Saturday, July 19, 2014

Stress

The stressful time at work has moderated and things are much better now and so am I. Stress can do terrible things to you, even perhaps changing your personality.

I recall the day we bought our house in Rosamond Street,  Balacalava. Afterwards we went out for a slap up lunch, at the Hawksburn McDonalds, ho hum. There were maybe six of us and we just weren't getting served. I suppose it was some sort of stress release after buying the house, but at the top of my voice, I demanded service. The restaurant went silent. We were served promptly. The people I was with to the last looked very embarrassed and remained silent.

Such behaviour is very out of character for me. While I am not the type to suffer in silence, nor am I the type to raise my voice. I like to the think I go about things quietly and effectively. Voice raising seldom helps any situation. While we did immediately get served, I had embarrassed the people I was with, made people eating there uncomfortable and I ultimately felt quite foolish.

So was it stress release related behaviour? I don't recall feeling better afterwards. Very odd business, really. Never happened since.

Promise there will be something cheerful for Sunday.


26 comments:

  1. Ouch. I can remember being in a restaurant with a friend. The service (and the food) was less than stellar. My friend made SUCH a scene that I wound up giving an enormous tip. Cringing.
    And yes, stress and worry can make truly unpleasant people of us. And I am glad you haven't had a stress related explosion since that time.
    I am glad that your work stress is easing.

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    1. EC, our friend quite often embarrasses us in the same manner. We all cringe too and are usually extra nice to staff to make up for it. For me it was a one off, a mental snap.

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  2. Andrew, So nice to hear you are feeling better now. You are right stress can definitely devastate our life and personality. And what's more raising the voice is not the solution of problem. So have a nice Sunday, And I am waiting for cheerful Sunday with your blog.

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    1. Thanks Gosia, Sunday is not too grand, but just a bit lighter.

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  3. Ooops I feel for your embarrassed friends. Stress can do funny things to one's personality. I tend to get forgetful and dithery if stressed.

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    1. Diane, R makes me stressed and dithery when he gets stressed and anxious. There are things in life to get stressed about, but day to day stuff should not be a part of that.

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  4. Having a 'raving lunatic' moment once in a while is perfectly normal.

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    1. AdRad, you confess to having the odd one?

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  5. Table service?? At Macca's???
    Unheard of in my lifetime.
    What kind of posh restaurants do they have at Hawksburn?
    every Macca's I know has counter queues where you order and get your food, then move to a table.

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    1. River, we weren't at a table, just standing waiting to be served. I clearly gave the wrong impression.

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    2. Perhaps I read it wrong.

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  6. Stress does make you do things that you would not normally do but bad service just pushes you over the edge.
    As far as I know there is no places in Nsw where Macca's does table service all I've ever seen them do is wipe the tables.
    Merle...........

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    1. Merle, see above. You are fortunate to know of a Maccas where they wipe tables.

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  7. Glad you didn't tell me this story before we met!

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    1. Indeed Fun60. It is as well that all service in London was most excellent and I could not find an occasion to turn like a mangy dog.

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  8. I'm wondering if you were also very hungry? That could have effected your behavior. Maybe your blood sugar was low or something.


    I'm guessing by "served" you mean them ignoring you when you're in line...at the counter?

    It can be really annoying to be ignored when you're standing in line. No, yelling isn't exactly an admirable behavior. But I agree with Adaptive Radiation. We all go a little crazy sometimes. You embarrassed your friends and probably startled the McDonalds workers...but other people have done a lot worse.

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  9. Wanted to add... when I say other people have done a lot worse. I'm not saying their worse behavior excuses your behavior. But if you're going to have a moment of stress/hunger induced temporary insanity, simply yelling is mild compared to hitting someone, shooting someone, stabbing someone, blowing up a building, etc.

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    1. Dina, I doubt it was hunger, just stress. I did not yell at anyone in particular. Given you queue at McDonalds, I don't know why we weren't being served. It was nearly twenty years ago and the details are hazy now.

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  10. I once created a scene at the Repulse Bay McDonalds in Hong Kong.

    It was about three minutes before their closing time by their own clock and there were no other customers present but the staff had put all the food away and cleaned up in anticipation of closing.

    I was so ravenous that despite my internal embarrassment I demanded they get their food out and fire up their equipment again to make me a hamburger. All the time pointing at their clock. They resisted strongly but my desperation was greater and eventually they caved in.

    I always blush at the memory.

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    1. Victor, it must something about McDonalds that sets us off.

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  11. Stress makes me not eat! I'm sure it makes me grumpy too. I hate feeling stressed.

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    1. Fen, does the opposite to me, I don't want to eat.

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  12. You just made me smile for the first time this week Andrew, I should have clicked here sooner :)

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  13. P.s. Not because you were stresses but sometimes these things can be funny after the fact oui :)

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    1. Grace, while it is a bit painful to remember, I can now see how ridiculous and absurd my behaviour was.

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