Friday, January 12, 2018

Unwanted attention

I can only say he was very forceful and I did not want anything to happen. After a while, I just gave up. You can only fight back for so long. I suppose I could have stopped him by making a scene or
punching him, but I didn't. Aside from being about ten years older than me, he was not in any position of power over me.

I could list all the names, but I won't bother. Men who abuse their power over women for sexual purposes are scum. I expect we have only seen the tip of the iceberg.

The Lord Mayor of Melbourne has been accused of sexual misconduct and abuse of power and has taken a break from his role while investigations are underway. In spite of him being from the conservative side of politics, the general public thought is that he has been a great Lord Mayor. Call me ageist, but I just don't fancy Doyle at all. If I want an old man, I have one of them at home, along with myself. Nevertheless, I too think he has been a good Lord Mayor of Melbourne with some areas of conflicts of interest being of great concern. But there will be no recovering for him. The allegations are out there and there is no going back.


But whoa! It is a whole different kettle of fish when it is someone who you like is accused of sexual misconduct of a different kind. I don't think I've been so disappointed since learning of former ABC tv and radio personality Andy Muirhead's online pedophile activity.


I am quite shattered to learn of the allegations against the Australian actor Craig McLachlan. He was so hot looking. So charming. Now if what is said is true, he is just another ageing sleazebag who abused his power over others. So disappointing.




This is not really about sex, nor about flattering someone or indicating to them that you are very interested in them in whatever way. It is about power of one person over another, and much more often than not that of men over women. The revelations about men abusing their power over women over the past year will lead to improvements. Men will think twice, and so they should.

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  1. Thank you. I have been trying to remember Andy Muirhead's name for a while. I was shocked. And glad that it was treated seriously long before the current 'vogue'. I do wonder whether Craig's antics would ever have emerged without it though. And Don Burke. And quite a few other serial offenders.
    I do hope that this particular power play is, if not eliminated, seriously reduced.

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    1. EC, Muirhead's offences were quite different and maybe irrelevant to the other accusations. I really believe that the exposures will help.

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  2. If a man, especially a man in a position of power, made one insensitive remark/grab to one woman in his entire lifetime, he probably misread the situation and could move on.

    If he raped, stuck his tongue into women's mouths, grabbed and terrorised multiple women over multiple years, he did not misunderstood the situation. He simply didn't care about the niceties of the women's feelings. Of all the famous men I have heard about, Craig McLachlan was the most relentless and ruthless (other than Thump).

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    1. Hels, you are quite correct. A mistake is not a hanging offence. The real offences come from a person's character and power. Apart from liking his looks, I don't know much about McLachlan.

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  3. I don't know if men will think twice. I think a lot of this stuff happens without thinking at all. :( It is inbuilt into our culture.

    I went to a dinner not long ago where there was far too many uncomfortable comments made by someone who had more to drink than they should have. If you asked them, they would say they were joking and it was meant to be funny. But in light of the current times, it really was not funny at all.

    I bet if Craig could be honest with himself, he would say exactly the same thing. He was joking, it was meant to be funny, and he was the original Aussie Larrikin so it is expected of him to behave that way, cheeky and naughty etc.

    I do not think any of this is going to get to the bottom of the real problems. I also am troubled by the concept of throwing out all the work one person ever did because what about all the work other people did on that same production? You might have one lead actor but you have a cast and crew of hundreds to go along with it, and all of a sudden their work is not to be watched because of how the lead actor behaved?

    Those are just some of my thoughts on this. I'm troubled by it all. :/

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    1. So far the allegations about CM all seem to focus on The Rocky Horror Picture Show. You'd think if he behaved like this all the time there'd be stories coming out of other productions by now. Assuming the RHPS allegations are true, I wonder whether there wasn't a kind of (misplaced) method acting thing going on - ie, he got carried away by his part and the flavour of the piece and his part in particular.

      I agree with Snoskred about the collateral damage to everybody else involved in, for example, "Dr Blake," now taken down from iview. It's not as if we make so much Australian TV drama as to be able to afford to lock whole series up in the vault of obloquy.

