It is a bit funny that am considerate of my core readership and don't go too far when I am talking about men, gay matters, and sex, and even general life. The aforesaid core readership is around an average of 60 years old, so I don't want to offend my middle aged and older readership.
Except, I suddenly realised, I am nearly of that age. Hels gave me that clue, that my older female readership is not prim and ever so proper. These are not older women to whom I should show a dignified respect, but my equals. They have grown up in the same era I have. They have had the same experiences.