Saturday, February 23, 2019

Review before send

Sometimes people get drunk or just tired late at night and send phone texts or emails and even make blog comments that in the cold hard light of day they regret sending. They desperately want to retrieve the message. Cannot be done.

I learnt this years ago at my own cost and some embarrassment. But then sometimes it can work, a message written when fuelled by the demon drink or emotion to say things you might be reticent about in the harsh daylight. Generally in my own case, I don't have regrets. But then I have never told my boss that he is a prick and to go eff himself.

Last night just before dropping off, I composed a nice text message to someone, ready to send after review the next morning. Write at night and review and send the next day. I accidently sent the message, and upon review, it was fine. He replied. Where I mucked up was in my following message apologising for sending the text message late at night. I said way much more than I should have, but I think it will be ok. I think he will get the thing about tall handsome Sikh men.

Just reinforcing to myself, do not click send or publish late at night or after a couple drinks, no matter how smart you think you are or how well written you think you are.

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  1. I don't think young people, in particular, realise how long "for the rest of eternity" actually means. Written emails, texts and social media messages can come back and bite us in the bum years later.

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    1. Hels, it will be a huge problem for some people. There was no record made of the indiscretions of our youth.

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  2. Oh goodness, have done this before! I now do not write at night. Period. Only way to save myself from myself!

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    1. Maribeth, that really is the answer but young people won't do that.

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  3. Ha, I can't stop laughing because this is sometimes my downfall. Sending texts or commenting somewhere when I'm too tired out. Then cringing in embarrassment I would send such a text or comment that way. I like Maribeth need to save myself from myself at times. I hope your late night send works out just fine in the end..

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    1. Strayer, for people our age in is new form of communication that we learnt. Perhaps those who grow up with it will have better self control.

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  4. Anonymous3:27 am

    "tall handsome Sikh men" - well at least it shows that you are not racist! Roderick

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    1. Roderick, while I have the perfect reply in my head, I couldn't write it here. I'll just say I have never been choosy in that way.

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  5. I've never intentionally sent a message when tired or drunk, but unintentionally, a slip of the finger, a couple of times, yes. It makes one go hot and cold until the message is reviewed and found to have been okay!

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    1. Jenny, you are a saint who we could learn from. Yes, I understand the sense of relief.

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  6. I don't send text messages late at night so don't have that problem, but I have typed out comments a few times too many without thinking it through.

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    1. River, while generally we take care with our blog posts, I am certainly not as careful when commenting and often notice I have a whole word out.

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  7. I have one commentator who often leaves his comments after returning from the pub'. If they smell too much of alcohol; I simply delete them (on his behalf).

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    1. Very kind of you Cro. Fortunately for me, your posts come through at 2pm.

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  8. I have a friend who drinks and texts almost every night 😀😀 I laugh but it's really not funny, gets her into a lot of trouble.. don't be tempted to do it again Andrew 😀😀

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    1. Grace, yes, better to both compose and send in the morning.

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