I was very amused to recently learn the expression homo handshake. Jeb was talking about the matter of men trying to meet girls.
He said, Of course, it’d all never work in the gay community, and nor does it need to. You-know-what is virtually the homo handshake. Conversation comes afterwards!
Jeb is fairly well on the mark. The sex bit is expected and easy. The conversation and getting some other connection is the harder part. A connection between two gay guys stands or falls on the latter, not the former. Of course you do need to have had good sex, but there is almost close to a one hundred percent chance that you will get a bit on the side or a bit upfront in time, no matter how well you click.
Dearest young gay friends, I don't expect you to take too much notice of a jaded old queen such as moi, but if it is not you who plays around a bit in your relationship, it will be your partner. But here is where we gays can be superior. A bit of playing around does not mean you don't love the person you have committed to. Admit this and always play safe and gay people can re-invent relationships. After all, it is only what straights have been doing for a long time but are never honest about it. Relationships are not easy, but getting rid of petty jealousy over a bit on the side is a good start. Being there for the person is what is important along with keeping your mouth shut to friends or anyone.
Egad, that reads like an awful lot of self justification. It wasn't how this post was meant to be but it has been hanging around for a long time and I needed to finish it somehow.