Monday, February 08, 2016

Musical Monday

My occasional Musical Monday. River never fails. I am 75% through writing my will online. I have stalled as it had become difficult when deciding what to give to R's Sisters should he die before me........no, that is a given fact. But are his sister's children due anything? If so, how much?

I should be planning a big fat gay funeral with details in my will. I always thought the music as people who exited my funeral should be this. I want to make them cry as they remark, well given his indulgent lifestyle....



But wow, what a mood lifter it was when a friend's mother died and this was the exit music at her funeral as the coffin exited the building. We tossed between amusement and horror. In retrospect, it was good.




22 comments:

  1. How I wish my partner would make a will.
    I have never thought about the music I would like played at my final appearance.
    Something to get their feet tapping?
    I want laughter rather than tears I think...

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    1. EC, while laughter is good, tears can be very healing. A bit of both, I think.

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  2. Funny. I went to see a finance planner here in Canberra and she suggested making a will. You have confirmed how tiresome the process will be.

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    1. Ad Rad, it does take time but by doing it online there is a great saving.

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  3. I kept my will very simple. If anything is left. the kids can share it between them. Music? 'Here comes the sun'

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    1. Marie, I love your choice of music.

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  4. I could sing at your funeral, that should make everyone cry.
    As for the Will, circumstances change so don't lock everything in but the basics and review it every 12 months.
    And don't forget the Fred Hollows Foundation, only decent Australian charity.

    I'm not having a funeral but I am leaving a note for Andrew to do an online blog post praising me and playing the theme from 'Titanic'.

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    1. Jah Teh, while we already have wills, they are out of date. We are trying to future proof them somewhat with what happens if the natural order of death does not happen. Hollows was a homophobic old prick. There are other worthy charities. Yes, I'll give you plenty of praise but not while you are around to hear it.

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  5. The music for my funeral is on my blog today, lol. Oh, and Del Amitri's 'Kiss This Thing Goodbye'. Maybe I should specify a sing-along...

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    1. Cranky, a sing-along at a funeral. How cute.

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  6. To see families torn apart after the will is read.. is a bit tragic. You cannot please everyone, but I reckon it is worth our while doing the very best we can with our wills.

    Mind you, even that won't necessarily help. When my mum died last year, her valuable "smalls" were cleared out and never found again. She only had one beautiful engagement ring, one set of gorgeous diamond earrings and some valuable leather handbags. Not much, I realise, but I am the only daughter :(

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    1. Hels, that is disappointing to hear. Death can really bring out the worst in people as affairs are sorted.

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  7. If anybody played opera at my funeral I would come back and haunt them for the rest of their lives. I want something more cheery that says, remember me but don't be sad too long.
    I haven't made a will yet, I probably should but really, I have nothing to leave except some secondhand furniture, some of which isn't worth passing on, and my books and dvd's. There's photos too, but that's about it.
    As far as R's sisters are concerned, shouldn't R be making his own will to leave them what he wants to?

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    1. River, they may not cry about my death, but maybe the opera will make them cry. Given you do not hide that you are not a person of great wealth, unless you have something special to go to someone, why would you bother.

      I put a response to your will query in an email.

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  8. Hollows might have been just that but the Foundation does great work overseas unlike the homophobic pricks that sit in Parliament and will never do anything to help anybody and put gays and lesbians on the bottom of a long list of who never to help.

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    1. Yes, I don't doubt the value of the foundation but like I could never warm to Beyond Blue because of Kennett, nor can I in this case.

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  9. That last video...wow, had to stop it, the voice got to me, right through me actually.
    Beautiful voice the first artist.
    Have chosen my 'funeral songs'.
    It's a big thing to 'think' of the right people to leave your personal belongings to. What will they do with them, do they want them, will they throw them away?
    Even though I've made a Will, it's still a hard decision for me...

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    1. Margaret, what I see as valuable history will probably been thrown out. Photos are problematic because we take so many and mixed in with them are photos of family and friends. Try as you might to label them, there are just so many.

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  10. Wills are so important I agree, P's is all good but I really should renew mine and now that Aimee is a property owner she really should make one out too. Most people find it a wee bit depressing to make a will but these days it's seriously essential. As for the music if my choice had to be between these two it would definitely be the second, such fun :)

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    1. Grace, no rush for Aimee surely, until she has some decent equity. Dear Mum, I bequest to you my mortgage. It was a surprising choice for a funeral but it is about the only funeral music I can remember for any time.

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  11. That first video won't play, says it contains content from Studiocanal who has blocked it in my country due to copyright grounds. As for your will, that's a heavy topic. Nice garish goodbye music in the last video. I don't think anyone would come to a funeral after my death if there even was one. There won't be. I have a last wishes page in which I instruct whomever has to deal with my remains to incinerate, mix ashes with cat food and feed to stray cats. That will be about it.

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    1. That is odd Strayer. It is from an 1980s movie and I doubt anyone would be so bothered about geoblocking. I wonder why it is not blocked here? You are getting eaten by cats? Well, I guess it has happened before.

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