Saturday, August 02, 2014

Relationships, who needs them

Where'd it go?

My wise readers have convinced me that my post about family and friends' relationship problems was a little too frank and may have personal repercussions, so I have removed it. My apologies to those who have commented already as your comments now have no context.

If I know you by reading your blog and you commenting on mine, you can email me at ripppon @ yahoo.com for a copy.

29 comments:

  1. My father used to " pucker up" to any attractive woman at every 1970s party... It was sort of accepted then

    I take it the daughter was a step daughter?

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  2. Through personal experience I forgot to add.... Be careful with this post,...it's strange how easily things can be unearthed by the wrong people
    Believe me.........

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    1. Yes JG I concur. From experience. My humourless daughter found a harmless post of mine and we have not spoken for years. my blog is now only read by people I have invited.
      Andrew if she googled "maori*mormon" you would be sunk (see how I put that asterisk to befuddle search engines?) You are right about her needing someone different though. Your persuasion thinking she was a bit 'Venus arising from the sheets' was my clue.

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    2. John and Ann, I did plan to 'disappear' the post after a day or so. Maybe I will do it sooner.

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  3. Oh dear. I am so sorry for them all. It is frightening just how quickly things can go pear-shaped.

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    1. Yes EC, from almost perfect.

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  4. Andrew, relationships between people sometimes are very difficult and so strange. Sometimes relations in families are worse than among friends. But all depend on personality and social environment.

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  5. Oh what dramas Andrew. Just as well they don't know about your blog or there would be a few choice words coming your way.

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    1. Fun60, maybe I was a little too frank, but it how I see it as I write, complete with emotion. As above, the post will disappear soon.

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  6. Families - who needs them :). They are what makes the world go round. Sometimes the problems of those nearer and dearer than blood families can affect us more than we like to acknowledge. Here's hoping all their troubles will be sorted one way or the other - soon.
    Have to agree with the Welshman about what we think are opinions voiced far away from others - I thought an earlier blog of mine was 'secret' but discovered otherwise.
    Cathy

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    1. Cathy, I can only no family member has come across my blog because they don't seem to do more on the net than Face Book.

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    2. Families... who needs them indeed? Just about everyone, alas. It would be a sad, cold old world if we couldn't largely rely on family members.

      That is not to say that everyone doesn't have an uncle who drinks too much and ruins your family get togethers. Or a brother who won't take his share of the care of very elderly parents. But hopefully we get on with most of the family, most of the time.

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    3. Hels, generally our respective families are pretty good, especially mine, and all get along. Talking of mine, it is something I am very pleased about.

      I note there may be some personal experiences in your comments.

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  7. the drunken kissing needs to be forgiven and put behind them. it meant nothing.
    The Demon Drink makes a lot of trouble.

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    1. Ann, that is as I thought. Anger and hurt, followed by apologies and then some understanding and forgiveness........and threats that if it ever happens again!!!

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  8. 1. Take it down soon, A!
    2. Relationsihip advice is sooooooo dangerous - most of all when you give advice to someone whose relationship is not going well and then they not only stay with the person they were complaining about but somewhere along the way (possibly in the course of another row, when they say "X says") tell that person what you said.

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    1. Marcellous, how does it feel to be the straw that broke the camels back. You have convinced me to remove it.

      I was quite careful with what I said to my niece. I did not criticise him, in fact expressed that we liked him as a person. I think the worst I said was that she needed a different sort of relationship to what she had been in, note had as it has finished, just not as clean cut as it seems she would like it to, to allow her to develop a new relationship with a new person.

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  9. If that post was between this one and the Quick Friday Extra, then I missed it. I tend to turn off and go to sleep now and again. I even lock away the laptop so I don't sleep-type :)

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    1. Well, this is the post. It is just the text that is missing. Would you like me to email it to you River?

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  10. No need Andrew, I got the gist via the comments and really don't need to know the whole story.

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    1. River, it is funny how the post is almost told in the comments, but without specific details. Sunday Selections tomorrow. A happier place.

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  11. Well, I wish you had not succumbed to pressure and taken it down but like River I got the gist. I like it when people say what they think and are frank about it, even if it is about family. I've always thought families are such a totally dysfunctional unit that they must have been originally created by people as a means of control of the masses, but this is coming from someone who had a bad family life. All looked great on the outside but inside, well I need not go there. :)

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    1. Rubye, as a long time reader of yours, I think you have said enough over that period for me to get an inkling of your early life. I am not sure the western concept of the nuclear family is a good one.

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    2. Christianity has done this country no favors.

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    3. Rubye, I agree, but doesn't that go for most religions? So much world trouble seem to arise from religious zealots.

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  12. Twas still in my reader in its original form.
    Nonetheless, I am awful at relationships and much better off being single so I can't break myself.

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    1. Yep Fen, I knew that would be the case. Nothing on the net ever disappears, but it was perhaps good that I pulled it, maybe....

      You are not awful at relationships. You haven't found the right one.

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