As we ate take away pizza with Little Jo, I mentioned, your Nanny stayed here with us for four nights while her electricity was fixed. Little Jo: "Was it a nightmare?" "No Little Jo, it was fine." I blatantly lied. Little Jo has had Mother stay often enough and has clearly overheard and experienced things.
I have told R in the past to not poison the nieces and nephew's memory of Mother by speaking frankly to them. Late Step Father and Mother used to take them out for a drive every Sunday to entertaining places. Mother was not always like she now is. Even now I see glimpses of what she was, as she and I sat on our balcony at 5:30am and discussed how the city was coming awake.