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    2. Snoskred, I think it will make men think twice. I know things I used to say at work to people are no longer said, unless I really know the person, and I am careful about who may hear. I expect that will be his defence, as you say. Yes, I agree about the unfortunate side effects of such exposure, a further reason for the accused to feel much guilt.

      Marcellous, I really don't know much about him. I think as you suggest may well be his defence too. I don't agree with the taking down of Dr Blake, especially as he not been convicted of any crime and may well not be. I believe also Channel 7 cancelled making a series of Doctor Blake. Hopefully it can be recast.

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    3. I wasn't saying it would be a defence, but if the allegations remain specific/isolated to that show it may be a kind of explanation.

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    4. I see your point now Marcellous. Personally I doubt that will be the case. I watched the movie again after many many years when we were travelling early last year and I was surprised at how far it went. We have become more puritan in some ways, I think. That unless it is music video clips and rap music where f*** my b***** seems to be ok.

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  4. Gosh, where will it end seems so many men gone too far it's getting ridiculous. Such a shame with these men who have to prove they are so much stronger than women - then on the other side of the coin, how many women abuse men in the same way! Wonder will we hear about that in time - only if the men forward - you know it's equal equal these days :)

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    1. Margaret, while I have heard of one or two cases of women who exercise their power over men in a bad manner, I doubt it is that usual. We shall see, in time.

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  5. I differ from you Andrew in that the one thing I never thought about McLachlan was that he was charming. If you check back you will find references to an infamous appearance by McLachlan on Sydney's Footy Show. He was booed of the set.

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    1. Victor, charming was the wrong word. Perhaps entertaining although I can't say I've ever really seen him do anything aside from act in Dr Blake. Pretty hard to get booed off the Footy Show, when someone like Newman returns week after week on Melbourne's edition.

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  6. It was a different world when he starred in the first RHS. Girls were afraid of losing their jobs and never getting another. Even my sister said they should have stood up for themselves forgetting that she had been bullied, intimidated and harassed in her first job so much so that she packed up and left.
    I think the second production is going on with the stand in as Dr Frankenfurter.

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    1. Jah Teh, do you think that wasn't the case in the 2014 production? You mentioning your sister makes me think of nurses in hospitals who were always fair game for doctors.

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  7. And on it goes, never-ending it seems.

    I must say, too, in defense of men...not all will be guilty as charged. I'm sure there are some women (and men) who have and will jump on the bandwagon just because it's rolling by.

    Don't misunderstand me, though. I am in no way supporting sexual abuse or abuse of power in any way or form, whether it be man against woman; man against man; woman against man...and so on.

    As for paedophiles...just give me five minutes alone with them....my feelings and thought about those scumbags will be very obvious in less than five minutes!!!

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    1. Lee, I think the vast majority will be guilty as charged and it pains me to say that. At least Muirhead was not a physically active pedo, but viewers of photos create the market that must be supplied.

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  8. I remember being shocked and horrified when the Andy Muirhead story came out. I sincerely hope he was given a wee bit of a bashing in gaol, although I suspect they keep paedophiles apart from the genpop.

    Meanwhile, I hope soon to hear that Don Burke and Craig McLachlan are sharing a cell. I guess your Melbourne Lord Mayor will have one all to himself in Melbourne, as befitting his former political status.

    Me, harsh? Oh yes, when it comes to scum.

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    1. Rozzie, the 'rock spiders' are kept in isolation. His life as he knew it has pretty well been ruined, I think a worse punishment than anything physical that will heal. I suppose some of what people like McLachlan and Burke are accused of is criminal, I can't see them going to gaol.

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  9. Screw it, recast Dr Blake with another actor - we have plenty of unknown faces who have the talent and could easily replace him, although it will probably be seen as a poisoned chalice.

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    1. Jayne, I will say that McLachlan, perhaps a highlight of his career, was very good in the role, it could be recast, but it just wouldn't be the same, like Collectors wasn't without him.

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  10. Was Craig McL once in Neighbours? I hadn't heard the scandal. In amongst all the genuine cases of inappropriate behaviour, one mustn't forget that many 'groupies' change their minds after meeting with their heros in hotel rooms, but I think this is mostly associated with pop stars.

