Referring to Sunday just past.
A family get together was held at the usual local to us hotel to celebrate Mother's 84th, R's and Little M's 4th. As usual the staff were terrific. Fortunately it was quiet in the hotel, aside from us lot.
Mother, ABI Brother, Tradie Brother, Sister and Bone Doctor and Little Jo, R and myself, Ex Sis in Law and her husband, Firefighting Nephew, Oldest Niece with Little M and Little Em and Hippie Niece with the twin girls.
It was a nice but loud and chaotic lunch and I think everyone felt a little drained.
I can't remember if I mentioned it but Hippie Niece is still struggling with being Mother to the twins and with the relationship with her partner. There had been a build up and it came to a head in some way we do not know and she was back in the Mother and Baby Unit of a large public hospital for about two weeks, obtensily to have her medication adjusted but there was more to it. We visited her not long before she was allowed to leave and she was happy and coping well, but then she was having a lot of help from staff.
She told us that she was leaving her partner and there would be no going back, and that is what happened. After she left hospital she moved in with her mother and step father, but with a condition placed upon her by whoever does such things, that she was not to be left alone with the babies. Meaning either Ex Sis in Law or her husband has to be with the girls at all times. He is my age and she is about 50. It is a lot to put on them.
They have just taken over a small take away business that involves very early starts. The husband and Hippie Niece prepare for the day and open the shop at 6am. Ex Sis in Law does what needs to be done for the girls and drops them at a creche and then goes to the shop and I guess Hippie Niece goes home.
I feel like saying to her, listen hear girl. You have two lovely daughters who are dependant on you. You have lots of caring people around you. Get your act together. Of course it is not my place and as most of you would know, that is not the way to deal with anyone who has mental health issues.
I also say to myself, that this restriction is over the top. She would never hurt a fly. Yet, we have all heard cases where it can all go so wrong. Perhaps the department is covering itself with great caution, and probably it should. She is to undertake a ten week parenting course, probably one day a week. One of her medications is also an appetite stimulant and she has put on a lot of weight. She has restarted her kickboxing exercise and her part time job is being held open for her. The girls are very easy babies, as Ex Sis in Law attests, and with her parental care, they are in good hands, but it just seems so unfair on her. She cries at the drop of a hat, and broke down completely when talking about the situation with Tradie Brother, her ex husband.
We are mostly hopeful and we all put on a brave face, but at times we are in despair at the situation.
In other brighter news, Hippie Niece's sister Middle Niece and her husband have sold the Mornington Peninsula house and bought a bigger and better one in the same town. It looks very nice and comes with built in outdoor play equipment and a cubby house in a tree for Little M and Little Em. Middle Niece has always had her act together, just like her mother. I expect there may be a little sibling jealousy.