Friday, June 15, 2018

Whatever side your bread is buttered

Bisexual men get very bad press in society, especially among gay men. I've said myself, lovey, I said pet I said love, I said pet, work out which side of your bread is buttered. That was quite unfair, and I have come to realise that as I have become older.

Along with bisexuals there are asexuals, and I think I have known a few of them. Even at a young age, that are just not interested in sex. I am in my middle age just too lazy to be bothered with sex and the discomfort of sleeping on the wet spot in bed, but I still remain very interested in sex.

Within our walls we can be very politically incorrect. Often enough I will call it for someone on tv or the radio. Ghey. Yes, that is how I say the word when I point out to R that I think a certain bloke or sheila is gay.

I can't remember ever doing it for female children, but I certainly have for male children. Ghey. I think a few years ago even suspecting one of your sons or grandsons was gay. Who where and when is hazy now.

But there is a whole other category of male children who may be effeminate but not gay. They too deserve acceptance.

But one of my prejudices is firmly rooted. I just hope they don't grow up to be crossdressers. I have no issues with drag queens, but don't be a sad old man with badly applied makeup, a cheap wig, clothing that is too young and too revealing at your age, and you walk wharfie (dock worker).

I expect I was going to make a decent point with this post when I began writing this, but I have forgotten what it was now.



26 comments:

  1. So a practised cross dresser with a good wig, clothing and well applied make up is ok?
    I don't like the mutton dressed as lamb look regardless of the orientation of the wearer.

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    1. EC, yes. If you are going to do it, do it with style. Agree about mutton as lamb and gay males aren't immune to it.

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  2. My philosophy is each to their own as long as they are not hurting anyone. How can we judge what another has to deal with in life.

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    1. Allan, it is what we should aspire to, but we are human and have natural reactions.

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  3. I would guess we are all politically incorrect when nobody is listening or watching and our devices are off finally.

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    1. Strayer, and you have to be very sure your devices are off.

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    2. A must, Andrew, on the devices off. I guess our governor of Oregon is a declared bisexual.

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    3. Ah, there is story there Strayer, I think. Off to Google.

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    4. Perhaps it is politically acceptable to be a bisexual female in office in Oregon. It can give male voters a thrill. Perhaps even female voters. If you want to be in politics, it might a good bit easier to say you are a bisexual rather than a dyke.

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  4. Not sure if our socity. What I read on different blogs and social media other place seem more excepting of different life style...I can recall not long ago people who say about two lesbain that was beautiful...But two gays were disgusting...What the different and I bet they both have there monthly bills.

    Coffee is on

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    1. Dora, your last sentence made me laugh.......bills.

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  5. Can always pick a cross dresser, well nearly always but I really don't see any, other than on TV.
    It's each to his/her own in my book and none of it really bothers me at all.

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    1. Margaret, the ones I mean are very easy to spot.

      Yes, don't be bothered. To use an old quote, they don't pay my rent.

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  6. My mother used to do magic tricks at my birthday parties when I was quite young, and a school friend of mine (Richard) once asked her if she could change him into a girl. When we left that school (aged 14) and went on to our upper schools, I lost contact with him. I would so like to meet him (her?) again to see how his life developed. Sadly I can't find him.

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    1. Cro, an older person in my school was totally in love with the American actor David Cassidy. He wanted to marry David. I have searched him on the net and he is happily married with children.

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  7. Oh Lordy! We have a cross dresser here within the complex. He's older, tall and quite skinny and quite frankly looks atrocious in his clothes and poorly applied makeup. I'm not sure if his hair is real or a wig, a sort of blonde bob about chin length. If it is real, his hair is in terrible need of conditioning and combing.

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    1. River you describe exactly as I meant. I suppose we need to accept them, but we won't be seen out with them.

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  8. It's none of my business who sleeps with who. I do not care. I don't care if they're straight, gay, bi, asexual, tran...it is none of my business.

    I am heterosexual, not that it should be a subject of discussion...that it would be of interest to anyone else. There are more interesting things to talk about, in my opinion.

    I've had and have friends who are gay. If I like a person, I like them for the person he or she is - not because of their sexual preferences...it's not for me to judge...and not for anyone else to judge me.

    As long as children and animals are not involved, I don't give a damn what people do in their bedrooms or wherever else. That has absolutely nothing to do with me.

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    1. Lee, I can only say this. It not just about what happens behind closed doors, but how people live their lives in public. I would expect no less of you than you are an accepting person of differences. Pretty hard to not have come across gay people in your former line of work. Maybe there is a story to be told?

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    2. Andrew...you know I wasn't just referring to "behind closed doors". I'm sure you understand without me having to write it out in minute detail.

      Of course I've met and worked with both heterosexuals and homosexuals throughout my working life...so what?

      Why should there be a "story to be told". I've told and have lots of stories still to relate, but they don't rely on a individual's sexuality.

      One of my best friends...one I love most dearly...a best friend of the longest standing...whom I've known since I was three and a half years of age - which makes our friendship 70 years in length - is "gay".

      I couldn't give a hoot, let alone one, two,three or a million hoots!

      Our friendship and love for each other has never changed from when we were two little girls who lived across the street from each other...who played together as kids do.

      She and I have remained best friends for all those years...70 of them.

      I love her...and she loves me...for the person each of us are.

      Our sexuality has absolutely nothing to do with our friendship...and it has never been the major subject of any of conversations.

      Why would it be? I can give no reasons why it would be.

      I don't know why it should be such a big deal; it's not to me; or to her.

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    3. There you go Lee. You and your gay friend is a good story. I am very impressed that you have a friend from your childhood.

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  9. Being bisexual is a wee bit like having you cake and eating it too 😉 I remember once a very pretty lady planted a full on kiss on my rather surprised lips.. wasn't too bad, but wasn't keen for a follow through 😀😀

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    1. Grace, or wanting everything and ending up with nothing. Do you think she had intentions?

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  10. If it's not someone who performs professionally, the crossdresser most likely has gender dysphoria, i.e., their brain cries out for a female body (though not in the same way a heterosexual cis male cries out for a female body) and, if they can't afford the medical treatment, the person does the next best thing, don female clothing and makeup. You're certainly not required to be seen in public with them (or with anybody, for that matter) but at least understand where they're coming from.

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    1. Kirk, you have painted it perfectly well. I must be more accepting.

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