Saturday, June 30, 2018

Marriage and poll results

Would you still change your name?
Yes 25% No 33%

I never did change my name?
29%

For ease and benefit to children?
4%

Depends on husband's thoughts?
0% (Haha, you might take his name, but he does not control you)

Marriage bah humbug?
8% (I like you girlfriend)

Weddings cost a motza. Nephew's wedding last year cost around $30,000 and that was using their own venue. I can't imagine what it costs to have a wedding and reception at a posh place, such as the historic building The Willows, very near to us in St Kilda Road, or the just as historic, Butleigh Wootten in Kew. My ABI Brother has been to a wedding there, and I reckon Hels might have.

Our neighbour, The Senator, married his last wife at The Willows. The business has gone broke. Butleigh Wootton is up for mortgagee auction, so I assume the wedding company business within went bust. Wow, I did not know of the underworld connection to Mick Gatto.

So, in spite of huge wedding costs, companies aren't making enough money to survive or are badly managed.

The Willows, taken by me in 2005.



Butleigh Wootton, from the Australian Financial Review.


27 comments:

  1. Weddings are expensive. An expense I would find hard to justify.

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    1. EC, to me the most important thing is to own the roof over your head. You can manage quite well, unless you are my mother, in Australia if you own your home.

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  2. The very word 'wedding' adds a zero to the quote.

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    1. Marie, no doubt, like we pay premium prices to have anything done because 'the market will bear it'. I suppose your son's wedding cost a bit, but it did look so lovely, but then I expect they already have their own home.

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  3. My wife never changed her name (and I never wanted her to)
    All said and done I feel marriage expenses is something that can be avoided. And there are people who add things to their events because the Jones have done it.

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    1. Haddock, there does seem to be some 'going one better' with weddings. The wife changing her name smacks of ownership to me, but others disagree.

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  4. My wife and I could have been married in St Paul's Cathedral (London), but hated the idea. We eventually plumped for Gibraltar where the total cost (apart from travel) was £10. We were married just after John Lennon and Yoko.

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    1. Cro, the photos of the couple in St Pauls would be a nice blog brag. John and Yoko were married in Gibraltar too?

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  5. Weddings don't have to cost a "motzah"...I've never seen any point in spending thousands on a wedding. Each to their own, I guess. Spending a fortune on one's wedding isn't a guarantee the marriage will last forever. Sometimes the grandiose affairs are just a pose - for show - for the benefit of others. I'd rather put the money to a better use.

    Again...it's personal choices and preferences...similar applies to name changing or not changing one's name. In all honesty...I really don't care which way a person chooses. It's their choice. Mine was to change my surname when I married...as I've previously commented.

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    1. Lee, I suppose it was kind of compulsory once, but it isn't now. It is just discretionary spending. I think for most there would be more pressing needs for expenditure.

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  6. You _could_ have picnic on the beach, with the wedding party in bathers and the buffet made of sandwiches. But for the parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, the memories and photos are all there is in life to enjoy. Don't deny them that.

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    1. Hels, I do appreciate what you are saying. While I can't approve of Nephew's expenditure on their wedding, it was just the most wonderful day and the memories will live on forever.

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  7. Gosh Wedding's are expensive these days especially as most brides want everything! Greed.

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    1. Margaret, and as Joe above says, there is the keeping up with the Jones element to it.

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  8. I think too many young couples like to go overboard and have lavish weddings, but if you have your head in the right place you can have a low budget wedding too and still having the family and friends around.
    Have a nice weekend Andrew.

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    1. Sami, of course you can. Weddings can be anything you choose them to be. Thanks.

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  9. There's a couple of similar stately homes here in the Adelaide Hills area that are popular for weddings, but with the prices these days, I'm surprised anyone can afford them. Perhaps they're like my friend V, an Italian woman I worked with back in the 90s. She had only one child, a daughter, and began saving for her wedding the day she was born. The girl married at age 25, so there's 25 years of savings.

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    1. River, yes, people from some countries place great importance on the tradition of weddings, as perhaps we did once in Australia. Bit unusual for an Italian woman to only have one child, but I am sure you weren't nosy and didn't ask why.

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  10. I'm going to a wedding today. It's in an exclusive area, and is being catered by a local super Chef. Glad my daughter chose not to do this, but take the money and buy a house!

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    1. Maribeth, your daughter is wise. I hope the wedding you went to was brilliant. You can kind of be against weddings, and still enjoy them.

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  11. In Belgium a woman keeps her name from birth on. If she is born as Mrs. Smith she will remain Mrs. Smith until she dies. Even if she marries 10 times.
    In Germany you can choose which name you will take the woman's name, or the man's name or both together, of course if one is noble they take the posh name !

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    1. Gattina, I am a little surprised at how many countries there are where the wife does not take the man's name.

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  12. I went to The Willows for a wedding reception once. I know it was quite popular but I didn't like the layout of the space.

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    1. Ah, ok Ad Rad. Perhaps that is the peril of using an old building rather than a purpose built one.

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  13. There's an old saying 'the more expensive the wedding the shorter the marriage'. Perhaps young couples shouldn't put such a financial burden on themselves for just one day. I know right, I'm such a romantic 😀😀

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  14. I didn't change my name when we got married and our wedding cost us under $2K all up. And it was lovely and special and awesome. You seriously don't need t spend a silly fortune.

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