Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Your secret internet exposure

Don't worry, I am not asking what you look at on the internet but I am curious about how many of you, especially with a partner/husband/wife but even family,  know if you blog and if so, do they read you blog, and if so, do they criticise what you write? And what do they think of your blogmates?

Am I referred to as 'that old poofter/fag in Melbourne' by someone's partner? I care about being old more.

I am really interested to know what you share.

For the record, R knows I have a blog, obviously as we or I have met people through my blog. Just today I showed him an Instagram photo of Kath in Geneva who I think does some organising for a junior Eurovision. You remember her R. I've mentioned her before. Lived here in Kensington and moved to Geneva. The photo was with her boss and our Eurovision commentator Julia Zemiro.

Again today another blog mate arose when I told R I had seen the bloke in the city who used to have the cafe in Prahran. I told him something and he asked how I knew? Ah, that must be from Fen. I've told him many times about Fen, but she does not stick in his brain.

I didn't finish the 'for the record'. R read my blog at the beginning but remarked that he did not agree with my recollections of life and once even criticised me for what I wrote. I replied, fine, don't read it then and he said fine, I won't. But he did make a remark recently and I realised he could only have known that from my blog. I asked, why to you ask? No reason, he replied. Apart from one very long term friend, Our Friend in Japan, no other friend or family of mine knows or reads my blog. It does give me somewhat of a luxury in what I write but I do keep in mind one day, a friend or family may stumble across it and put two and two together.

So, to repeat after waffling, does your partner, your family, your children or the whole world read your blog?

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  1. My kids read it now and then which is ok but some other in law relatives read it to see what I am doing!!

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    1. As you said Fun60. I reckon the in laws think you are crazy but are envious of what you do while they stay home and sip endless cups of tea. That's just a guess, of course.

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  2. Andrew, my husband and daughter know I have a blog but they don't read it because they think it is onl;y my cup of tea.Sometimes I talk about my bloggeres friends they are interested but it is my hobby...not theirs..

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  3. I almost blogged about this topic on the weekend. Nobody I know reads my blog ~ but in case they ever do, I am always conscious as I write about tone and inference, not to offend anyone I write about.

    We all have different versions of events ~ that is natural ~ we are different people. Fortunately I have my sister to remind me of my forgotten teenage years ~ I remember broad events but not details.

    It is nice when we get to know our blogging friends well enough that their contributions are a highlight of our day.

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    1. Carol, I am not bad now, but I have said some rather extreme things about family in the early days of my blog. I agree about looking forward to reading blog friends posts.

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  4. My partner knows I blog, but doesn't read it as far as I know. Some of my family ditto.
    Which suits me just fine.

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    1. EC, hard to know why people would not be interested in your blog.

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    2. Perhaps because I am usually dull.

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    3. Hardly. You would not be so loved as you are if you were so dull.

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  5. I'm so relieved to know that I'm not alone! Clive knows that I blog and I sometimes mention something about one of my posts or another I have enjoyed. But he doesn't read it and has no interest in doing so. It's fine by me, but I thought I was in the minority!

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    1. Craig, seems you are not alone.

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  6. As a familyless orphan - don't cry for me - all I can contribute to this is that I have never mentioned to friends that I blog. If anyone of them has stumbled across it, then they have never given me any indication of doing so.

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    1. Victor, I don't recall you ever be unkind but there have been a couple of times when you have been a bit honest, so probably best to keep your friends' names as initials. I am AC, btw. Oh, too late.

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  7. Spouse, son, don't. Others do. I've had other blogs that are anon.

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    1. Susie, I don't get why people close to you would not read what you post.

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  8. No one in my family reads my blog. My sons wouldn't bother, their wives not interested, inlaws not interested. Husband shows a little interest but doesn't read unless i say 'come look at this'....i tell him that people put comments on my blog & i tell him what country they come from, he never forgets. If I'm fortunate enough to meet a fellow blogger he comes along and enjoys as much as i do....

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    1. Margaret, works well for you then.

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  9. My blog was originally begun for farflung family and friends who were concerned about my body's stupid illness tricks, and so my daughter could have access to my recipes at any time. Most of my family and a significant portion of the Great Scot's follow the blog... not entirely sure why, since I have one of the most boring lives, ever. (Not looking for reassurance, it is what it is, lol.) Former schoolmates, friends of my parents, etc... etc... poke their heads in from time to time as well.

