I can cope with overt homophobia much better than I cope with ever so subtle homophobia. I think one dictionary describes homophobia as 'an intense dislike of homosexuals'. Cool, I know where I stand with that.
It is the subtle casual remark or comment that gets me.
My workplace has various divisions. One is well known to harbour many homosexuals. I won't call him a workmate as he is no mate of mine, but in front of me he made an unpleasant remark about where he used to work, in the division full of homosexuals. Should I out myself and pull him up? I have in the past. I did not this time. His remark was mild but if he went any further, I had my hand on the trigger. It is not just about me. It is about the workplace. Some may call it political correctness gone mad, but you just can't make anti female comments, racist comments, anti religious comments and homophobic comments in public. I learnt my lesson at work. A standing joke among our friends is oh, Sunday morning, can't make it, church you know, or variations on that. How was I to know that the workmate I was speaking was actually going to church on Sunday morning.
I just advise str8 guys to make sure they are only talking to 100% heterosexual males when they make anti gay comments or jokes. These pooftahs are insidious creatures. They are everywhere in guises you may not recognise.
That is one thing and fairly personal and ever so minor. The next I am very annoyed about. There was a same sex marriage rally in the city. I was on a tram and an anonymous voice boomed out of the loud speakers from the tram control centre about disruption to the services.
Sometimes when I am on a tram I have heard the control centre mention who the demonstrating group is that is disrupting the tram service, but not always. Often it is just 'a demonstration'. It was not the words that I heard from the person at the end of the microphone. It was the verbal raised eyebrows. I feel like complaining to Yarra Trams. Maybe I will, maybe not. They ought to have a policy as to whether the demonstrators who disrupt the service are named and shamed. It they are to be named, it should be in a non judgemental manner, without any vocal inflexion.