Our ABC Melbourne Radio's afternoon host Boring Burns was taking talk back this week about the Oscars or some film award thingie. I don't really care, but the question was asked who is hot in the movies. Well, I knew some of the suggestions. Straight girls were also calling in with who in the movies they had a girl crush on. A girl crush is not a lesbian thing. I can accept that. I admire women for their nice looks, the way they dress, their hotness. I get that. Just for once, the Burns woman was not disturbed.
But when straight blokes started calling in with who they had a man crush on, I was troubled. This is getting weird. I am feeling uncomfortable. I better take a look at Urban Dictionary in case I am misunderstanding what a man crush is.
'The highest tier of a man's love for another man, without having any sexual want towards the man.' But what if your man crush target desires you? Could you knock your man crush back?
'An intense infatuation of one straight man for another.' Infatuation can only be cured by one thing, a disappointing experience with the object of your desire.
There was a guy at school, in my time not a place to come out, who was a couple of years senior to me and I am pretty sure he was straight, yet he openly confessed to adoring David Cassidy and wanted to marry him. I too adored David, but I did not want marry him. Trying to make babies with him would have been good enough. Oh how I hungered for David, in the manner of adolescent school girl. I did not know what I wanted from him, I just wanted him and I would bear whatever he wanted to do.
Do I recall that it was either Nijinsky or Novello who had men and women falling at his feet?
Nah, I am not liking this man crush thing. Call me an intolerant old poof if you like, but either you lust after a guy or you don't. I'll wear that a bloke can hold another bloke in high esteem, but there are lines that ought not be crossed.