Monday, September 22, 2014

A bit more on our friend

Our Brother Friends were born minutes apart. Read into that what you will. One complained of backache for several weeks. Doctor visits, physiotherapy and any other treatment did not help. They are always terribly good at not telling us things and we refuse to ask things. Isn't it so pathetic that men in their fifties and sixties still play such silly games?

They have been our friends for thirty plus years but it has been somewhat fractious of late. R and one of the Brother Friends have issues. I've mentioned it in the past. I don't really understand the issues. No one seems to ever challenge me directly. The do R. I think it is that they see that R cares more. He is the one more likely to talk, to take offence and be more emo. Me? I am a hard case, apparently, and immune from attack. 

Pretty well the friendship was coming to an end. Brother Friends spend months living in Thailand in preparation to them moving there. It has been their ten year plus dream they have been working towards.

So the less emo Brother Friend with the 'back ache' has leukaemia.  Not curable, but treatable.

He another statistic as a person who had a good diet, never smoked and never drank.

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  1. That happens at our age, more and more friends are getting ill. It is sad. You do talk in riddles sometimes.

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    1. Diane, we kind of went through that when were younger and friends and acquaintances died from HIV. There is a word I don't want to mention. It begins with t and ends in n. So, it is quite likely that the other may be predisposed to the same thing.

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  2. So sorry to hear this Andrew. It really doesn't matter what our current status is with long time friends, this is never the news you want to hear.

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    1. No Grace, it is not what we wanted to hear. His brother is caring for him, of course, but it has been hard on him too, with the house sale approaching. He is pretty fragile about it all.

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  3. You make me laugh when you write "that men in their fifties and sixties still play such silly games" I can assure you it's only the start and it's getting worse, lol !
    I always say, live unhealthy and you will become 100 !

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    1. Oh dear Gattina, I thought when people became older they became more sensible. Unhealthy people don't live to be one hundred very often, but they are often happier people.

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    1. Gosia, it is sad. We hope for a good outcome.

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  5. That's so scary and depressing. Sorry : (

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    1. Dina, we hope it will turn out to be an uplifting story. Fingers crossed.

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    2. Yes, hopefully!

      I actually misread what you said (sorry!) and thought you wrote that it was uncurable and untreatable. So it did seem hopeless to me.

      I'm very glad to know I got it wrong.

      And I agree with you. Let's hope it's an uplifting story. I love uplifting hopeful medical stories.

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  6. Very sorry. Feeling depressed myself. Friends could not find job here due to cut in research funding, so moved whole family to Prague, 5 year contract for both. 1 year in, 15 yo daughter diagnosed with lymphoma, treatment exhausted private insurance, not entitled to their health care system, too sick to fly back. We had a fund raising, managed to pay for 1 st course of chemo, which went well. Started 2nd course of fund raising, and chemo, she has been in coma for 1.5 months, not induced, adverse reaction to chemo. Sigh. Such is life....

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    1. Thanks MM. That is an awfully sad tale. It is worse when it is someone young who is just beginning their life.

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    2. We all cried today, The $41K we raised through public donation for the chemo couldn't save her.
      The doctors had given up. Now praying for a miracle.

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    3. Pray for better outcome for your friend.

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    4. Is bone marrow transplant an option?

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    5. That's truly awful MM. Fate can be very cruel at times. Probably undergo chemotherapy. Early days yet. Tests still being done.

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  7. Lifestyle, good diet, no smoking or drinking, has no impact on Leukemia. It hits anybody. Any age. My sister was friends with a girl in school, who died from Leukemia aged 12.

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    1. River, I think one of my grandfathers died from Leukemia many years ago. I assumed lifestyle was involved. But you are quite right.

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  8. Meant to say I'm sorry to hear the news.

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  9. That is sad news indeed. Perhaps it is time to put disagreements to one side and show how friendship can be a comfort and strength when times are difficult.

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    1. Thanks Fun60. R and the non ill friend today pretended there were no issues. While R has to put up with me, I rarely ask anything of him, but I did ask him to go to the auction, and that was before we knew how unwell one of them was.

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  10. Yeah, it doesn't discriminate does it? Hopefully it will have a good outcome x

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    1. Yep Fen. Our treasured public health system has kicked in well and he is getting good care.

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  11. That isn't good news then. I am with you about the statistic, it happens so often...

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    1. WA, as they say, it is all in the genes. Some of us make poor lifestyle decisions, without repercussions.

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  12. So sad to read this. I hope that by treatable the doctor means he can live quite a while with it.

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    1. Keith, I expect that is what is meant. We should know more in a couple of days.

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