Thursday, December 10, 2015

Family gathering and Christmas approaches

R is so unsentimental at times and laughed at me when after we chose a Christmas card for Mother I said I teared up a bit when I read the words. It was a Happy Christmas Mum card and I can't remember the words now, but I translated them in my mind as, you are the centre of our family Christmas and once you have gone, things will change.

Indeed she is the centre of our Christmas and always has been and the day will come when she is no longer around.

We had a final family get together before Christmas for ABI Brother's birthday last Sunday. Mother and Tradie Brother, Fire Fighting Nephew and now Fire Fighting Niece too, at opposite ends of the state. FF Nephews partner, Sister and Little Jo and of course R and myself. Sadly one niece and 21 month old Little M could not make it but we had a nice time. Mother's legs looked very marked. Why wasn't she wearing her hose? She had only taken to wearing hose when she stopped using Coppertop fake tan on her legs.

I don't think I have ever seen peacocks on a Christmas tree before. Prahran Market courtyard.



Our building's Christmas tree.


Apparently there are some religious connotations to Christmas, but don't worry about that. It is a great time to catch up with family and friends. 

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  1. The hospital where I volunteer is so heavily decorated for Christmas that I have to duck and weave to avoid being knocked down by 'baubles, bangles and beads'.

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    1. Victor, institutional Christmas decoration is seldom known for its lack of quantity. Style? That is another matter.

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  2. Perfect timing. I wrote this thought down this morning in response to a woman who will be lonely on Christmas - her sisters all have partners and children, and she is alone.

    "It is a real issue. When my grandmother was alive and fit, all the children and grandchildren went to her place for all religious festivals (we Jews have a LOT of religious festivals). When grandma died, her three adult daughters and 9 teenage grandchildren had to make other arrangements..... and that strong sense of family unity never returned."

    Of course that is the natural life cycle; the oldest generation fades and the new babies arrive. But if your mum is the centre of your Christmas and always has been, it will be the end of a special era when she is no longer around.

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    1. Thanks Hels. I have reassuring thoughts. Someone will take on the role of the permanent organiser of Christmas. Maybe my oldest niece, who has a partner, child and another on the way. Newphew and his partner might have but as she is Jewish, I can't see her embracing the role as Christmas hostess. Time will tell.

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  3. I don't go anywhere for Christmas since I just have my brothers and they do other things. But I usually put up a tree, tie it out three directions to save it from the cats, and send off a few cards, at least. It is hailed so as a family holiday that it can be tough for people without family to get through sometimes. Hopefully someone will step forward as the next "head of Christmas" for your family.

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    1. All good Strayer. Great that you put up a tree. Btw, your card has not arrived here as yet. Our postal service is not very good.

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  4. Peacocks on a Christmas tree? Hmmmm, perhaps if they were smaller, they might look alright.
    Your building's tree looks lovely, very sparkly.
    I always read the written words inside cards before I choose them, they're usually too mushy when they're specific "mum" cards. I could never send anything like that to my mum, we just weren't the mushy kind, although she probably wished I'd loved her more than I did.

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    1. River, aren't peacocks on a tree a bit weird? We take great care with words on cards and I would never send a sloppy and sentimental card to anyone, least of all Mother. Any card that says Best Mum in the world, or Kindest Mum in the World is out.

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  5. Wonderful you could get together.
    Verses in some cards can be tear jerkers.
    We were lucky, we all got to spend Christmas with my dad before he died as we did with mum...but one son, wife, little ones. Christmas is always spent at my house, has been for years.
    That's a lovely tree.
    I'm having two trees at home :) why two? One for lounge room, one for family room, that way the two rooms that people sit in will fill more like Christmas. I love Christmas.

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    1. Margaret, are you sure you are not a gay man in a woman's body? Two Christmas trees sounds excessive. Long may you provide Christmas dinner for family. It is a nice family time of the year.

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  6. Lovely that you could get together.
    Since my mama died, difficult as she was, Christmas has become a half-hearted affair, and we rarely manage to all get together.
    And I can only apologise for the images of my wallow that I planted in your head. Is it any better to consider it an in the dark wallow?

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    1. EC, you have convinced me of something. No matter what it costs me, I will ensure we all get together at Christmas, even if I have to pay a restaurant or pub bill. The cost will come off their inheritance anyway. Friends come and go. Family is an obligation. You could be the one to get family together for Christmas.

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  7. Andrew I love family gatherings Your Christmas silver tree is nice

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    1. Gosia, no doubt in your quite religious country, Christmas is a big deal. Does your family get together for Christmas?

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  8. Absolutely agree Andrew. As a non religious person the highlight of Christmas for me is definitely the gathering of family.. especially as a certain little granddaughter is coming over from Sydney.. can't wait:)

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    1. Yes, you must be so looking forward to the visit by your granddaugher, and of course you son and DiL. Time to get onto your red haired one about a local grandchild.

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  9. It's good that you get together as a family. While I'm not sure about the peacocks Andrew, I do approve of your lobby tree - very tasteful and glittery. Neither of us are big fans of Christmas and when we lived abroad, away from immediate family, it was easy to have "Christmas light". Now we're here for my Mum I decorate sparingly, do have a tree and have family for dinner on the day. But I could do without it and would rather be by a warm pool somewhere sunny!

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    1. Thanks Craig. We have often threatened to be away for Chirstmas but never achieved it yet. Warm here is the last thing we want as we hoe into a hot Christmas dinner.

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