You would think after being with someone for twenty six years that you would have had the hard stuff sorted out. Seems not sometimes. Relationships are hard work. Show me the life long devoted couple who have never had issues and I will point you to some liars.
So if you think you have failed in a relationship, don't blame yourself too much, nor the other person. Long term relationships are just hard.....rewarding for sure, but hard. Of course the perfect response is 'well if you love someone.......'.
It is not that easy.
Everything you do will be judged by the other person, every action, right down to the last minute detail.
So before you do anything, absolutlely anything, consider your partner.