Monday, June 24, 2019

Ignoring Falou

Sorry about the banging on about this, but I was not always a bitter old queen. I was once a young gay teenager and I can imagine what Benji has suffered. This is Benji. His parents have withdrawn him from his government secondary school because of homophobic bullying and will home school him. You don't even have to be gay as a teenager to suffer homophobic bullying. You only have to not conform to the sports playing stereotype. Photo from the Sydney Morning Herald.


Benji's parents were told by the school that he was overly sensitive.........yeah, and??? (verification required for this) Does that mean overly sensitive children should be bullied. But I don't blame the school too much. Most schools try to do their best about bullying, but none should ever ignore it.

So this homophobic bullying comes from parental attitudes and general community attitudes.

You may well think best just to ignore cockhead homophobic footballer Israel Falou when he posts anti gay material on Twitter, but think again. As an admired top football player, Falou's behaviour influences the views of young people and while I am not accusing him of encouraging violence, that is what ends up happening when impressionable young people hear his views. If Falou was a brave man, he would take on the debate that gay comedian Joel Creasey has challenged him to but even better, sit down and talk with Benji and hear what he has to say. Bullies usually go to water when confronted by their victims. Photo of Joel from news.com.au

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  1. Sadly if Folau were to sit down with any of the Benjis of the world he would be too busy 'telling' them to listen.
    He has a heap of power (in my eyes unearned) and abuses rather than uses it.

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    1. EC, you're probably right about sitting down and talking. Abuse of power is a good way to describe his behaviour.

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  2. I agree with Elephants Child and its quite shocking that a footballer gets so much publicity for spreading his hateful views.

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    1. Thanks Cheryl, although clearly not everyone thinks the same.

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  3. The only thing I can say is I agree.

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  4. Most bully I have encounter is pretty much coward. Here in United States there been some towns have municipality laws coming on books. If there children is found guilty the parents are fine.
    To find out the parents of bullies took no discipline action of there children behavior. But once receiving a court ruling and then the bully parents took action about there children behavior.
    Coffee is on

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    1. That's interesting Dora. I wonder how effective it is.

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  5. As a child who was bullied as a child, (my Dad was a teacher in town) I was simply tormented. I was not gay, or perfect or anything, I was targeted because I was a skinny kid whose Dad taught school. I somehow survived, but to this day I recall exactly the people who tormented me. I hope I never meet them now!

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    1. Maribeth, kids can be really horrible, but I don't think they are born that way, although perhaps some are predisposed to it. I've heard bullies say in their adulthood that they never knew they bullied other schoolchildren.

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  6. I am thrilled to note his campaign has been shut down by GoFundMe and all the money raised will be returned to contributors.

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    1. EC, good news indeed, and former champion netballer Liz Ellis gives Mrs Falou a serve too.

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  7. In my experience, those who bang on about certain subjects usually do so because they have something to hide. One can but wonder if Falou has another side to his character.

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    1. Nicely put Cro. I too wonder the same thing. I have seen it before, many times.

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  8. I _would_ be accusing Folau of verbally encouraging violence. Folau said many times that homosexuality was a sin and that the devil was behind primary school children being allowed to decide they gender. Throughout history, there was only one way to defeat the devil :(

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    1. Hels, oh so true. We humans are so much more fraught than any other animal on the planet.

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  9. I would think, instead of removing the child from the school, have a few meetings with principal, teachers and counsellors and get something done about the bullying! And help the boy learn coping mechanisms too.

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    1. River, I believe that did happen between the school and the parents. Yes, coping mechanisms would be good but sometimes just coping can become overwhelming.

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  10. Anonymous8:02 pm

    Hi

    Three things:

    1. I'm a bit inclined to think that people have the right to free speech and the consequence is that other people have the right to freely reply. But that inevitably results in a lot of people being unpleasant to each other and that is all. So I think that legally defining and forbidding Hate Speech is necessary.

    2. I don't know why this is seen as a gay thing. Folau also said fornicators will go to Hell. Not to be competitive but I bet there are BILLIONS more fornicators in the world than there are gay people, and we are NOT SORRY. At this rate Hell seems a lot more fun than Heaven.

    3. Why doesn't Folau do what Jesus said and sell all his possessions and give the proceeds to the poor instead of crowd funding to give to the lawyers. Hah!

    Yours crossly

    Marie in Perth

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    1. Hi Marie.

      1. Yes, hate speech should be illegal. Vested interests have tried to mix this up with religion when it is no such thing. It is his continued breaching of Rugby Australia's social media code.

      2. Yes, you are quite right about that up to a point. Fornicators are not a minority but they don't know they are not different to anyone else when they are young, and there is rarely an inbuilt intention to fornicate, unlike gay people who are just that way.

      3. As someone quoted the old saying, it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to go to heaven. I think he did himself a big disservice when he began his now failed fundraising campaign. Journalists looked at his various properties, his earnings were reported. Some who may have had some sympathy for him perhaps changed their view because of his money grubbing behaviour.

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  11. Such a shame that young boy has to be home schooled, I really feel for him and others in his position.
    As for that idiot, such a pity he doesn't have more tolerance towards others.

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    1. Isn't there a phrase in the bible Margaret that says, forgive him lord, he knows not what he says. Except in his case he knew full well.

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    2. There is something like that in the Bible Andrew..

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  12. He won't debate Joel Creasy because Joel is smart and quick and he won't want to be made to look stupid, many bullies are.

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    1. Grace, you are right and Joel is from Perth after all.

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  13. "You don't even have to be gay as a teenager to suffer homophobic bullying. You only have to not conform to the sports playing stereotype." Or I could add, for no reason at all. Our son was bullied with homophobic slurs for an entire year from the child who sat behind him in alphabetized classrooms. That child would only do it when no one else was around, so it was useless to go to anyone in charge as it was one child's word against another. That was a very hard year for our son. My husband was reluctant to say anything to the school authorities because the child in question was the son of a police officer, and he worried that it might make things even worse for our child. Fortunately, the next year we requested and received consideration for "general bullying" to have our son and that boy put in different classes.

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    1. Jenny, it is so problematic, made worse in your case by him being the son of policeman. At least your son told you about it and had your support. Not all kids do and the toll on their mental health is terrible.

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  14. Firstly,as I wrote in a previous comment, Folau is a self-righteous, sanctimonious hypocrite. My thoughts on him haven't altered. He should lower his head in shame and just disappear from the public eye. He's made his own bed... He deserve no funding...and had no right to ask for it.

    Bullying...in all its forms...begins in the home. Parents....many parents...have to start taking responsibility...start acting like responsible parents. They need to wake up to themselves. They need to teach themselves how to teach their children!

    Too many parents have lost, or never have had, the art of parenting. Children aren't born bullies...they learn from their elders.

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  15. Ah, the righteous moral idiots, who feel they can look down on and hate anyone different. I endured some of those last weekend at the neighbors party for their graduating sons. I had no idea most of their friends were ultra right wing Christians and some of them extremely hateful. I did not stay long. I'd rather hang out with stray cats than that sort of thing.

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