered that their apartment has been reverse mortgaged to fund their lifestyles and once the bank takes it share and costs from the sale of the apartment, there may only be a few hundred dollars for each beneficiary of the will'.
I can just imagine the crestfallen looks around the table.
It would be almost worth trying to set things up that way, but the problem is, as we discussed with our friend from the country last Friday, like she, we really don't know how to spend money after a lifetime of working to get where we now are. If you say, you haven't had to wear the cost of bringing up children, it is a fair comment, and maybe we would swap out advantageous position if we had our time over and could have children, by whatever means. R would have. I don't think I would. It was not a choice we really had.