One woman is murdered every week in Australia as a result of domestic violence. I understand this year the trend is to two per week. The figure is rising. A hugely disproportionate number of these victims are Aboriginal.
The statistics of women with acquired brain injuries as a result of domestic violence is equally damning.
The figures for the US may be similar but I don't believe they are as bad in the UK. There is something about men in the UK that is different.
Two personal anecdotes, one of which I have recounted before.
At work there was a Mauritian couple. She was a big lass and he a skinny little short runt. I inquired from another male work mate from the same country why Rhonda had a black eye. Joseph gets drunk and often beats her up, was the reply. Given their size difference, it was hard to imagine. I asked him, why doesn't the Mauritian community intervene and stop it? He gave a kind of a shrug of the shoulders. Rhonda was a medical basket case and recently died. It was really so hard to offer Joseph my sympathies given I knew the history from years ago.
Next door to my grandparents a wealthy Eastern European couple moved in, with two young children. He was a good bit older than her, and she was a very attractive woman. One night there was a terrible row next door, as the young me and my siblings heard. Mother was telling her parents it was violent and they should call the police. No, they replied. It is not our business and we don't want to be on bad terms with neighbours. We are not going to interfere in private family business.
I can remember Viktor's words vividly. 'You are so beautiful but you will not be any longer'. Had Mother's parents called the police, Helena may not have had her face scalded by hot oil. I don't know why, but for some reason the scarring was not too bad on her face, the worst on her neck and quite visible.
So what to do in such situations? The latter, yes call the police. I really don't know. I just remembered their family name. What were the children's names? I can't recall so I can't google them.
What I do know is, don't turn a blind eye to what is happening because you are a coward. Speak up and speak loud about violence within families.
It is to my terrible shame that my country has such a problem.