    I only self-edit to the extent of keeping other people's privacy firmly intact, and not discussing my own religious beliefs or lack thereof. Those things I share with very few.

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    1. Oh, and the Great Scot reads my blog every day, as do some of his workmates... and some of the blogs I follow, he likes to read on occasion as well. I've never heard him use a phobic term for anyone; prolly one of the reasons I'm really quite fond of him.

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    2. Wow Jac, you have a big readership of people you know, the largest I should think.

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  10. The Golfer knew I started a blog on a different platform many many years ago but hasn't remarked on it since then. From comments ( hints) made I believe one of our girls drops in now and again but has never actually let on - same as I've never let on I know she does. (Too involved to relate how I know). As far as anyone else is concerned I don't think so.
    The blog is my little corner of the world - close to but far way from life. I can talk about whatever I want with feeling, no lies are told as that would get one into awful trouble if found out. I may have to spill the beans sometime as I want to meet a blogger in Hawaii when we are there next year also in San Diego before we cruise.

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    1. Cathy, you can just say 'someone I came across on the net' when you broach the subject of the meeting.

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  11. Ken blogs, of course, and we read each others' blogs, searching for typos. It's good to have an editor. One of my aunts reads my blog every day, so I must keep it clean and tidy. :)

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    1. Walt, that amuses me greatly about typos. I understand your point about your aunt and the bigger picture but I don't think we should de-sexualise ourselves either.

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  12. As I've said many times, only the elite still blog, the rest drivel away at Farcebook. None of my family know what a blog is and my sister has just connected to the internet. The only browser I have will be Asio filling up my file with comments about "let them eat cake" Hockey and the Mad Monk.
    In the good old days, we used to have grogblogs, great way to met the writers for an hour or two and then be on our way.

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    1. Jah Teh, I remember a couple of the grog blogs you attended and I still have the photos. It is ok, I am discrete. No-one will see what you did.

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  13. My second ex knows about my blog, but he doesn't have a computer, so doesn't read it and has mentioned that he wouldn't anyway; he doesn't want to invade my privacy. His words. My family know but only my younger daughter reads and very rarely leaves a comment.I mentioned it in conversation at work a couple of times but no one picked up on it or asked for details so clearly they aren't interested in blogging.
    I miss Kath, she only puts things on Facebook now where I'm not signed up and never will be. she's very busy with the Eurovision juniors now.
    I have 180 followers according to my sidebar, but only about a dozen regular commenters.

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    1. River, so you are still in touch with your 2nd ex. Funny how you get to know so much about people over a long period of them blogging. I too miss Kath. She was a good and fun read. FB is a poor substitute.

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    2. He phones me when he is overly stressed and I talk him down off the edge. He lives close enough to visit, but doesn't.

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    3. Never ever did I think River was boring.

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  14. I have a daily photographic blog so maybe that is perceived differently by rellies but my extended family check it out regularly, most daily but rarely leave comments. They prefer to email or text me. Whereas bloggers leave comments, non-bloggers don't. I love that rellies enjoy my blog.

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    1. CM, great that you entertain family, but then you are not too controversial. Some people have a real aversion to writing a comment on a blog post.

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  15. Not only do my family not know about my blog, but obviously, they do not know about my internet persona Snoskred.

    For safety and security reasons I chose very early on to not use my real name on the web, and when I got into scam-baiting the Nigerian scammers, I was very careful to keep a protective arms length from my home life, being very careful about what photos I posted, etc.

    I am a little more relaxed about it these days. At the start of this year I thought I would like to give my sister the URL of my blog but I thought I better go back and check everything I'd posted on my blog first to remove anything about her. That is no easy feat when there were over a thousand posts. I've decided not to give her the URL after all because I realised I just want to keep things separated. But I am glad I went through all my old posts! There are many memories there.. :)

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    1. Snoskred, at times I imagine giving my blog url to my family members, and they would hungrily hunt through it to find which person they are anonymously referred to as. In my dreams. They would not be interested. It may be the same with your sister, but nevertheless, I think you were right not to give it to her. Your husband?

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    2. He is my tech guru and helped me do the blog design.. :) Bit hard to hide it from him.

