Sunday, December 01, 2019

What I won't do again

Today we celebrated ABI Brother's 60th birthday with a lunch at a venue. I organised it, put up a FB invitation and made the booking for 20 people. No one told me that Bone Doctor would not be coming. No one told me Ex Sis in Law's husband would not be coming. Of ABI Brother's six friends who said they would come, four definite and two maybes, one couple came. I had booked for 20 and there were thirteen, all family aside from the one couple. Our Fijian Indian friend said he would come but then bailed out the day before.

This reflects badly on me and I have sent an apologetic email to the venue. It is not the first time this has happened and I am simply not doing it again. I will book my own celebrations but not those of others. Nevertheless, it was a nice catch up with family and the couple, one who was very close to Tradie Brother when they were at secondary school and I knew him well enough too.

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  1. As long as you had a good time Andrew, I'm sure the venue would still have appreciated the booking of thirteen, especially if the 13 consumed enough wine for 20 😉

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  2. Grace, not too much to drink for anyone as all were driving, but plenty of food.

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  3. I think most venues know that the booking person has little control over the people attending. :) This is always a problem for us so we don't really do it very often anymore.

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    1. Snoskred, I suppose that is true. Just don't do it for other people's celebrations.

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  4. Disappointing that is when people don't turn up, but that is not your fault. I wouldn't do it at all, book that is.
    As long as the birthday man and those that went had a good time..

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    1. Margaret, we did have a nice time, and I guess that is what is important.

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  5. I had my normal Sunday brunch with the sisterhood today and we could see two long tables reserved for one party, 12 and 12 people. But far more than 24 people turned up and the restaurant had a terrible time seating them all.

    Running a restaurant is an unpredictable business.

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    1. Hels, I really wish I had cut the number booked as there was enough seating for others who may have turned up. Yes, that was the opposite problem and while not to that extent, it has happened to us with friends.

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  6. I understand the desire to not be the party planner.
    A smaller group is easier to accommodate, than a larger one.

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    1. Travel, at least family could have told me who was coming and who not. I am more annoyed about that than anything.

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  7. Sigh. I am very glad that the important people had a good time, but oh, how frustrating. I am not surprised you are going to limit your party planning to your own celebrations.

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    1. EC, and as you can guess, we were both absolutely exhausted last night and were in bed early.

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  8. It is always nerve wracking and I have turned over such responsibilities to others now because one never knows and I hate having a restaurant with extra staff and food let down. But truly it's all about manners and respect for others and some just don't have it.

    XO
    WWW

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    1. WWW, you are right. As for his friends, he was probably in the pub when he asked them.

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  9. What a kind thing to do in the first place. I don't think some people realise how upsetting it can be when they pull out at the last minute. On the up side you still managed to have a good time.

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    1. Marie, we did indeed. i don't think I have ever pulled out at the last minute from anything. If I say yes, I mean yes.

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  10. That's a shame the numbers let you down...but all's well that ends well, by the sounds of it. :)

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    1. Yes Lee, we all still had a good time.

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  11. So frustrating, isn't it Andrew - I feel the only reason that is acceptable for no-shows that RSVP'd as definite yeses is if illness or hazardous weather strikes. It is hard for the restaurants although I suspect they are quite used to it, as aggravating as it is for them as well. I'm glad all who showed up had a good time. It's always good to connect on a happy occasion and not just for the bad stuff like funerals :)

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    1. Jenny, I agree, and of course we don't even have weather that stops people doing something like that. Yes, you are right about happy occasions.

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  12. At the risk of sounding like a grumpy old woman (which I am anyway), I think that people are reluctant to commit to doing ANYTHING in case something better turns up.

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    1. Janine, I reckon I could out grump you, and I think you are correct, certainly as far as our Fijian Indian friend went. He got a better offer. He said some tradesmen were coming to do a job but as R said to him, on Sunday? He just mumbled something.

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  13. I've never planned or booked any gatherings, I leave that to other people, but if I say I'm going to be there, I will turn up no matter what else happens. If there's a chance I won't make it I'll say no from the beginning.

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    1. River, no surprise there. You are an honourable person and would not let people down.

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  14. That's awful when people do that. I also hate to book things and people don't show up, I have done the same, if it's too many people who are oohing and aaahing I won't be responsible for bookings!

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  15. You were so kind to make the booking, that the people didn't show up is not your fault at all, do it for yourself next time and let the others do their own reservations. At least you enjoyed it !

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    1. That's true Gattina, on both counts.

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  16. It's just rude to say you are coming to something and then do not come and do not let the person know you are not coming. Bad behavior. Go slap each around a bit.

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    1. It's easy Strayer. I just won't do it again.

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  17. I know what you mean. This has happened to me before! Now I simply plan things for here and if people come great, if not, then we eat well for a week!

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    1. Yes, it is not so bad when you are catering yourself and have leftovers.

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