Our Brother Friends' friends from Thailand depart/have departed on Sunday. R met with them five times, myself four times. We had dinner at Crown one night, dinner at the Dick Whittington Hotel one night, met them for a barbecue at a friend's place another day and had dinner with them at our local pub tonight/Friday night. R also went with them to Puffing Billy.
They are ok guys. One is solid and all muscle and quite forward and is at home in any situation, the other, slim and petite, shy and given to reading his Buddha texts. In their own country they have little to do with each other, only coming together when our Brother Friends are in Thailand.
Their English is poor, but with simple clearly spoken words and hand gestures, communication is possible. As we discussed with another friend, how can you have a relationship with someone if you neither of you cannot speak the speak the same language? Given they have been our Brother Friends' partners for fifteen years, clearly it is possible.
One observation I will make, communicating with them does pass the time quickly. A simple remark might take a minute or more to explain before they understand. I did not always understand what they were saying, but I am used to that from heavily accented and/or poor English speakers at work. I seem to know where to appropriately insert a yes and a positive nod, and a no and a negative nod. Smiling gets you a long way too. I have managed this for many years.
The more shy of the two looked haggard and stressed when we met up with them early in their three week visit, especially at the Dick Whittington when he had to walk through a rambunctious crowd watching football on a big screen. One Brother Friend told me his partner was shaking, as anyone might when meeting ten of their friends. Bless.
But tonight for dinner at the surprisingly quiet local pub, just the six of us, he was much more relaxed and I could see the stress and tension had drained away.
They have seen some of our local areas, but little of the City. They have stayed a couple of nights at Mount Buller and a couple of nights at Phillip Island. The more outgoing is a fine cook and has enjoyed shopping for food and cooking and has now learnt about the need for separation of raw and cooked meat, and pork and beef and that tea towels are not for wiping your hands on after preparing meat unless you wash your hands first.
After the meal tonight, they came back to the Highrise for a Tim Tam and coffee/tea. They were not impressed by the views. Some people are blown away by the views, some don't notice them. No probs. They seemed to like our place well enough and I put the tv on to a football match and they chatted across our conversation about the football. I distinctly heard one say, foul, when something happened.
As we had heard so much about them before they came to Australia, nothing was really a surprise, but it was very nice to finally meet them.
The next time you hear about older gay white males who have younger Thai boyfriends, like about forty, don't rush to judgement.Commercial transactions can be a positive experience for all parties.