Wednesday, October 02, 2019

A disrupted day

Today did not go as we planned, that is on a gorgeous warm and sunny spring day we would go west over the big bridge and clean the car at a commercial car wash and then brunch in Altona Village.. We were up bright and early and ready to be out by 10.30! As I was drying myself after my shower, I heard R talking to someone on his phone. The conversation sounded friendly but given we barely have friends, and it clearly wasn't a long conversation, so it wasn't Mother, who could it be?

It was someone R worked with in the early 80s, a gay man who was once married to woman. He and R caught up about 5 years ago here but I did not see him as I was at work. I last saw him at a barbeque at our house in Balaclava in about 1999. In the 80s we travelled in a campervan around New Zealand with him, and resolved to never travel with him again.

He was cleaning up the empty three bedroom flat he owns in Malvern, very near to former blogger Fen. His daughter used to live there rent free. He rather outstayed his welcome here, being here for five hours. We did go out and walked down the boulevard to a cafe for lunch and coffee. He lives an hour's train ride from Melbourne on a a semi rural property with his former pedo brother. His brother is gay too and now has a non live in partner, and G was quite amusing as he demonstrated how the partner fusses around and plumps up cushions. Actually we had many laughs about many things with G during his visit. We talked about our medical issues, sex, medications, sex, current affairs, sex, our history, sex, all sorts of things, and sex. He is a couple of years older than me but he is still sexually active. Oh dear, what gay men get up to on country train full of private school girls. Even I balked at that. But no child was harmed during the connection.

While it is not about him being older, it is that he has changed his appearance, think white beard. He sounded like the old G but did not look like the old G would, or an older version of himself. He stayed way too long, but nevertheless, it was nice to see him and we certainly did have some good laughs, with laughter tears having to be wiped away.

I understand why people disparage Facebook, but via FB I have connected with an aunt, a schoolmate and we have connected with G.

22 comments:

  1. FIVE hours is way, way too long, but laughter is always welcome.
    I suspect that you and R were both v. tired puppies last night. Car wash today?

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    1. We were tired EC and yes, car wash happened today.

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  2. 5 hours! Whoa Nelly. And it sounds like your campervan togetherness did not impact your current experience. Living with a pedo relative sounds awful. Pedos are total low life and I believe in life sentences for them as they ruin so many children's and their recidivism rate is 100%.

    Yuck
    XO
    WWW

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    1. WWW, our friend makes sure his brother doesn't get up to bad stuff. It was a bit borderline with them being of a similar age at the time and they knew what they were doing, but still, it was illegal. His activities would not have been illegal in many civilised countries, and of course I remember what I was like as a teenager and men I went with could have be charged with a crime.

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  3. We've had people Jack flew with arrive and stay for what seemed like forever! And an old girlfriend of his actually came and stayed a week! I was going crazy.
    Now she and I have become friends and I actually asked her to come stay for a week and she and I had a jolly good time. Jack did not! Ha!

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    1. Maribeth, I remember her visit well, but I had forgotten that Jack was not so pleased.

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  4. Five hour drive. That could be flip of coin to go or not to go.
    Coffee is on

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    1. Dora, five hour visit actually.

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  5. Sometimes a disrupted day can work out better than whatever you may have planned.

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    1. River, it probably did. We got the car washed today.

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  6. FB has made me aware of many people from years ago. Some of them are nice, and fun, and some of them are still the same, only older.

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    1. Travel, I know what you are saying. Many I don't want to connect with.

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  7. Travelling around in one shared campervan is enough to test any relationship, even between very good friends. And I love campervan living.

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    1. Hels, you have never struck me as a campervan person.

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  8. Laughing til you cry, now that's a good time!

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  9. You had a good time, but I would also be chomping at the bit after three hours!

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    1. Jackie, three hours might have been about right.

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  10. Sounds like a fun day, despite the disruption! I'm always worried that I will overstay my welcome so I tend to either not visit at all or visit briefly but as a result spend an hour saying goodbye at the door . . .

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    1. Jenny, he arrived with the intention of having coffee. That doesn't mean a long visit. I guess you have to pick up on clues at the time.

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  11. Oh that made me laugh Andrew.. P and I are always the first to leave, but on saying that, most others then get up and leave too. So I think most hosts are grateful to us 😁😁😁😁😁

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    1. Grace, I am nearly always the one to want to leave. R is not. I ask him if we are going and he says yes, but still sits there. It is good when someone takes the lead, as you describe.

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