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    1. Cro, indeed he was. I have learnt that his character was called Henry. He also had an excerable hit song called Hey Mona. Please don't go to Youtube. Yes about the groupies and I have no criticism of them unless they change their minds, or complain later. They do their own gender who are affected as per the discussion a serious disservice.

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  11. I'm disappointed that so many that I liked are now being found out and exposed as abusers. All my memories of those I thought of as nice have been shattered. whether the allegations are true or not, the stigma will remain. My first sentence reads that I'm disappointed they are being found out, which isn't the case, I just don't know how else to write that. I hoping you can work out my meaning.

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    1. Dearest River, indeed I do know exactly what you mean. I feel the same. It is one thing to be disappointed by politicians who you may at some time think are quite decent, but this is quite another matter. Not hero worship, we are too old for that, but just really liking someone you see on the screen or wherever and finding that they are not admirable people.

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  12. While there maybe be further comments, thanks to everyone for your wise and considered comments. I mentally began the post a long time ago when Weinstein was first accused. It has been edited many times in my mind and online and is totally different to its original. I was still not entirely happy with the post about such a serious subject, but at some point you have to click that publish button. There is an old term in Australia and perhaps elsewhere called 'putting the hard word on someone'. There is nothing wrong with indicating you fancy someone and letting them know it. That and the sexual abuse of women by powerful men should never been confused.

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  13. I have to say that during my whole working career I had "difficulties" with men. When I started working in the 60th there were two ways of making career for a woman. Or sleeping with the right people, or tell them to go to hell and work ! I choose the latter and it worked too.

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    1. Gattina, I am pleased that you took the correct path and it worked. You had a confidence in yourself that not everyone has.

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  14. So many stories about actors and other people in power are coming out now. It's very sad to think that you liked these people in their work capacity and they were role models too, and then these allegations come out. I've been a bit disconnected from the news and had no idea about Andrew Muirhead or Melbourne's Lord Mayor...

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    1. It is sad Sami. Muirhead was quite a long time ago now and I expect he is out of gaol by now. OUr Lord Mayor is very recent and still being investigated.

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  15. Wow! It's good to see that these things are coming out, not only in the United States but in other countries as well. I'm thrilled that you're sharing it! This madness needs to stop. Hugs...RO

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    1. RO, I expect everyone knew about these things but it wasn't talked about. It certainly is now. Thanks.

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  16. It's amazing how much, and for how long, people can get away with things like this. Hopefully this recent flood marks a turning point in calling out this and other kinds of bad behaviour in the workplace.

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    1. Ad Rad, that is my hope.

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  17. I hope it makes men think twice. Even me, an old lady, has dealt with as recently as a few years ago, when trying to get a tree. A lonely tree cutter, whom I had merely called for a quote, called me back on a Friday, said he was pretty sure I must have a back ache and he was free to come rub my back and he'd cut the tree later on for free. I knew what he wanted and carefully declined. I thought it was very funny. And took it as a compliment. Anyhow, I hope the current state of affairs, where men abuse their power and women feel they must give in to have anything, will be history.

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    1. Strayer, that is a great example of where an offer was made, you weren't interested, and he took no for an answer. I assume he did cut the tree down for a fair charge.

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  18. I live in the States, but I was such a fan of the show "Collectors" and saw all the episodes. And a lot of it was that Muirhead was this seemingly cute, charming, adorable host. But before his downfall I had some real suspicions about him because of the way he treated one of his fellow-presenters. She was this really beautiful, likable antiques expert and on many episodes she would help present some "mystery" object and talk about that. And one of the first times, there was some object that lent itself to double-entendre, and Muirhead "went there," and it was kind of funny. But it seemed that afterward Muirhead would try to do some sort of double-entendre and sexual allusion in a really forced way with every antique mystery item that he talked about with her. It just seemed very dark, unpleasant, and hostile. I thought it was really unfortunate that he treated her that way. So I think that whatever hidden drives and motivations he might have had worked themselves into the show.

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    1. Hi John. It was a great show and much missed. I can't say I picked up at the time what you are saying, but I don't doubt you. Aside from the woman who briefly replaced him, I really can't remember. I've made mention of Muirhead a few times if you enter his name into my blog search area. Thanks heaps for you comment, which again makes me feel very sad about the whole business.

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