R has adapted very well to retirement. He takes Mother out on Thursdays. Fridays he is a volunteer for about four hours to drive old and infirm to various places in a supplied car. About once a month on a Tuesday he takes oldies out in a minibus for a social lunch outing to a hotel or club well away from where they live in inner Melbourne and he gets a free meal. About once every month he has lunch with an old workmate. About every three months he and said workmate take former clients out for to the seaside and for lunch. Once a week he does the housecleaning and he does nearly all of the cooking of our meals, along with the clean up, plus the ironing. He naps in his bedroom for about three hours each day, alternating between sleep and watching tv. He doesn't mind mindless tv and he readily admits he is a lazy bastard and is quite content to sit and do nothing.
He is very content with his lifestyle..........but his way is not mine.
I don't want anything to do with the old, crippled and needy. I don't want anyone's face in my face. I have never worked in a caring profession, though I admire people who do, I could not put up with the nonsense that is involved with that. I have come across the worst and the neediest in my job, and I don't want to have anything like that in my life, aside from family!
It is probably impractical, but I would like to do away with cars and use an alternative car share scheme when I no longer work, if public transport or a taxi is not appropriate . I don't want to drive a car anymore. I hate the sheer incompetence of today's drivers. Just before I become an incompetent old driver, I get so angry when I am driving. I get stressed about parking.
So what shall I do if I retire? I don't like golf. We don't have a garden or pets to care about. Our lives are quite selfish. Short walks on the beach are good. Long walks on the beach sounds boring. On days when I don't work we normally have a bite to eat out somewhere, usually for no more than $10 each and I expect we would often still do this when I am no longer working. It is usually combined with an errand or some shopping to do.
I expect I will do a lot more photo projects, such as I have already done and published about on my blog. I would like to do a photography course, and there are plenty of them out there.
I will rejoin the St Kilda Historical Society and actually go to meetings and participate. There may even be other historical societies I will find of interest.
I have been a long term non active member of the Australian Lesbian and Gay Archives and I would hope that I could offer something of value to them by donating my time.
I will certainly see more movies and perhaps amateur theatre.
So, I have thought about what I might do in retirement, but there are a lot of hours in a day. I expect I will sit even longer on my backside at the computer.
I need to maintain my health and I am a person of routine, even after a lifetime of working rotating shift work, I keep some sort of routine. I will need to set aside walking time. Our building has a pool, spa, sauna, gym, tennis court
I used to have such confidence that I would never be bored in retirement, but as the day gets closer, I am a little concerned.
Please tell me of your retirement adjustment experiences, or your partner's. I know that at least one of you had a bit of adjusting to your life when your partner retired.