Monday, February 11, 2013

My Town Melbourne

Lordy, a day when I have not posted anything and nothing scheduled for tomorrow. I must resort to what is already written but not finished. I can only think Kath must have been struggling a bit when I wrote this.

When I was younger, I thought when I stopped worked, I might live in somewhere like India or Thailand, where my money would go further and I could live a grand life style.

In later years, perhaps a place in Tasmania in summer where it is cooler, and a place in Queensland for winter, where it is warmer.

But you know, now, I could not leave Melbourne. I admire our friend V/Wombat who went to live and settled into a new life in Japan, but it is not for me.

For me to leave Melbourne would be cutting myself off from friends and family. Friends and family are problematic at times, as is Melbourne, but they are all parts of my life.  I could no more cut my self off from family and friends than I could Melbourne.

Melbourne is a large city by western standards and quite sophisticated, but without snobbery. Ok, she is not up there with London, Paris or New York, but hey, the weather is better.

Melbourne is my perfectly fitting glove, a place I know well, and knowing a place well gives you a lot of confidence. I know her roads, her trains, her trams, her buses. I don't have to think much to use any of them. No one can ever know all aspects of their city, but I have a good handle on many of them. Melbourne speaks to me and I know her language. She is also part of my family's history,  with our stamping grounds being from Brighton to Bentleigh, from Oakleigh to Richmond and from Camberwell to Kew.

It is my city and I love and hate her with equal passion.

Don't cry Kath. You'll be back one day. Enjoy your adventure while it lasts. Plenty of time for Melbourne in the future.

16 comments:

  1. Did you see the film The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel two years ago? It was about British retirees who had a similar dream to yours - to move to a cheaper country to live out their golden years in comfort and refinement.

    The film was excellent in its own right, but you might also love it for the questions it raises about leaving familiar homes, family and cities, and moving thousands of ks away.

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    1. I did Hels, and I am not blaming you for not remembering when I wrote about the movie, because I can't recall if I did, but I guess I would have. The film rather confirmed to me to stay put with the familiar. I have a camera course to enrol in when it will be far too late. I have local history to research. I can't do that from the gorgeously cool hills of Simla.

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  2. Yes Hels has made a good comparison. It was a good movie with laughs and a message. It is true that it is beneficial for old people to stay where they are comfortable and have a family and friend network, their doctors and hospitals.
    We have a dilemma. We feel about Brisbane like you do about Melbourne. We "know" our way around and have a network of friends and activities that we join in but when we can no longer look after our house and garden or ourselves......then what? I would like to be near my daughters. One lives in Sydney and the other in LA.

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    1. Diane, unintentionally, we set ourselves up for old age. I was only in my mid forties and R nearly a decade older when we moved to the Highrise. We had done gardens and renovations to death. Without being too specific about R's job, there is a plethora of services to support older people in their homes. It would be expensive to move to Sydney and live near your daughter. Surely LA is out of the question. If you feel like a true Brisbanite, swap your house for an apartment in town, but please, above the flood line. Get the location right. Older and not so flash place can be good.

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  3. Thanks, Andrew. You'll probably be pleased to know that, when homesick, I trawl through realestate.com.au to see where I could buy/live in Melbourne.... and South Australia. AND Port Douglas.

    Best go and buy a lotto ticket.....

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    1. Hehe Kath. Have a look at latest Block show being made now, in South Melbourne. You will have very sweaty pits in Port Douglas.

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  4. Family and friends; this is why I stay in Adelaide.
    I dreamed of retiring to places such as Cairns, Victor Harbor, Kangaroo Island, but I know that I wouldn't see enough of my family if I was so far away.

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    1. River, Victor Harbour is not so far away, and just because we had a magical winter day when we were there, I would strongly recommend it. You have a good place to live. You will be able to travel to Victor Harbour and Kangaroo Island. Forget about Cairns, too hot and sticky.

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  5. I've got UK friends coming this week and I'm looking forward to being touristy and showing them about. Melbourne is lovely mostly.

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    1. Fen, I was talking to a chap at work and he said how much he hates showing people around Melbourne. I love it. I have some pride in my city and gets you to places you don't normally visit.

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  6. The clan is already scattered from Freo to Sarsfield, from Biloela to Evandale. Melbourne friends would be easier to visit if it did not involve travel from Frankston to Melton or similar things.

    Aunty retired to the Gold Coast nearly 30 years ago, though her kids are all in Melb. She and uncle were busy and active for many years, but one by one all the friends they had made [and uncle himself] popped the clog. Long distance driving became harder, and being alone or too isolated is mentally unhealthy.
    Now she is in Frankston [a win/ win/ win situation], her kids are able to visit regularly, take her places etc.

    TO and I have some criteria in mind for downsizing - affordable housing [no stairs and not too much maintenance]; close to a decent hospital; a reasonable sized city with transport to capitals, libraries etc; and the house within scooter distance of essential shops like a supermarket, post office etc.
    Jindera is looking good.

    Melbourne is a glove that used to fit but after being away for some years it's a foreign country. The bits I was once likely to miss have already gone.

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    1. FC, your feelings about Melbourne are a bit sad.

      I have looked at where Jindera is and it no place for an old person. Well, maybe just not close to a hospital. I know in the free settler areas of western Victoria, old people are looked after well.

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    2. Partly, the idea is based on the quality of services at the Albury Hospital. A lot of TO's family are in that area, and [for now at least] Jindera is much much closer to Albury than FKN is to Melbourne.

      Sadly, Melbourne's inner suburbs are just a wee bit too pricey.

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    3. Ok, noted. Fortunately we bit the bullet in the early eighties and over extended ourselves to the point of begging from family, unsuccessfully, to buy a very modest one of a pair in East Malvern. We've wasted a lot by changing houses but once we were in the inner market, we were ok. Now how to turn concrete into spending money? Reverse mortgage of course, down the track. Sorry kiddies.

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  7. This is exactly how I feel about Perth Andrew, although if I won BIG lotto, I could be tempted by.....guess where??

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    1. Grace, might it be somewhere very cold in winter and very muggy in summer?

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