Friday, June 02, 2017

A brief conversation

As we ate take away pizza with Little Jo, I mentioned, your Nanny stayed here with us for four nights while her electricity was fixed. Little Jo: "Was it a nightmare?" "No Little Jo, it was fine." I blatantly lied. Little Jo has had Mother stay often enough and has clearly overheard and experienced things.

I have told R in the past to not poison the nieces and nephew's memory of Mother by speaking frankly to them.  Late Step Father and Mother used to take them out for a drive every Sunday to entertaining places. Mother was not always like she now is. Even now I see glimpses of what she was, as she and I sat on our balcony at 5:30am and discussed how the city was coming awake.

Complicated, hey.

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  1. We have found that lots of photos, taken over the decades at weddings, bar mitzvahs, speech nights and football finals etc, make wonderful talking points. The grand parents, aunts and uncles, who cover the TV room in framed images, will not be forgotten.

    Hels and Joseph

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    1. Hels, my grandmother had a lot of formal family portraits that were stored away. At times we would get them out and ask who different people were.

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  2. How kind and decent of you to protect the nieces and nephew's memories of her.

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    1. Jennifer, I have to bite my tongue at times.

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  3. Thank you for your kindness.

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    1. EC, it's an easy thing to do, not speak badly of her in front of them.

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  4. I'm happy you saw glimpses of the way your mother used to be.

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    1. River, she can still be entertaining, when she ever shuts up about medical matters and woe is me.

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  5. There should be more people like you to keep the lovely things in life alive regarding your mother. A kind lady indeed.

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  6. Yes, family are quite often complicated. You really do a great job with your mum x

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    1. Fen, I can't take the credit. R did the real work and it nearly did his head in. Back to normal tomorrow when he takes her out for lunch and to the shops.

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