Monday, February 06, 2017

The Sunday that was

Nothing ready to publish for this Monday, so a quickie written when I am doubting whether I will see the denouement in the new series of Midsomer Murders. I expect I will collapse into bed very soon.

Sunday was Little Em's 1st birthday party, hosted by her father's father, as was Little M's first birthday, she now being almost three.  Apart from Nephew and his partner, all the immediate family were there and it was a lovely, although rather hot afternoon.

There is a swimming pool at the large spread out home. Little Jo and Sister swam to cool off. When we left, many people had resorted to the pool, including the birthday girl. Little Jo was sullen. I took a great photo of Little Jo as she threw her head back after breaching the water. Later in my friendliest voice, I said to Little Jo, I took a great photo of you and I'll put it on to Facebook with other photos from today. I was actually talking to the back of her head. She spun around and said very formally, you need to ask my parents permission to put my photo on Face Book. R urged me to speak to Sister about it, who was nearby. Little Jo's parents are worried about her digital footprint, which will be of concern when she older, but not now, at nine years old.

Of course your photo can be taken by anyone in a public space, but I suppose this was a private space.

That was my sole conversation with her for the day, although I tried to engage her a few times. R received a bit better response, but after she left the pool and he went to pull her curly hair back into a ponytail, he realised she had  a large hair knot lump, like an ungroomed cat or dog can get. The only way to be rid of it is for it to be cut out.

I was so shocked by Little Jo's response. What I really wish I had replied to her, Jo, this is not a stranger danger situation and there is no need for such a response. You are speaking to family. Yes, ok, I know most abuse of children comes from family members.

I am so tired.


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  1. Andrew Liitle Joe is a wise girl

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    1. She is Gosia, but she needs to improve her manners and have a better understanding of how she comes across to people.

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  2. I haven't yet watched last night's "Midsomer Murders'. I recorded it and will get around to watching it sometime during this week. I enjoy the show, but I still prefer John Nettles' "Tom Barnaby". I was a huge fan of the show when Nettles was at the wheel.

    My intention is not to be a name-dropper, but when I was manager of the then resort on Hinchinbrook Island John Nettles and his then girlfriend, Sue (a London nurse. He later married for the second time, but Sue didn't become the second Mrs. Nettles) were guests for a week. John Nettles was as nice as he appears to be on screen. His holiday was during a break in the filming of his then TV series "Bergerac".

    Another interesting piece of trivia...his first wife, Joyce later became a casting director on 23 episodes of "Midsomer Murders".

    I agree with Gosia k...Little Jo sounds like she's a sensible little lass. :)

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    1. Lee, I too prefer Nettles. It is worth watching just for lavish scenery. And no wonder you are a fan, having made his acquaintance. But that Joyce is not the Joyce who was his character's wife. I always found her a little grating.

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    2. No....his ex wife, also named "Joyce" worked behind the cameras, not in front of them. :)

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  3. Don't think anyone going to jump in pool to cool off. Or unless the pool is inside.
    Now they might be a few flop down in snow and make and angel.
    Coffee is on

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    1. Dora, they would be in for a hard landing on ice.

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  4. Sounds like someone is parroting what a parent has said to her! Ha ha. Ratbag.

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    1. Fen, indeed that is what I think. She has a habit of doing that. "There is no such thing as bad weather, only the wrong clothing", straight from her mother's mouth, I am sure.

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    2. Bwahahahaha! That is so very funny x

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  5. Andrew, at nine, she's at least 10 older than you. I'd say she's had the talk about privacy on social media which will do for now but when she turns 13, watch out.

    Even at my age, I've just had the family blast me for something I wrote 4 years ago and taken out of context for drama.

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    1. Jah Teh, so you said. It must have been something about your family, who I recall you have always spoken of with much love and affection. :-P

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  6. Little Jo developing an attitude? Or an underlying problem that needs further investigation? I'm concerned about the large hair knot tangle, having just recently (last year) spent an hour and a bit untangling a similar 'bird's nest' in my grand daughter's hair. GD's mother is neglectful enough to not care that GD doesn't bathe or shower daily and hair is rarely shampooed. So something like this with Little Jo has me concerned.

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    1. River, I am afraid she is and you have described Little Jo's personal hygiene quite closely. Her hair is curly and really hard to get a brush through it, but R bought a product to use when she is here that makes it much easier to brush and comb her hair. Both Sister and Bone Doctor shower daily, so it is curious as to why Little Jo is not into a routine, well Sister never has a routine for anything. I did wash her clothes, including a jacket when she stayed here once, and I did bravely tell Sister that Little Jo's hair smelt once. I suppose it will sort it itself out at puberty as she becomes more self conscious.

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    2. I would hope so, but long term habits are hard to break. Perhaps they wanted Little Jo to find her own routine, which is never a good idea where hygiene is concerned. Early training is the key.
      In my GD's case, I can't say anything. The mother is psychotic and any word she doesn't agree with has her screeching about interfering and accusing blah blah blah. My son stays purely for the children, but doesn't have much say.

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  7. Don't care for murder stories had enough of that when my dad was alive - due to his profession it turned me off all things like that!
    Little Jo - growing attitude and yes, you should have pulled her up, next time will do.
    Have a grandchild aged 10, she always says, "Nan, don't put that on Facebook"...some children like it and some don't.

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    1. Margaret, I can understand that and as you may have heard, the murder rate is very high in Midsomer. I suppose it is fair that a child can ask you not to put a photo on FB, but I think it is a bit different when it taken at a party, as many other people's photos are taken.

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  8. We love Midsomer Murders too but they arrive quite late on French TV because they translate it into French. Sometimes we look at Inspector Barnaby speaking German ! Don't worry about little Jo, she just repeats what she hears around her ! That makes her look "adult" ! lol !

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    1. Gattian, she certainly does repeat what she hears. Barnaby speaking another language would be amusing to us.

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  9. I do understand her parents concern. FB makes me a little nervous. Whatever is put out there is for the world to see. The good, the bad and the ugly:) I guess the same could be said about blogging, but it doesn't seem to have the audience FB does.
    Sorry, the day wasn't better.

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    1. Sandra, that is quite true, but it was a harmless photo taken at a party. When she was very young, I used to put photos of her on my blog, and long ago I judged that at about four, she had some right to not have her photo put out in public by me.

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  10. Oh shame Andrew. Your story here made me think of an incident here at my place on Sunday. As it was Aimee's birthday we had the family over for a swim and cake. When my great niece and nephew arrived they completely ignored my younger sister, who does soooo much for them. She was really quite miffed for a while. Kids can be such rotters sometimes 😀

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    1. Grace, you just feel a bit hurt, but you also know they are only kids. Lucky that we were much more considerate when we young......

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  11. After this I read an small piece in the paper about a little girl that a man tried to entice away with him but came a cropper when she said what's the password. Brilliant mother and daughter had a secret password and if anyone didn't know it then she didn't move. I think cats have the same thing but it's easy to guess, food.

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    1. Jah Teh, I haven't heard of the password, but it is not a bad idea. Little is so rarely out of an adult's sight, I find it hard to imagine who she could be enticed away. Food :-)

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  12. Expect a lot more of that as she gets preteeny.

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    1. Strayer, I won't be surprised. Sister and Bone Doctor phrase it as a playdate with the uncles. I more correctly describe it us letting her play on the net until she is content. We do make her do things, but the time will come soon when she no longer wants to visit us. I understand that. I just want some basic civility and manners.

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