Monday, August 26, 2013

What's your history

I Facebooked my and R's ex. He has no internet presence. His younger brother does though. I mentioned this to R. R told me the brother was mega hung and liked to show it off. He would proudly get it out upon request and was always happy with the admiring remarks. We discussed it a bit and then R shut the conversation down stating that he was not interested to know, had no reason to think about it and he did not like to remembering things he would rather forget.

But it is your history, I argued. Don't care and don't want to remember, was reply. One of our ex Brother Friends was the same. When I found his ex had an internet presence on FB, the friend was just not interested in knowing anything. He had already stated the same when I used to see his ex out and about in town.

It is so curious to me. I don't flatter myself that I am an amateur historian, yet I am so interested in history. Historians have to verify constantly. I come at it from more a gossip angle.

It's all very well to say the past is the past, but it is history. Our history is what makes us what we are today. How can you ignore that and not be interested? Some of us inhabit a different planet.

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  1. R has my vote on this. History has already happened, I know what happened, and the what ifs or someone else's history that did not involve me are of no interest to me at all.

    There is no right or wrong on this, just different feelings, I think.

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  2. Yes FC, you are wise and intelligent and you are probably right. I know I am wrong as this post was supposed to be for Monday morning, the 26th, not a week ago.

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  3. Andrew I have often commented after Fruitcakes that they are always right on the money. Thinks like a good barrister. In this case though, there are different areas of history.

    Chicks with their breasts always hanging out are the same as this acquaintance of yours - if you've got it flaunt it, etc. The female advantage in this arena is our trade-off for guys being more easily able to piss on the move. God evens it all out.

    I can see where R is coming from though.

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    1. Ann, when you say piss on the move, do you mean literally? It is fraught with issues if you are walking. Not so bad if you are walking backwards.

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    2. you know I mean 'between appropriate facility locations'. !
      A good blogger I love is Daisy Deadhead who has just discussed a tranzgender who has had the globs removed and is now happy to go shirtless in hot weather. (actually that's pretty funny since tubby guys on Elwood beach have more fat in their manboobs that Gwyneth Paltry has in hers which she would legally have to cover).
      Get over to Daisy the Grateful Dead head and put in your 2c worth.
      Your longtime readers have all forgotten that a few years ago the NLA accorded your blog the distinction for excellence, of being archived for the national estate.
      I just know some of my comments will come back to haunt me. X X

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    3. Ann, imagine what there is to come back and haunt me! A bit less of the man boobs, if you please. You've reminded me, it must be nearly my blogaversary. Only nine years though. Biggie next year.

      I forget what she should be called, female I think, but born male, but I heard Sally Goldner on the radio talking about transgender matters this morning. Most interesting. I'll go and have a read of the link now.

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    4. Corrected link, http://daisysdeadair.blogspot.com.au/

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    5. Ann, it's a valid point. Of course I am lucky to be gay and see male chests any old time.

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  4. I'm quite happy ignoring a fair bit of my own history.

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    1. Block out the bad things River? I understand that and that is probably what it is all about.

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  5. Interesting to think about. I'm more like you. I often try to find people from my past online... not to reconnect, simply out of curiosity. But it's not always healthy to stir up that history or memories. Sometimes (often) I think R's approach can be much healthier.

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    1. Hi Mitchell. Yes, very much for me just curiosity.

      I think the blog jury agrees with you, but I like to remember my history. It wasn't always good, but it influenced the me today.

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  6. This reminds me about family histories in programmes like Who Do You Think You Re? The history they locate is reliably documented and sensibly analysed but it sometimes comes as a bit of a shock.

    I have two questions. 1. Do people realise that once they start digging, all sorts of crap can be exposed? Do they want to know that granny was pregnant at 16 or that their beloved grandpa was a gunrunner during WW1?

    2. Once a person receives all this unexpected historical material, how does he/she process it all? Do we rewrite family history, in light of the new data?

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    1. Fine questions Hels. You do have to be mentally prepared. Sister and I know a family secret that will probably die with us, although DNA tests would reveal all. I dislike the information not being passed on, but no good can come from people knowing.

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  7. I inhabit 'planet R' :))))

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    1. Hmmm Grace. You have a lot of history you would rather forget.

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    2. I would like to find out if I have any French 'connection' which would explain my affinity with all things French :)

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  8. Oh god, I love Facebook stalking. History is important as to who you are today even if it is all in the past...

    I have too much of an internet presence for my own liking. How does one get rid of things once you have a digital footprint I wonder?

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    1. M, a rhetorical question, I assume. You know you can't. However, I am not who I say I am. Highriser is an unlikely surname. If I google myself, there is my Facebook page and that is it.

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  9. I have to go with R too, except when told something about someone from my past I just give a whoopdi friggin doo.

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    1. Hi Pat. Welcome. It has been quite interesting that there has been general disagreement with my view. Ah well, I've always been a gossip.

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  10. A relationship with an ex is a curious thing. You loved them for a reason, presumably, so it makes sense to me you would still have an interest in them/something in common. I'm having lunch with mine this weekend. We broke up a decade ago, he's now engaged to a woman, and yet we still see each other all the time.

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  11. James, I thought of many considered reply responses, but really,you make me feel old, your last sentence especially.

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    1. It is thoroughly modern of course, but I don't get how one can swap preference from male to female, and maybe back again? Still, good that you remain friends with him.

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