      The reality is he is the only person who sees 100% of me anyway, so it is cool.. :)

      My parents - hell no. There is one other real life person who knows about my blog and that is my oldest nephew. Not sure if he reads it or anything, but I gave him the URL in case he wanted to. :)

      Back in the early days of blogging I did meet some fellow bloggers in person, and I'd be happy to do that again, if the opportunity arose.

      I think at the moment I would prefer your dreams to mine - i dreamed I got a nasty anonymous email the other night. It was super weird and I was convinced it had happened, until I was unable to find the email the next day. :)

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  16. My beloved reads as many historical journal articles as I do, although our areas of interest are slightly different. I tend to focus on Western and Central Europe, Britain and the old Empire. He tends to read Eastern European history, Israel and the Middle East.

    As far as I know, we are the only two to read the posts, before I press Publish.



    Everytime he finds a topic I would love for the blog, he sends me the raw material. If I run with the topic,

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    1. Hels, yours is somewhat collaborative then. Should he get a mention? With the assistance of ...

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  17. Yes, I am an open book. My mother says I exaggerate when I tell about her. In face, I hold back. My husband loves it and will only tell me if I've gotten a bit of trivia wrong so I can correct the information. Otherwise, he only praises me and also understands that it's mine and my right to see and say things however I like. Admittedly, I do hold back somewhat. I'll tell truths about myself but not about specific friends and family if it could hurt them.

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    1. Mitchell, we hold back in some ways at times. I used to love having a go at SUV drivers in the early days of my blog. Now everyone is driving one, so I can't do that anymore. Good that Jerry reads yours.

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  18. Great post! Most people I know read my blog. My husband also reads it and gets a big kick out of seeing posts about our trips.
    Some family read it. I feel like they are lurking at times.
    What bugs me is that none of them ever comment unlike other bloggers.

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    1. Jackie, at times I have refrain from saying too much in a comment. Some people just don't seem to like writing.

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  19. P.S. an English blogger sent me a link to this today.
    http://www.thetravelmagazine.net/travel-guide-toronto-top-ten.html

    The Arthur Conan Doyle collection and Post Office museum were new to me.

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    1. Thanks. I will take a look.

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  20. My wife reads my blog - and the unofficial proof reader. Occasionally I'll receive a nonsensical text message from her, that is actually something I've written but which makes no grammatical sense.

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    1. Marcus, I saw you mention that elsewhere. We are on own harshest critics and those closest to us are the next.

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  21. No family close, one brother knows but thinks its silly. The other just doesn't care much for online stuff. I have friends who know and read it and that's fine.

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    1. Strayer, do your friends ever comment?

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  22. Hi Andrew

    I am very late to this party. Sorry - otherwise occupied.

    I'm one for pseudonyms, always have been. I recently discovered a clutch of articles I had written in the late 70s under a pen name. The internet is marvellous for stitching a shadowy life together.

    The only people I know who read my blog these days are other bloggers. I am especially glad that I chose to go deep cover when I moved to wake-in-fright rural Australia. I am now totally fictional, living in a made-up town with invented co-habitants.

    I'm currently gripped by Karl Ove Knausgaard's novel-slash-memoir series. I have a sense that our virtual and fictional selves will some day be forced to merge and that Heidegger might have been right about at least something.

    xxx

    Pants

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    1. Pants from Larrikens End and pseudonyms? Sorry, you are not the real Pants from LE? I am rather fond of Pants from LE. Btw, it was after I read your post that I found out exactly what Kock, sorry, Koch did. That I don't know how to spell his name is surely to my credit.

      With a close friend who had a heart transplant, you can imagine my view.

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  23. Yup my famille do read my blog, my two sisters in law are on the phone pronto if I dare miss a day :) Aimee, yes.. Dave and family in Sydney, yes.. I think it keeps them in touch with home . P often comes out with me when I'm after a shot.. It totally makes my brother in law's day if I make an error, and he can point it out :) It always amazes me how many people who live in Perth read it.. they live here for goodness sake!

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    1. Grace, you must be quite well known in Perth. As I think I have suggested before, people probably nudge each other when they see you out and about with your camera, especially if Aimee is with you.

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  24. *pout*
    I don't stick in his brain?
    DAMMIT
    I'm going to have to come visit, then he may remember me!!

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    1. He does not know how interesting you are Fen. I don't want to frighten him.

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