Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Blame the other woman

I cannot believe what I am reading. Has the clock been turned back 40 years, when my own mother verbally laid into the woman in a public place on the street, the woman who went on to become my step mother? With both in their eighties now, they are pleasant to each other when they are at family get togethers.

This won't be meaningful to overseas people but Australians can't help but know about former Federal Government Minister Barnaby Joyce, his former staffer who became his lover and their child. He has left his wife Natalie.

Natalie has gone down the age old road of blaming 'the other woman', and not her husband. There was a danger I would show you minimal media snips and getting it out of context. I am putting larger snips. You be the judge.

Dearest woman. Your husband is never seduced by an evil, sex hungry power seeking woman. It is your husband's choice and his decision. Having said that, my god the male urges can be strong, but the sign of a good man is that he is able to control these lustful urges. (I am the last person to lecture anyone about that), but the point here is about blame. I've never blamed anyone else but myself for my indiscretions and nor has R for his.

From The Age.

After months of silence, Natalie Joyce, the estranged wife of the former deputy prime minister, has decided it's time to speak up about her "two-year" ordeal after her husband's affair and the birth of Sebastian.

In an interview appearing in July's Australian Women's Weekly – which Mrs Joyce and the publication are at pains to point out was unpaid – she's admitted to watching the infamous interview Barnaby Joyce and Vikki Campion gave to Channel Seven's Sunday Night program earlier this month in exchange for $150,000.
"It was all we could do to watch it without throwing a brick at the TV," Mrs Joyce said, calling the interview "an absolute disgrace".
And she places the blame squarely at the feet of Ms Campion.
"I wasn't surprised she sold their 'exclusive' story, and certainly not surprised the $150,000 went to her child, but it begs the question, if Barney agreed to be a part of it, how could he allow his four girls to be overlooked?

22 comments:

  1. It is none of our business if a minister in the Federal Parliament wants to leave his middle aged wife in favour of a younger woman. But don't do it in public interviews, bringing total humiliation to the loyal wife of c25 years and the four young women who had previously admired and loved their dad.

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    1. Hels, I think that is what really has upset people, not so much the leaving of his wife and being with someone else.

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  2. The biggest surprise for me was that anyone would want to have an affair with Barnaby Joyce...shudder! He's a wee bit repulsive and not particularly bright. Anyway as the saying goes ' it takes two to tango' 😉

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    1. Grace, I don't like to say it, but I find him very unattractive. Clearly some don't.

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  3. It's never just one person's fault.
    It's tough when a marriage ends and children are involved, especially when it's made so public.

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    1. Sandra, mostly quite true. Yes, the publicity for the children must be bad.

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  4. Sigh. I suppose blaming Barnaby would have meant admitting that she made a mistake in choosing him all those years ago. She did have a point about financial support for just one of his children though.

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    1. EC, quite true. Yes, treating his daughters badly is very unfortunate.

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  5. I'd just read this to my mother and she said why blame the woman, he should have made sure he stayed zipped. I hate the blame game but both people of their age should know how not to get pregnant.

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    1. Jah Teh. Yes, they certainly should know such basic things as birth control. Maybe they wanted a baby.

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  6. Yep, I agree with all of the above - it takes two to tango and the Bonking Beetroot certainly pickled himself with his publicly disgraceful behaviour.
    Word on the street is Natalie drove over the Beetroots clothes with the ride on lawnmower during the New England by-election last year, while at least 2 of their daughters grabbed a car with PA system and drove about the place proclaiming how duplicitous the Beetroot was.

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    1. Jayne, you made me laugh. Bonking Beetroot! I hadn't heard the other information. How embarrassing.

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  7. When my husband strayed I laid the blame quite squarely on both of them, after all, she knew he was married so could have/should have, said no. On the other hand, she did get a much wanted child after many, many years of trying unsuccessfully. Add that K and I had grown apart over the years.

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    1. River, it does take two to tango. In this case she knew, but at times people don't. But too often it is the evil man hungry seductress who gets most of the blame.

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  8. Hmm.. Is she blaming Vicki for the affair or for the interview? I don't have time to try and work that out just now.

    Nobody would have had a problem if Barnaby just nutted up and told everyone he was leaving his wife for this other lady. But I think Barnaby has a problem with nutting up in general especially if it is going to cost him money or votes.

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    1. Snoskred, I couldn't really work it out either. Though I don't like his politics, he did seem like a fair dinkum bloke. Not any more.

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  9. It takes two to tango..

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    1. Lee, as I said earlier and see my comment to River.

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  10. OK, I'm a Yank here, but I have to impart a few things. My husbands marriage had not been a good one. Both had been unhappy for a long time, but stayed together for the children. They were in the middle of a divorce when we began having a relationship. (I was also divorced). We kept our relationship quiet and when we eventually married, we did so quietly.
    Yes, I am a younger woman. Yes, his former wife blamed me for an already broken marriage. And yes, it was a very tough time.
    However, that being said, we have been married over 30 years, and eventually fences were mended with his children. His former wife could never accept the change and was vicious until the day she died.
    People should not judge things they know nothing about. Unless they were there, behind closed doors, then they will never know what the relationship was between husband and wife. Life is not always what is seems.

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    1. Thanks for your input Maribeth. I certainly don't have any issues with what you describe and I doubt many others would either if they knew the truth. Even if you were a politician, it would be the same, unless your were two faced, lied, complained about invasion of your private life and then did a media interview for $150,000. Congratulations on a long and happy marriage.

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  11. Adults keep behaving badly, on every continent, and we all love to blame someone, certainly not ourselves and usually our aim is off in the blame game too but no matter, onward we go, committing such flagrant faults and sins, often publicly aired, so the rest of us, uncaught in our errors (thus far), can feel better about ourselves. and never we learn perfection. I've still not met a saint.

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    1. Strayer, so true. People are always looking for someone to blame.

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